I am just looking for advice. I am a 46 year old US citizen. I met my wife in the Dominican Republic and married her and brought her here. Her 18 year old son was not able to eat well and was skinny as a bone and so I helped to get him a Visa. He came here and would only argue, scream, yell, complain about me, he broke 2 doors in the house, he would not work even though I got him a work permission from immigration, would sleep with music blasting. FLunked all of his classes in school, would stay on the computer talking to girls until 5 or 6 am and would miss church or be late for school because of this. Would argue with his mother. Picked his nose at my parents' house nonstop and I told him to stop and he proceeded to scream and say it is my body i can do what i want, it is mine, then started to try to push me to leave the room in front of his mother, my mother and my niece. Broke curfew and came home at 1130pm instead of 11am and then broke the door which costed a grand to fix because we were all sleep. Told me I am not his father many times even though he came on a visa for a son to reunite with his father and his biological father deserted him. Another day he broke another door because he opened the outer door and the wind blew and cracked the wood open that it was connected to. Then I told him not to do it and he said he would than I said no and then he argued. I told him to look for jobs and he said he would not and argued another. Just NONSTOP crap from him. He would come and go and do as he pleased and his mother would tolerate this. He came to church in a gangster styled ski cap and lost his temper when everyone said to remove it. ONe day, I put his clothes on the bed to wait to give him a lecture.... He came home and lost his temper, then I said let us talk. we went into the room and i said there are rules in this house. obey them or leave. i was in the doorway, he began to push me, i pushed back and said stay here. then he argued and pushed me again and proceeded to punch me. I am a blue belt in jiu jitsu and a black in karate and a former boxer and trained in 5 other arts. I took him down, trapped an arm and punched him in his teeth and elbowed him in the forehead since he was trying to punch me. Then I left him there. Then I stood up and seconds later he charged me and i had him in a choke. Then i let him up then he charged again and i choked him until he relaxed. He threatened to call the police and ran when i let him go. now he works in a barber shop with no license and does not liv ein the house and i want him to go back to the dr but his passport is lost. His mother and family there are pushing to try to get me to support him again and help him to stay in the usa but I keep saying no.