thanks to all for the support.. I know ( yet again) what I must do- cut the ties altogether.... but I still worry about one thing.. I am paying for the rent on their house.. I pay 2500 pesos a month for the house- in la Caleta.. they were living in a shack with 6 people- I felt I needed to do something... now I really need to stop but don;t know how.. I paid three minths updront a year last August , one to lawyer, two for security. Should I just tell him he has two months to look for a new place.? I tried to do this last time but they threw the kids at me again and I just couldn;t do it.. I am weak as you all by now have guessed......
amstellite: IMO
When we make mistakes we have to pay for them, either with money or tears (or both) in your case is with $cash...
If you care for them (Kids) get out of their lifes slowly ...(little by little)
1-Do not send money for Juanito's illness...(No-No_No)
2-Prepare them, so they know you won't pay the rent anymore. (give enough time for them to get a new place) because you are responsible for the actual place and you are the one who took them out of the shack.
3- and a sweet way, explain that you are not "Rockefeller" and you have your own bills to pay.
Good luck.