Well now I've had my wrists well and truely slapped ! I certainly didn't mean to offend any one ............ I was being a lazy typist. Oh and I haven't killed after 15 yrs so I think we could with stand any thing life throws at us !!
Na, HB was bringing up a good point of "pique" for those of us who have dominican blood, family, live here etc. I don't think it offended anyone Kitty!
To my point about a 3-month probationary period: It was from the heart. I have traveled a lot for work these past 13 years, and I have come to realize something: You always want to move to where you vacation (classic "grass is always greener"). Especially when the echanting sirens of the caribbean are calling. BUT recall, the Sirens were calling Odysseus to his doom.
It's a beautiful country here and the lifestyle has so many rewards. HOWEVER, your case is one of the most common. Not as common as coming here and "falling in love" with a local, but common nevertheless.
This is the thing: It is one of most difficult things to do ever. Uproot and move into a foreign culture. I don't know where I read this or who passed this along, but it goes something like this:
The stages of expatriation (NOT to be confused with the 4 stages of culture shock):
1) Romantic phase (1-3months): You just love it. it's all so new and beautiful and peachy
2) EVERYTHING GETS ON YOUR NERVES AND YOU ARE READY TO GO POSTAL.
3) Resentment: You start to dislike everything and everyone representing the culture. Badmouthing and nothing positive to say at all.
4) The Bail Out: Booking 2 one-way tickets to the homeland, never to look back.
That said, there are many that adapt, assimilate, accept, even begin to love. However, many of these types have established families along the way, and so goes the old saying: "Home is where the heart is"
Best of luck,
ERM