Ok, I know this is going to seemlike a dumb post to people but i am very serious in finding out some advice from peoples past experiences with younger girls they have married and brought back to the states. The problem that i have is that i am a 40 year old a little better looking then average american man who has a place in santiago where i spend about 10-14 days a month and the rest of my time in Newyork.While in santiago i date many very decent serious girls and some not so decent fun girls. The thing is that most of these girls are between 19-28 years old and come from many different social classes.I HAVE BEEN HAVING THE TIME OF MY LIFE THE LAST FEW YEARS IN SANTIAGO and have enjoyed every minute of it. It does not bother me that much being seen with a much younger beautiful girl in the DR because it seems so more commen and acceptable then in the states.The problem is that i have lost some nice girls because they wanted a more serious commitment from me. The bigest thing i worry about is how am i as a 40 year old guy going to feel back in my small town in western NY in the supermarket with one of these hot 15 years younger then me chicas that could pass for my daughter. I would like to maybe calm down and get serious with a girl but the age differance is something that is preventing me from doing so.And this is the DR and i am attracted to the younger girls.ITS like a dream world here for guys in the DR but how is it going to be when i actually have to live a normal life with one in the states, if i can find one that i that i wanted a more serious relationship with. How is the reaction going to be in my town? at my church, at the mall? with my friends and their 40 year old overweight sweatpant wearing jealous wives,and most of all with my family?
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Can you really bring one of these young girls home?
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I think you already know what the reaction will be. The question is, can you handle it and how will she handle it?
From what I've seen, those types of relationships work much better and last much longer here, than outside. Especially when your under the spot light and she is exposed to a different culture, values etc etc.
Try it and see, that's the only way you're going to know
From what I've seen, those types of relationships work much better and last much longer here, than outside. Especially when your under the spot light and she is exposed to a different culture, values etc etc.
Try it and see, that's the only way you're going to know
yea i sort of know how the reaction is going to be but can you get use to it? and it is hard to really imagine totally how it is going to feel in public with a much younger attractive women. I am sure many members have some opinions with their experiences with this type of matter.
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i am dominican and i dont understand yet its how the old people that have relationship with young ones think that is really cause they love each other, for most of the dominican girls or boys thats a business, u give them money or a fly to states or anywhere else and as soon they get the residence they change u for someone younger.
but the only way that u gonna take her out the country its if u have lots of money, and still dont u think that u will look weird in the states with someone can be ur dauther, no ofense, but think that when u get older that person probably wont stay to ur side, u gonna be like the grandpa.
good luck mate
but the only way that u gonna take her out the country its if u have lots of money, and still dont u think that u will look weird in the states with someone can be ur dauther, no ofense, but think that when u get older that person probably wont stay to ur side, u gonna be like the grandpa.
good luck mate
First of all mate, i am talking about a serious descent girl. not the type that the twice a year in the DR guys pick up and pay. Those of us that live here or come very often know how to find real girls. Its just a secret that we aint telling
second-You do not have to be rich to take a girl out of the country. its cheaper then you think mate. I like my girls small so all i have to do is get a big suitcase and throw my future ex-wife in there with a breathing straw and and a good book and pay a little overweight charge on jet blue and were on our way.
third- the when older point is a good point. Lets think about this for a moment.What is a better choice? 30 years or more of great sex with a younger hot chica? or worrying about who is gonna change my diaper in 40 years. I Will get back to you on that one..
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To use your own words from another post
Mack
To use your own words from another post
in the States you'll stick out just like that guy in the Santiago restuarant with the shorts and flip flops...but I think you already know that
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I dont think you are telling the truth!!!! There is no way you can bring a girl in a suitcase on Jetblue. Jetblue does not even allow overweight to the DR.... It must have been American Airlines.
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Based on your lifestlye you are not happy with just one girl so you will probably get sick of her. The girl will become Americanized and will no longer be the same as you know her in the DR. She will probably leave you for another man and you'll be up the creek without a paddle.
Sounds like you have a pretty good thing going now. Why change it?
Based on your lifestlye you are not happy with just one girl so you will probably get sick of her. The girl will become Americanized and will no longer be the same as you know her in the DR. She will probably leave you for another man and you'll be up the creek without a paddle.
