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Obviously there ARE risks to getting deeply involved in relationships with Dominican women, but really it takes two to tango (or bachata), and there is no guarantee that the guys are all that great catches either.
The whole question of sex tourism and international "romances" is so much more complicated than most posters would like to think.
For a start the Dominican concept of "love" is rather different from the popular American notion of "romance" and has a lot more to do with economic opportunity, especially if the girl is poor, just the same way it did in European countries even in the time of Jane Austen, until Emily Bronte came along with her nonsense and turned women's heads everywhere (and a lot of men's too.)
Dominicans don't necessarily connect love and sex. ...t she didn't want any other chica giving it up to him for free, because that would mean she had designs on him.
Does my cat love me? It comes running every time I drive up, it talks aloud to me every time I go in or out of the house, it purrs when I stroke it, but I am under no illusions that it is purely economic opportunism and that if the food stopped coming she and her two kittens would move away from my back door. Nevertheless it is MY cat in a way that other cats aren't.
If you take on a Dominican girl, you will probably be in for a rough ride, because you are dealing with someone from a different culture, but whether you can make it work is up to you and to her. There are no automatic answers.
There is a useful book here that goes more into the dynamics of these relationships:
Amazon.com: Economies of Desire: Sex and Tourism in Cuba and the Dominican Republic (9781592137503): Amalia L. Cabezas: Books
Here is a bit from a review that gives the gist of it:
The guide books, blogs, and web sites of the sex tourists invariably miss or sugarcoat the users' role as exploiters while essentially reveling in the myth of the "happy hooker." At the other extreme, the works that are properly suspicious of sexual relationships across vast economic and cultural divides are invariably too quick to reduce every relationship that has a whiff of money about it to prostitution (often in hyper-moralistic terms). Both camps miss the truth, namely that many of these relationships hover in an economic and romantic gray area where material circumstances and emotional desire are intertwined.
The achievement of "Economies of Desire" is to explore this area in between economics and sex/romance in two concrete cases, the Dominican Republic and Cuba, and to show how the various participants construct novel identities and notions of relationships that defy the existing either/or stereotypes. While the cases are drawn from these two countries, anyone with experience elsewhere will readily appreciate that similar dynamics operate there too. Importantly, the author never loses sight of the fundamentally exploitative aspect of a global tourist industry, yet manages to reveal both the affluent and the poor as people with human agency and humane feelings. It's a remarkably nuanced and therefore important book.
