Of course all of the couples have problems. Most are cultural differences. One couple is in the process of divorce. The woman is much older than the husband. In this case the woman is more than a little strange. Another couple is separated and headed for divorce also.
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Of course all of the couples have problems. Most are cultural differences. One couple is in the process of divorce. The woman is much older than the husband. In this case the woman is more than a little strange. Another couple is separated and headed for divorce also.
I know you have hundreds of stories. After all we lived in the same town. ha ha Plus you belong to some groups that deal with it.
I rarely intervened in the bad relationships I knew of in the DR. Once when the woman was being physically abused by her sanki I did try to counsel her. ( Since I did write a book about domestic violence and counseled a few women). She eventually moved on when she realized she was broke in more ways than one.
I understand some of the culture. It doesn't mean I have to like it. Sharing money with family is fine as long as it isn't excessive. I understand the cheating because it goes on around the world. Doesn't mean I agree with it.
I think the concept is flawed - giving people just 90 days to marry is too much pressure. Usually first chance for a Dominican, to leave the country, foreign wife been here to an all inclusive for a couple of weeks. There is no way they should get married so quickly. In the UK it is 6 months you have to get married - I don't think Canada has a fiance visa.
Now I want to watch that show 
Sounds entertaining.
I come from a culture where kids are expected to take care of their parents and family. It s not always easy, it s an extra pressure, but it is what it is. I see it as a way to give back for the sacrifices they made for me, I send money monthly to my mom. She doesn't even need it, but if it makes her happy, I suck it up. Some of my friends are shocked, but it is hard to get away from it when that s how you were raised.
Sounds entertaining.
I come from a culture where kids are expected to take care of their parents and family. It s not always easy, it s an extra pressure, but it is what it is. I see it as a way to give back for the sacrifices they made for me, I send money monthly to my mom. She doesn't even need it, but if it makes her happy, I suck it up. Some of my friends are shocked, but it is hard to get away from it when that s how you were raised.
I agree. It sounds like a strange thing to do for a first time meeting. People usually just want their guests to have a nice meal and the best meat possible. Even if there is a little discontent, it's not the time to get the claws out.....YET!
What is reality TV without a bit of drama thrown in...lol. Interesting though with the DR/American couple that their storyline is typical of the reputation that some have of relationships with Dominicans. Maybe the producers were followers of the Mars/Venus forum here on DR1..lol. Serving chicken feet as Matilda's husband stated was just the added evil thrown in.
Jealousy among Dominican women and mothers is a strange thing here. I was lucky as my husband's mother passed away when she was in her mid 40s, hepatitis and his father the year before I met him, he was 80 and the reason he died was "he stopped breathing" so I never had to deal with the parents. Danilo didn't have the money to take his Dad properly to the capital where his grave site was ready, so they dressed him and put him in the back seat of a car. They were stopped on the bridge and Amet said "that guy in the back seat doesn't look well", Danilo said he was drunk and they let them go .... to bury him.
I am still waiting for the stepsons I raised to help me financially lol.
Matilda
I am still waiting for the stepsons I raised to help me financially lol.
Matilda
Me and my MIL have a good relationship. But I do not know what she may say behind closed doors...lol. Dominican culture can be tricky. You think you have it figured out and then something new arises. When I met my spouse his family all had visas to the US. Back then where my spouse is from being married to a American was a novelty. But because the family had traveled to the US many times they had a good idea of the American culture. So there never was a "clash of cultures" as some others may have experienced. I of course experienced that learning curve as many do when they move to the DR but my spouses family were very helpful. It would be very difficult to maintain a good marriage if there was not a good relationship with my spouses family.
Yes! On the surface we get on well enough - but I do wonder what they say about me when I'm out of earshot. We have some cultural elements in common - as someone who grew up in different countries with relatives scattered across the world there are not many people on this earth I would have that much in common with anyway.
His sisters (2) used to come to the house and cook all my food and wash all my clothes which were clean, and wash the whole house. I went crazy till I realised that this is the way of saying thank you. They don't bring flowers they just clean for you and now I love it. If I have visitors I invite his family so I know the house will be clean before the visitors come.
Matilda
Matilda
It has taken years, but I am starting to adjust to this. I always felt like it was my mother-in-law's way of saying that I wasn't cleaning properly, or that I was a bad host. I would get up at 7am just to mop the floors and clean the (already clean) house so that she wouldn't do it.
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If they clean your house, there is a very good chance they think it's not properly clean.....and they might have told other people about it too.
Oh dear it doesn't look like things are getting any better for Chantal and Pedro.
http://emptylighthouse.com/90-day-fiance-happily-ever-after-222219117
Matilda
http://emptylighthouse.com/90-day-fiance-happily-ever-after-222219117
Matilda
Watched it yesterday. Pedro met with Chantal's dad and brother to talk about what happened. They met at El Conuco..lol. It is always interesting when your watching a program and you say to yourself, I know that restaurant, I know that street, I have been to that store, etc...
Finally watched this week's episode...it amazes me how two people get married without having the financial conversation. Especially when one of them is basically required by culture to send home 'remittances'. Chantal is upset by how much he's sending home and yet it was her that bought the laptop for his mother when Pedro asked her to. Since she didn't set a limit before the wedding, that would have been the perfect opportunity to talk about a set amount; one that they could both live with.
Starting on a lie. His jealousy. Her need to party. Families at war. No agreement about money. I think it will take a miracle or a major turnaround for Chantal and Pedro to make it.
Starting on a lie. His jealousy. Her need to party. Families at war. No agreement about money. I think it will take a miracle or a major turnaround for Chantal and Pedro to make it.