May I ask how will you get away for a month? I assume wife #1 knows nothing.Secondly...are you not in favor of unconditional love with love#2?
And third: How are you taking her out of poverty (since you are not willing to live in a tin roof schack in the campo)?. Good intentions Ken but I guess we all would want to hear more of the plan or "the big picture". Fire away.
Assumption about wife #1 is incorrect. She knows and has known for 8 months. Now gave me an ultimatum. Not sure what I will do.
Unconditional love is a very special emotion. The only condition I ask for is honesty. I have loved the DR woman unconditionally and never asked for anything in return.
I would "take her out of poverty" by providing better living accommodations, possibly even getting a house (that she really wants), and letting her experience parts of DR life that she desires but cannot afford.. She REALLY wants to own a house. If I bought a house it would NOT be in her name though.. I have not gotten to this level of communication with her yet and don't know how she would react..
My PLAN,, and note this is only a plan. Would be to rent an apartment and live with her and her 2 children for an extended period of time... months.... to see how we fit together.... I am not a pipe dreamer.... I know that our cultural differences, language etc can be major obstacles. Because of my our differences I do not want any more ninos. I would fly back and forth between US and DR since I do have children here. I have no plans on bringing her to US... She speaks no English.
The house she rents in Romana looks pretty decent from the inside,, I have never seen the outside. The place she lives with her cousin in Veron I have no idea... She said it is not as nice. I am going to ask her to send me a picture of the outside. But I doubt that you would classify it as a shack in the campo.