any advice on finding good dominican women?

[jmsunlinenet]

Maybe so, but...

What in the world - how retarded does this sound!! Do you rather a girl that avoided HAVING the kids OR ACTUALLY GIVING BIRTH instead??? What are you saying here? any Dimbat with any sense can catch a golddigger a mile away. If he gets with a single mom that has no job and no hope, thats HIS bad for not thinking of how she was getting by BEFORE HIM! So to me, your statement is redundant and plain STUPID because of what it implies.

BTW - many intelligent girls/women get caught out there with an unplanned pregnancy. Those are the ones that rise above, child and all... if you are smart, you dont leave your brains on the delivery table. Those are the women that end up raising doctors and lawyers inspite of their circumstances. We are also the women that finish college a few years later, but still DO THE DAMN THING!!!

... the fact is that if you are a gringo man in the DR, you can meet more girls who would like to be your girlfriend than you can shake a stick at.

However, these girls are much more likely to be from poorer families than from upper middle class families, and they will not be college educated.

Selecting girls who do not already have children is probably a sensible move, if only because there will be no issue of the father(s) and their family or families in the life of the family.

Of course many intelligent girls get caught with an unplanned pregnancy, but does that not indicate that they may lack life planning skills and impulse control? Can Professor Talldrink cite any evidence that doctors and lawyers come predominantly from single mother families, or that children of single mothers are more likely to enter higher professions?

All human beings are gold diggers to some extent, because when you marry you form a legal partnership that you hope will be mutually profitable, whether in emotional or financial terms, or both, according to what you want and need the most. The hard part is choosing a partner whose goals are congruent with yours.

 

[shadInToronto]

... and i wouldnt want any other girl..im getting lonely now =\ anyone?

please?
:ermm:

This sounds like a desperate person. Unless you're the hunchback, you should be able to find someone where you live. It's rather baffling to assume that you can find a woman to your liking in the DR like someone going on a shopping trip. If you don't invest time to know someone, you can expect the same result.

 

[Sholly24]

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[Sholly24]

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All human beings are gold diggers to some extent, because when you marry you form a legal partnership that you hope will be mutually profitable, whether in emotional or financial terms, or both, according to what you want and need the most. The hard part is choosing a partner whose goals are congruent with yours.

I could not agree with you more on that. Very deep and accurate.

We all choose our partner for something that is of benefit to us (good looks, wealth, visa, age, intelligence, charm etc). So if someone wants to marry someone for their looks/charm, why should I not choose to marry someone because of wealth/visa?.

In every relationship each partner is selfish to an extent even though we may not want to admit it. The husband/boyfriend wants his sex on demand whenever he needs it while the wife/girlfriend wants her needs/emotions to be attended to on demand even when the other person has no clue as to what the heck is going on.

Sholly

 

[jmsunlinenet]

Different points of view

This sounds like a desperate person. Unless you're the hunchback, you should be able to find someone where you live. It's rather baffling to assume that you can find a woman to your liking in the DR like someone going on a shopping trip. If you don't invest time to know someone, you can expect the same result.

One sees different points of view here, and partly this may be the effect of differences in male and female perspectives.

Men know, and tend to take for granted, that the Dominican Republic has an enormous surplus of very beautiful young women who want nothing more than to meet a norteamericano or European who will take them away from their island prison. This is incredibly easy to do. You can meet women just by walking around, going to the beach, or any place where Dominicans congregate. Taxi drivers will ask you if you would like to meet a relative or someone they know. Even dentists and bank managers will flirt with you.

This side of the DR is probably hidden from the female gringos who read these boards, because they do not experience it, therefore they cannot understand why anyone would look for a Dominicana when they could get a girlfriend at home.

The answer is this:

1. It is much, much easier to find a girlfriend than back home. 2. A man can get a much more beautiful girlfriend than back home. 3. If the man is older, he can get a much younger girlfriend than back home.

Now, these are the facts. You can like them or not like them, but they are the facts.

