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hi and thanks for your reply.
so let me introduce myself to you. I'm a 27 years old swiss girl. I met my boyfriend 6 years ago in iberostar punta cana, where he worked as a waiter in the hotel. it was love at first side. altough after some time of writing i break up contact with him, cause I didn't believe in our future. sometimes we started writing again, sometimes lots of silence (mostly from my side). I always wanted to go back to latin america.3 years ago, I almost promised him to visit him, but then I got to know my ex-boyfriend; a swiss guy, who wanted to marry me, he had a job, we were living together, so I thought it would be wiser to continue with him than to go back to my "dominican love" - whom I haven't seen for years. but as I always wanted to spend some months in latin america I went to peru. there the relationship with my "swiss love" splet of, cause I didn't have faith on him and cause he couldn't express himself and tell me that he needed my love (f.e. he told me that "I had to know how much he love me without him showing or writing it"). somehow I still regret to have chosen peru and not the dom.rep. anyway after some time a peruvian guy felt in love with me, we spent some time togehter, then he asked me, if I couldnt' forget a past love, so a told him about this "big dominican love".
he was the one who forced me to go back to the dom.rep. to know what we really feel for each other. so I went back in march 2002 and january 2003 and it was just great. we're more in love than the first time we met. we call each other twice a week. he first prefered me to come there - cause he doesnt' know the language, he's afraid of not being exepected here (dominican people doesn't have a very good reputation here) and of not finding a job....
now he also would like to visit switzerland, cause of the political situation. and now it's me that is bit afraid of the financial and higuenical situation there (f.e. hospital, birth, etc.), education.
at the moment I think the best thing would be, if I'd spend some months there, working (or volunteering), get to know more the island and its people. so like this he would also have the oportunity to work as engeneer - he stops studying this december... and later (when the "future" children go to school) move to switzerland.
it sounds bad and pessimistic, but if he comes to switzerland right now, I'm a bit afraid, that he would make bad friendships. I've seen many dominican people dealing with drogs, prostitution, violence. it's not onely that friends told me this; where I live this is really the case. altough I don't wanna realize it. I would like to know some dominican people here, to present him, to whom I have faith, but it's really difficult. sometimes, when I see those people here I don't understand how I could fall in love with a dominican guy. but well; I didn't chose him, cause his dominican, but because of his way of living and thinking, his big and simple heart, cause he's honest and simple...
and cause I really trust him. he presented me to his best friend and family, to whom I also talk on the phone and who tell me, how much he loves me...
that's all for today.
p.d.: I'm a primary teacher with 1 year experience. I also made a 6 months practical in a blind school in peru. my spanish is more or less fluent. since one year I'm working in a "ancienato" (home for elderly people). so I could teach german, work in some "medical project", volunteer with children, work in a bar. I would be also interested doing a school to become a tourist guide (which would be my greatest dream). just important that I'm close to my boyfriend.
p.d.: if you like I can also send you some photos.
see you soon.
sorry, this was quite long.