Sounds like you have a pretty good thing going now. Why change it?
Your 40 and she 15 years younger. WHERE IS THE PROBLEM?????????. Who says your wife has to be the same age. My father was 50 when he met and married my mother who was 25. Both Canadian. Both good looking, both professionals and their first marriage. I have never personally heard any remarks from someone about the age difference in a couple. (Maybe a 65 year old guy with an 16'er) but 15 years difference, don't even bother. I have a friend who is 68 and his wife is 22. They've lived in both the US and DR. Other than "What a lucky bast*rd" I've never heard any remarks. Live your life for yourself the way you want and f*ck everyone else.
I am wondering if this is a guy, that speaks fairly decent Spanish, that I saw in a pharmacy last night, wearing short jeans and those sort of flip flops ...Anyway, age is not a problem. I have one friend that is close to 50 years older than his wife, and while he will face some interesting problems due to the color factor-she is light skinned, he is basically a "weathered" white and the three boys are black...However, they seem well and stable, and she does take care of him...
My son happens to be 13 years older than his wife (#2) and they are well....
Since the OP is not Madonna with her boy toys, or Michael Douglas and his lovely wife, who cares>???
Is his little western NY town so up tight that this will be the gossip of the day?? If the relationship is serious, and if the wife can integrate through work or social activities, I am sure that she will have enough savoir faire to survive*, but if this guy is so worried about the "Fall-Spring" relationships...then he should not even ask the questions...
* Presuming of course that what he says is true and these are well educated professional women...
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My son happens to be 13 years older than his wife (#2) and they are well....
Since the OP is not Madonna with her boy toys, or Michael Douglas and his lovely wife, who cares>???
Is his little western NY town so up tight that this will be the gossip of the day?? If the relationship is serious, and if the wife can integrate through work or social activities, I am sure that she will have enough savoir faire to survive*, but if this guy is so worried about the "Fall-Spring" relationships...then he should not even ask the questions...
* Presuming of course that what he says is true and these are well educated professional women...
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I look like I must have kidnapped my girlfriend.
I will get over it though.
What is the problem with a few jealous / disapproving stares?
If you have enough 'get up and go' to actually come here in the first place, then your free thinking, independent self will cope just fine. Bollocks to them!
Just do not go round in shorts and flip-flops though... that is really asking for trouble!!
I will get over it though.
What is the problem with a few jealous / disapproving stares?
If you have enough 'get up and go' to actually come here in the first place, then your free thinking, independent self will cope just fine. Bollocks to them!
Just do not go round in shorts and flip-flops though... that is really asking for trouble!!
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My brother is 46 and his Cuban wife 27. They just had their second child. Age difference doesn't seem to be a problem. She is accepted very well in our family. He is very fit and looks late 30's at the most. Will there be problems when he he's 66 and she's 47, who knows. Marry someone you love and you believe loves you,regardless of AGE. 12 years ago my first wife died, who was 2 years older than me, and I started dating women that were the same age as me to around 15 years younger. Much as I enjoyed the younger women physically I couldn't connect with them mentally. My Dominican wife is only 3.5 years younger than me so no generational issues.
Yea you are 100% right that i will stick out. But there will also be some pretty good benifets that i get from a hot younger chica. What does the clown in the shorts get. Lets be honest here, do you know why most 40 and over guys dont have hot younger girls [no pro that is]...answer- because they cant.rsg.
To use your own words from another post in the States you'll stick out just like that guy in the Santiago restuarant with the shorts and flip flops...but I think you already know that
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Wrong, idont need a paddle when she leaves. All i need is to return to the DR and just upgrade her without a problem. And i do like my situation for now but would like to settle down soon in a real relationship with a future. Not all girls are looking for a visa. I know and have dated many with cars ans jobs that are completely content with their life here.
What do you think hillbilly, that you are the only expat who can score non pros in the DR? I have dated women to educated for me and my share of descent poor girls. But believe me i am not into pros. I DO KNOW THE DIFFERANCE BECAUSE I AM NOT A TWICE A YEAR GRINGO TOURIST. I am only 40 and decent looking and in good shape. i am not 60 and over like most guys running around with girls 40 years younger.
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