 

[laurapasinifan]

while I can agree that the op had found good things that he really liked about his dominican girlfriend, and he wanted to find them again in a different woman. I can agree that it can happen, Like I said before women are very dynamic, and to go looking for something from a previous relationship that you like and hoping to find it in a new relationship is stacking the cards against you at the start. Each relationship is new and different....you just want someone who attracts you, someone who you can get along with, and someone who is trustworthy......all the other stuff is frivolous and can add or detract....

my gf has broken so many sterotypes I stopped trying to figure her out. She was categorized in so many ways by a lot of people including myself.....and she rose above them all. But at the same time she has so many desires and wants that most women have. She just handled them differently than expected.

you just dont know how anyone person will live their life, no matter where you find them or where they end up...you can try and stack the odds in your favor for sure...but in the end its crapshoot.....and you need to be able to read peoples little nuances to get an edge up on the possibilities that may come out of an impending relationship.

but to go to the DR looking for that one dominican you had before...is basically FORCING the issue......you need to be at ease when you develop a relationship.

early on in my relationship I would have thought very similarly to the OP.... that wow these women have their head on differently than american women, but then I had only DATED ONE dominican woman!!! what did I know!!!! I just got lucky....I can see from so many of her friends that that are all different. I can see it when I get on a plane from NY to the DR how different domincan women can be.. ha ha ha ha...sometimes the fire in them comes out the wrong way!!!!!!!!!!

I think that seeing single dominican women with children is just a function of the fact that dominican men had not fared so well in the relationship.

that seem sto be an undeniable trait they have cast upon themselves as a group.

I say good luck to the OP...the devil is in the details!!!

have fun looking

bob

 

[shadInToronto]

....The answer is this:

1. It is much, much easier to find a girlfriend than back home. 2. A man can get a much more beautiful girlfriend than back home. 3. If the man is older, he can get a much younger girlfriend than back home.

Now, these are the facts. You can like them or not like them, but they are the facts.

Not the same amigo. One doesn't have to travel to the DR to find 'putas/opportunists', they're in every country, state, city, village, town, .... etc. The only difference is that in the DR the 'cost' is lower, but for the right price, you can get the same where you live.

If you're looking for someone to build a relationship, you need to 'invest' time to know that person ... they're no shortcuts.

 

[jmsunlinenet]

Not the same amigo. One doesn't have to travel to the DR to find 'putas/opportunists', they're in every country, state, city, village, town, .... etc. The only difference is that in the DR the 'cost' is lower, but for the right price, you can get the same where you live.

If you're looking for someone to build a relationship, you need to 'invest' time to know that person ... they're no shortcuts.

I don't think the first part of what you say is true. At least not where I live.

I certainly cannot meet dozens of attractive women who want to be my girlfriend by walking around in the town where I live. If I could, I would not go to the DR. The price issue is irrelevant. It costs more money to travel to the DR several times, stay in hotel, eat restaurant food etc. than it does to take a local woman on a few dates.

The last part of what you say is perfectly true. The DR is good for meeting attractive women. However without relationship skills just meeting someone is meaningless.

 

[jrf]

I'd rather have someone with children.
I am approaching the 'hill' and a family would be great.

I would follow the same rules I do here in NA.
Ya find a good woman either in church or the library

 

[DAKRA]

Is this the Express Line?

Wow - Lots of emotions. Seems like there is a lot of pent up frustration going on with these posts....:ninja:

 

[jmsunlinenet]

Not the same amigo. One doesn't have to travel to the DR to find 'putas/opportunists', they're in every country, state, city, village, town, .... etc. The only difference is that in the DR the 'cost' is lower, but for the right price, you can get the same where you live.

OK, I have a friend who is recently divorced. Not rich, just a working guy. I mentioned him to my novia a few days ago and sent a picture. I spoke to her on the phone tonight and she said that she had five (5) friends of hers who were interested in meeting him. They were all decent girls who have jobs, not putas, for whom she personally would vouch.

Now, is it really like that in Toronto, or wherever you live, because it sure aint't that way in small town Florida?

 

[Hipocrito Mejia]

The surgeon general has determined that reading this thread may cause permanent brain damage due to the volume of stupidity contained herein.

 

[miguel]

Por fin, alguin que piensa.......

The surgeon general has determined that reading this thread may cause permanent brain damage due to the volume of stupidity contained herein.

El diablo Hipocrito, te la botaste camarada!!!.

Your post should be nominated for the "Best Post On This Thread" award. A winner if you ask me, hahahaha!!.

Don't you just love to "listen" to SOME of these "youngies" (knows-it-all) talk out of their axxes?.

And to think they are the "FUTURE".

Like Felix Del Rosario once said in one of his songs:

"Encondete mi hermano porque si contamos con esta juventud nos va a llevar el mismo diablo"......

Thanks for the laugh!!.

 

[Berzin]

i went out with a dominican girl for 3 years just to find out she was cheating on me with my best friend.. im an italian american, and i just wanna find a nice dominican girl, because their culture is just amazing, and i wouldnt want any other girl..im getting lonely now =\

dunno, any tips?


anyone?

please?

:ermm:

If you're lonely don't go to the DR. You will get played worse than you did when you were home.

