I have come to this site because I have a serious dilemma. A few years ago I met a guy who drove me from the Las Americas airport to the carretera for a cheap guagua,because I didn;t want to pay the 30 bucks or so by cab to Santo Domingo. Anyway we got to talking -I needed a beer- and before I knew it I was hanging with his mate and himself in their local colmado in la Caleta and I thought it was absolutely wonderful. They were great guys and gals, of course I paid for the beer, but that was ok. I ended up going back there two months later and bringign them all teeshirts and Yankee shirts. I stayed again with them for a week in La Caleta this time, but rented an apartment in Boca Chica for me to stay in. That was 4 years ago. Now I am involved with the family itself of my friend Juan. But I am a little scared I am in too deep. They were very poor when I met him, and that was a big part of it for me- to help out in some way- so I went to the supermarket and bought them food for a month.( there are 4 kids, Juan and his other half). This I have been doing for years now- he drives a motoconcho so doesn;t make much- she is at home with the kids, the youngest being 4 months. I don't mind helping out because he takes me everywhere on the bike, and she cooks at the house.. but now I am beginning to realize I am in too deep and don;t know how to slow it down. I feel I am going to be doing this for the rest of my life while Juan just coasts alongmaking a few bucks at the parada with other motoconchos ,not pushing himself at all. I rented them a larger house because all of them were in a one room tin-roof hovel sleeping on one bad when I found them. I bought them a brand new fridge freezer because I saw they were leaving food- especially chicken out in the open. I bought them a new stove, because al they had was a two ring estufa de mesa and it was too small. I bought them a washing machine because their other broke. All these things happened in the space of one and half years. It seemed everytime I would go to the DR something else needed fixing. At first I ignored it but am beginnign to think maybe I have been a big old fool. I have fallen for the kids - three gorls, ages 3, 6 and 11, and the 4 month old baby. I bring them clothes, daipers, everything I can carry in two suitcases when ever I come over. I thought I was doing good things and their joy is truly honest when they see the toys and stuff I bring them. Now though- I am feeling worn out and going to the DR is no longer a vacation but a duty- I feel as if they are my kids and my wife/girlfriedn/whatever. Juan is off out ,I believe seeing another girl, or so I am told, and I 'm learnign far more than I need to know. Sometimes 20 texts a day from the esposaon Juan and his cheating and lies.. I feel terrible and want out. But I feel for the kids- and a part of me feels for Juan still too, because he was very different when I first met him- but now I seem to be just a mealticket to all..... it's breaking my heart- the kids call me "mich a el" and cry when I leave to come back to the USA .. so does his other half. I feel like I am her only friend and I feel it is all going to backfire. He still treats me well when I go but I think I have spoiled everybody there with presnts each time I go from Modells and Old navy. And I went 7 times last year and already twice this year... so you see, I have the DR bug bad.....what am I going to do to let them down easily and bring it back under my control?/ I dont want to see them go back to the hovel they were in but a friend at work says they managed before you and they willl manage after you- but that is simply too simplistic for me. I can;t help but think that if he leaves her she has nothing and must fend for herself and the kids with no money. Call me depressed and lost in Queens Ny