And it is without a doubt something that is utterly the norm within Dominican society. Never have I lived with a people that are so defined by lies. People can look you in the eye and lie to you as if they were sincere that they were delivering news your mother just died.
I have recently been trying to get my head around the lying culture, and it seems strange calling it a culture, but it is. People share lies and opinion as if they are real truths. Like the 'I love yous that we used to tell our girlfriends in sixth form schooling, or the drunken night you feel loved up for someone you knew for 3 minutes but have something in common as mere as you both visited the US on vacation once.
Dominicans can take this to a whole new level, and lie for no reason at all, just make something up for the hell of it, which I struggle to get my head around. 'I went swimming last week, it was great', and they didn't. They are pointless road to nowhere lies, just pure gob****e and I can not understand it. 'I'm dark tired as I've been working all week', from the mouth of someone you have never met before yet for the first time at a shopping counter they decide to tell you this.
Lie denial is a part of this unsocial socially acceptable pastime. 'Hey, I thought you said you were at the restaurant the other night, I just bumped into -=---- and they were closed that night', .......................... 'Oh, so you don't trust me now?'.......... fight breaks out.
This is really terrible social interaction that I really want to understand, the need to lie for no reason baffles me. Lying for reason usually has a gain of somesuch, but...................................
Nowhere else have I experienced this on such a level, is there an underlying reason why this is such a socially acceptable tendency. I've been Dominicanized for many years and something I am still yet to hear a decent argument for, or reason to believe.
I have recently been trying to get my head around the lying culture, and it seems strange calling it a culture, but it is. People share lies and opinion as if they are real truths. Like the 'I love yous that we used to tell our girlfriends in sixth form schooling, or the drunken night you feel loved up for someone you knew for 3 minutes but have something in common as mere as you both visited the US on vacation once.
Dominicans can take this to a whole new level, and lie for no reason at all, just make something up for the hell of it, which I struggle to get my head around. 'I went swimming last week, it was great', and they didn't. They are pointless road to nowhere lies, just pure gob****e and I can not understand it. 'I'm dark tired as I've been working all week', from the mouth of someone you have never met before yet for the first time at a shopping counter they decide to tell you this.
Lie denial is a part of this unsocial socially acceptable pastime. 'Hey, I thought you said you were at the restaurant the other night, I just bumped into -=---- and they were closed that night', .......................... 'Oh, so you don't trust me now?'.......... fight breaks out.
This is really terrible social interaction that I really want to understand, the need to lie for no reason baffles me. Lying for reason usually has a gain of somesuch, but...................................
Nowhere else have I experienced this on such a level, is there an underlying reason why this is such a socially acceptable tendency. I've been Dominicanized for many years and something I am still yet to hear a decent argument for, or reason to believe.
