another canadian about to marry a dominican
im posting this just to simply get some opinions and advice. i am completly torn over what has arisen these past few months.
my story begins in april of this year (2009). my family and i decided to go for vacation to the dominican republic. on the first day of arrival and i mean very first thing... i met him. I was walking with my family to check the beach (we arrived late the evening before) and he was walking up with the rest of the reps or entertainment staff (who happen to be from the UK) and he grabbed me and started singing a lionel ritchie song (to the best of his ability....lol) i believe the title of the song is "hello" (??). he contiuned to chat with me when he had a moment whether i was alone or not. by mid week he was asking me to go to the club with him to hang out and spend time together.... i would always tell him yes i will go but then never show. i did that 2 days in a row cause i really didnt want to go out while i had my son with me (who is 7). by the 3rd day he was upset. he told me that both nites he was waiting for me, so yet again i told him i will go that evening. so after speaking with my cousin we decided "oh why the hell not, its our last nite here lets check it out". we went and it was quite fun i must say!! wow what a dancer he was, i was so impressed. anyway it got late and my cousin wanted to go, i told him this but he wanted me to come back to talk. needless to say i took my cousin back to the resort and i went back (which the club was kinda on resort grounds... playa dorada). we talked for awhile but then it started getting really late so i left, and thats when he put the moves on me, nothing forceful just a sweet kiss. the next morning i was departing back to canada and he pulled me aside to give me his email and cell number and to ask that when i get in to msg him so that he knew i got home safe. i did just that.
to make a long story short (kinda) we've kept in touch every day since then both with an even amount of calling from both ends. i have been back down to see him a few times since just for a few days here and there but unforturnatley a few weeks ago i caught him being unfaithful via facebook. well the other girl and myself began to exchange msgs and i found out quite a bit. this occured 1 week before i was to head down and marry him. yes that's right i was going to marry this man. once i found all of this out i told him i was no longer coming down to see him or marry him, the man went crazy, calling me, txting me, leaving voice mail msgs about how sorry he was and so on and so forth. my dominican man begged for me to still come just to have a talk with him and for us to forget about getting married but just to talk. i told him (after days and days of thinking) that i will come down to speak with him. as heartbreaking as it is.... i never got on the plane. i totally crushed this man so bad to the point where he's asked me to move there and forget about building a life in canada because since this has happened ive told him about all the stories and tricks im now being told about dominican men. this forum has helped with more info as well.
im just not sure if i should give him another chance, im so confused we have begun talking again and it seems like he really wants to fix things. i believe this only because if he was just out for papers why would he putting forth this much of an effort with me? i mean he meets thousands of woman, im sure theres another one out there that would do it, right?? maybe this is the real thing........ there are way more details but it would just make this that much longer.....lol wow i wrote this so fast, i hope it makes sense....
im posting this just to simply get some opinions and advice. i am completly torn over what has arisen these past few months.
my story begins in april of this year (2009). my family and i decided to go for vacation to the dominican republic. on the first day of arrival and i mean very first thing... i met him. I was walking with my family to check the beach (we arrived late the evening before) and he was walking up with the rest of the reps or entertainment staff (who happen to be from the UK) and he grabbed me and started singing a lionel ritchie song (to the best of his ability....lol) i believe the title of the song is "hello" (??). he contiuned to chat with me when he had a moment whether i was alone or not. by mid week he was asking me to go to the club with him to hang out and spend time together.... i would always tell him yes i will go but then never show. i did that 2 days in a row cause i really didnt want to go out while i had my son with me (who is 7). by the 3rd day he was upset. he told me that both nites he was waiting for me, so yet again i told him i will go that evening. so after speaking with my cousin we decided "oh why the hell not, its our last nite here lets check it out". we went and it was quite fun i must say!! wow what a dancer he was, i was so impressed. anyway it got late and my cousin wanted to go, i told him this but he wanted me to come back to talk. needless to say i took my cousin back to the resort and i went back (which the club was kinda on resort grounds... playa dorada). we talked for awhile but then it started getting really late so i left, and thats when he put the moves on me, nothing forceful just a sweet kiss. the next morning i was departing back to canada and he pulled me aside to give me his email and cell number and to ask that when i get in to msg him so that he knew i got home safe. i did just that.
to make a long story short (kinda) we've kept in touch every day since then both with an even amount of calling from both ends. i have been back down to see him a few times since just for a few days here and there but unforturnatley a few weeks ago i caught him being unfaithful via facebook. well the other girl and myself began to exchange msgs and i found out quite a bit. this occured 1 week before i was to head down and marry him. yes that's right i was going to marry this man. once i found all of this out i told him i was no longer coming down to see him or marry him, the man went crazy, calling me, txting me, leaving voice mail msgs about how sorry he was and so on and so forth. my dominican man begged for me to still come just to have a talk with him and for us to forget about getting married but just to talk. i told him (after days and days of thinking) that i will come down to speak with him. as heartbreaking as it is.... i never got on the plane. i totally crushed this man so bad to the point where he's asked me to move there and forget about building a life in canada because since this has happened ive told him about all the stories and tricks im now being told about dominican men. this forum has helped with more info as well.
im just not sure if i should give him another chance, im so confused we have begun talking again and it seems like he really wants to fix things. i believe this only because if he was just out for papers why would he putting forth this much of an effort with me? i mean he meets thousands of woman, im sure theres another one out there that would do it, right?? maybe this is the real thing........ there are way more details but it would just make this that much longer.....lol wow i wrote this so fast, i hope it makes sense....