It seems as if you need to choose your girlfriends and best friends more carefully, and if these issues remain unresolved you will get financially and emotionally fleeced before you even get off the plane.

You sound like you are asking for it, so my advice is go to Boca Chica and Sosua. You will find the love of your life there. Good luck and good night.

 

[Talldrink]

... Can Professor Talldrink cite any evidence that doctors and lawyers come predominantly from single mother families, or that children of single mothers are more likely to enter higher professions

JMSUNLINENET - I agree with what you said in some of your posts, but I was answering this thread with the OP's question and the replies at hand. I am in no way saying that single mothers are the ones creating all the Drs and lawyers. I was giving this man the benefit of the doubt that he is actually looking for someone of substance. If he wants to get with an easy catch, he doestn have to go to DR. If he is dedicated to go to DR, then he can get the easiest one on his way out of the airport.

If he is looking for love in DR - common sense should dictate that a good woman and love will not just come to him just because.

BTW - Talking about planning skills and impulse control can spin this into another 100 threads and many more political debates. I do not agree with your statement, but unless you want to take this topic off line or to another thread - lets agree to disagree. Long story short: not everybody is the same and imperfect humans make mistakes. Lets us not generilize because not everyone fits in the same mold.

 

[shadInToronto]

...Now, is it really like that in Toronto, or wherever you live, because it sure aint't that way in small town Florida?

Yes. If it isn't, you should consider moving to Miami, Jacksonville, Orlando, Key West, or another state ... Vegas, NYC, or even better, Toronto.

"They" say the only chicks you find in small towns are your sisters and cousins. This reminds me of a redneck joke, What does a kid in "insert small town name" calls his dad? ..... Uncle. :laugh:

 

[corsair74]

Here is the skinny.

Dude. Seriously. I'm going to give you some heartfelt advice from a man who loves dominicanas. Hell, I love women in general.

I gather from your post that you are looking for a serious relationship with a decent girl. The truth of the matter is, decent girls in the DR are no different than girls in the states. They want most of the same things out of life, and have similar ideas on what they want in a mate. I never understood why men travel to different countries to find serious relationships. In fact, I think that it is harder for a gringo to find it in the DR than it is in the states.

Sure. You will find a multitude of women in the DR who are more than willing to enter into a relationship with a gringo. But the majority of the time, many of those overly eager girls will have different expectations from the relationship than you. A lot of them will be looking for a stable provider, a way to leave the island, or both. I personally try to stay away from overly eager women when I am there (well, not all of the time). And I'm not there looking for a soulmate.

I believe that there are many girls in the DR that fit what you want. Especially when you venture outside of the tourist areas. But truthfully, most decent girls in the DR are likely to hold you to the same standards as decent girls in the States. Women, as a species, are the same wherever you go. If you can't find the girl that you want at home, you aren't likely to find it in the DR either. A lot of men here will tell you that it is easier to find good girls there. To imply that such girls are easier in the DR is dillusional. And those guys are laboring under a misconception. Just looking at numbers, you are more likely to find a woman there who needs your financial support more than she needs your love.

You stated in you post that you live in a small town. I suggest that you take the advice of an earlier poster and branch out a bit. The US is a huge country. I moved from Texas to DC and found the women there much more to my liking.

It also won't hurt to take a look at the man in the mirror. I'm not suggesting that you make any major changes for the sake of a relationship (I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here). But take some time to learn what women like, and work on it.

Good Luck.

Vince.

 

[laurapasinifan]

women in GENERAL are the same, but dominican women break many molds cast by the mix of women you can find in america. I have lived all up and down the east coast, I know southern women and northern women, and while there are definately women who just are standout in their attitude and flexibility to make a relationship work , they are the exception usually. Now I think a larger percentage of DOMINICAN women have those relaxed, attributes. Not talking pure sex, but they have a more open view of sexuality and northern men think that means they are easy or trampy....but it isnt the case, they by and large have as much passion as a man does and dont try to cover it up for fear of being labeled. They also seem to have a larger gland that distributes feelings for their man openly and understandingly( than american women)....they just seem to want to make the man happy....maybe it is still to early in my relationship( with a dominican) to really know....the others that I had interacted with ( not on a boyfriend girlfriend basis admittedly) had similar traits...I guess I was lucky to never get a gold digger type on my dates( I use that term :dates"loosely in many of those cases) just a blast to be with, fun passionate, understanding. Yeah I have seen the domincana moma go off.....hey they have the passion and the fire....you just got to hope it doesnt backfire.

so they want the same things in they short term and long term on average, but how they approach life while in a relaxed setting, is just sooooo different from what I have experienced on average up north....so I think that is one of the draws men have to the women in the DR....and forget the stupid remark that is so cliche....that the women just want a gringo to get rich.....that is such a cop out....yeah it applies to many of the gold digger hooker types......but men dont really date them....they just pass through their lives.....

I dont know what percentage you need to have of a type of woman to say that thats the norm.....it is just the most desirable....and you only need to see X amount of them to know..."thats what I like , and want in my life"

outside of the pressure cooker -vacation pace...i think a man can find a good woman in the DR....

and sure if he looks hard enough and or is lucky enough he can find one anywhere....

I am not sure you can pluck a really genuine fine woman out of her DR enviroment and Plop her down in Detroit and live happily ever after....that might take some over sight from god to go smoothly!!!

just an opinion..

bob

 

[corsair74]

Not convinced.

women in GENERAL are the same, but dominican women break many molds cast by the mix of women you can find in america. I have lived all up and down the east coast, I know southern women and northern women, and while there are definately women who just are standout in their attitude and flexibility to make a relationship work , they are the exception usually. Now I think a larger percentage of DOMINICAN women have those relaxed, attributes. Not talking pure sex, but they have a more open view of sexuality and northern men think that means they are easy or trampy....but it isnt the case, they by and large have as much passion as a man does and dont try to cover it up for fear of being labeled. They also seem to have a larger gland that distributes feelings for their man openly and understandingly( than american women)....they just seem to want to make the man happy....maybe it is still to early in my relationship( with a dominican) to really know....the others that I had interacted with ( not on a boyfriend girlfriend basis admittedly) had similar traits...I guess I was lucky to never get a gold digger type on my dates( I use that term :dates"loosely in many of those cases) just a blast to be with, fun passionate, understanding. Yeah I have seen the domincana moma go off.....hey they have the passion and the fire....you just got to hope it doesnt backfire.

so they want the same things in they short term and long term on average, but how they approach life while in a relaxed setting, is just sooooo different from what I have experienced on average up north....so I think that is one of the draws men have to the women in the DR....and forget the stupid remark that is so cliche....that the women just want a gringo to get rich.....that is such a cop out....yeah it applies to many of the gold digger hooker types......but men dont really date them....they just pass through their lives.....

I dont know what percentage you need to have of a type of woman to say that thats the norm.....it is just the most desirable....and you only need to see X amount of them to know..."thats what I like , and want in my life"

outside of the pressure cooker -vacation pace...i think a man can find a good woman in the DR....

and sure if he looks hard enough and or is lucky enough he can find one anywhere....

I am not sure you can pluck a really genuine fine woman out of her DR enviroment and Plop her down in Detroit and live happily ever after....that might take some over sight from god to go smoothly!!!

just an opinion..

bob

Yeah. Still not buying it. I still think that this is a personal issue. You are going to have a hard time convincing me that dominicanas are that much different than those here in the states.

However, like you, I can only speak from MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. I too have been all over the US and I can tell you that it is not that hard to find a good woman here. I meet extraordinary women here all of the time. And I am no Don Juan or Casanova. I did take the time to do a little research, however. And I take advantage of any opportunity to travel and meet women in different places.

When all is said and done, I think that it is unfair to let the OP think that he will have a much easier time finding the ideal woman in the DR. Especially if none of us knows him personally. I congratulate any man who has found his soulmate in the DR. But that is YOUR personal experience. My personal experience is that it is just as easy to find a good woman in the US. And you won't have to deal with managing a long distance relationship.

I'm not saying that there aren't cultural differences. But when it comes to matters of the heart, women are women everywhere. Unless you just prefer dominicans. But then that's different, isn't it.

Vince.

 

[Berzin]

I'll make it really easy for you. Go to NYC if you don't live there already. Hang out at the cool hot spots in Washington Heights at night. Hang out on 181st. Street and Broadway during the day and walk up and down the block towards Amsterdam Avenue, right before the road takes you over the bridge into the Bronx. Don't go past the gas station, theres' nothing else for you over that bridge.

You can mix it up by going to Hostos Community College in the Bronx. The large majority of the student body is female and dominican, most of them have'nt been in the USA long enough to master english so get your spanish skills on point.

If you want a dominicana that is educated AND speaks english well, hang out at Hunter College right on 68th Street and Lexington Avenue and watch the parade of beautiful girls of all nationalities at all hours of the day and into the evening.

I just set it up for you, now go get 'em tiger!!!!:cheeky::cheeky::cheeky: