Don't listen to the naysayers!!! go for it girl!!!! you only live once and you're free to screw up, if that's what you want ... to get screwed. He's the best man in the world for you 'cause he said so on the internet. ... Disclaimer: the devil made me type this :devious:
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I met a Dominican guy on Match.com, advice needed
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I haven't been following the entire post-- but How old are you?? If you are of legal age do what you feel is right.
Maybe he'll turn out to be a jerk-- If he is --get on the next plane and come home. If he's a nice guy enjoy yourself!
You can have everyone on the board try to figure him out but we can't. We don't know the conversations you've had.
Bring a friend along. Don't tell him where you are staying at first. Meet him in a restaurant. Hang out with him for a while. Just go for a long weekend.
Only you can be the judge.
Yeah he can be a liar... so be careful.. that's why you bring a friend.
Maybe he'll turn out to be a jerk-- If he is --get on the next plane and come home. If he's a nice guy enjoy yourself!
You can have everyone on the board try to figure him out but we can't. We don't know the conversations you've had.
Bring a friend along. Don't tell him where you are staying at first. Meet him in a restaurant. Hang out with him for a while. Just go for a long weekend.
Only you can be the judge.
Yeah he can be a liar... so be careful.. that's why you bring a friend.
Miguel, you don't know the other dominicans. Not all dominicans live in barrios where you spend your vacations.
AZB
I am 25 years old...I just have very old fashioned parents....the guy is 28. I am not young, my parents are just old fashioned.
My parents have actually spoke to him on the phone, and they know all about him. It is not a secret. My family knows about him and they know we are friends. What I am saying is if he sent me a gift, they would think we were dating, and I do not want my parents to think I am doing anything rash.
As far as traveling there, my family and I have been to Punta cana a few times and to Boca Chica once as well. So they know about the country, etc. I am thinking about bringing my brother with me to meet my guy. I would feel safe having him there with me.
If you have been to boca chica and punta cana, then you have not seen this country at all. You have seen resorts. Might as well be bahamas.
This is a whole different country than resorts. So where does he live? what city? What place does he work in? Give details and maybe someone can take a look at him before you come.
AZB (I live in santiago)
This is a whole different country than resorts. So where does he live? what city? What place does he work in? Give details and maybe someone can take a look at him before you come.
AZB (I live in santiago)
Kari Ann,
I've been reading this post, If he is making good money down there,etc, etc,& etc. From what I read he is well off. then he should have no trouble getting a visitor's visa to come and see you. so the question that I ask my self is why should you have to be the one to come and meet him in D.R ? If he is really interested in you and wanting to meet you He should be the one taking the first step.
I've been reading this post, If he is making good money down there,etc, etc,& etc. From what I read he is well off. then he should have no trouble getting a visitor's visa to come and see you. so the question that I ask my self is why should you have to be the one to come and meet him in D.R ? If he is really interested in you and wanting to meet you He should be the one taking the first step.
I do not have a boyfriend....I just feel better going there because if it does not work out, I have no connection to him...you know.
He says he can get one, but that it is a lot of paperwork and stuff that he does not want to deal with because he works so much. I just if I asked him to, he would do it....but is it true? Is it a lot of work to get a visa?
How interested are you? You are a 25 year old woman. Go for a long weekend. Santo Domingo has some very nice hotels. Go the Botanic Gardens ect blah blah blah.... You'll be with your brother. Keep him lurking about. If things turn ugly. Tell Mr. Dominican to get lost and you and your brother can have fun the rest of the w/e.
The only way you are going to know is by going. You can beat this like a dead horse. Until you two meet you are not going to know.
The internet is a wonderful thing. It can disguise lots of things-- He's a banker, handsome, makes 100,000 a year.
Once you meet him you'll know immediately!
They just don't hand visas out like candy!
The only way you are going to know is by going. You can beat this like a dead horse. Until you two meet you are not going to know.
The internet is a wonderful thing. It can disguise lots of things-- He's a banker, handsome, makes 100,000 a year.
Once you meet him you'll know immediately!
They just don't hand visas out like candy!
He does not make 100K a year...I know that. I believe he makes something like 70,000 pesos a month or something like that. Not a millionaire by any standards, but he can buy what he wants in his country.
Anyway, you are right. I am going to go see him and see if everything is legit. I will ask to see his job, his friends, etc, and I will see if it pans out. I am actually very excited about it. Thank everyone.
Anyway, you are right. I am going to go see him and see if everything is legit. I will ask to see his job, his friends, etc, and I will see if it pans out. I am actually very excited about it. Thank everyone.
One of my friends just received a US visa back in September. According to him the hassle involved was: fill and print two forms online (he did it at work, but same can be done in any internet center on a weekend), go to Banco Popular (has lots of branches) to buy a PIN to call the consulate, call to schedule your appointment, couple of days before the appointment go to Banco Popular again and pay for the visa, and go to your appointment with as many documents as possible proving that you have very good job, property, family, etc... Yes, some effort, but not unreasonable.
Seems like kari is too cold to the guy. If you don't show him any real interest soon he will get lost all on his own. Don't forget a sea of young good looking girls are waiting for him in SD. He owns a car, his own house and makes decent salary by dominican standards. He is not desperate to go to USA to meet some girl who shows little interest towards him. If you make him pay for your trip and then insist on bringing down your brother as well, then I suggest you forget the whole deal. If your brother comes, then he will not be so interested in meeting you as much as if you would come down alone to spend time with him. I think there is a wide cultural gap between you 2. Kari is just too gringa in her thinking.
I wish you luck.
AZB
I wish you luck.
AZB
My 2 cents
Okay, great. You have a good family, they're protecting their pride and joy. Lucky girl! Don't do anything rash. Seems to me if this guy can get a VISA and he's making excuses, he's either a liar or he's not good enough for you.
Okay, great. You have a good family, they're protecting their pride and joy. Lucky girl! Don't do anything rash. Seems to me if this guy can get a VISA and he's making excuses, he's either a liar or he's not good enough for you.
Now why does he have to come and meet her in USA? wHAT IS A BIG DEAL ABOUT VISA TO USA? She can easily go there and spend some time under the sun. It will be cheaper, he will pay for all and it will cost him less. Now if he goes to USA, he has to wait for visa, file papers and wait and wait, then take time off from work and travel, spend money in dollars and stay at a hotel. She won't spend a dime on him when he is there not to mention any action.
You folks just jump on the bandwagon and start to repeat like chattering monkeys what someone else says. Why not use your own brains for a change?
Let her go there and meet her prince. If she wants a good man then she better pay the price. He will do his part.
AZB
You folks just jump on the bandwagon and start to repeat like chattering monkeys what someone else says. Why not use your own brains for a change?
Let her go there and meet her prince. If she wants a good man then she better pay the price. He will do his part.
AZB
I am gringa...it is true...but I think I can handle him and he can handle me. We are not dating yet, I am not expecting him to wait around for me...but I do plan on going there next month. I am looking into planning the trip now. I will bring my brother for a back up...but he will stay out of my hair too if I ask him too....
Thank you for all your help...
My advice to you is to be friendly to him. Do not look at him with suspicion if he is sincere to you. He maybe a very nice guy who just wants to date a different girl for a change, a girl with a good head on her shoulder. You seem like a nice person, trusting so why not give the man a decent chance?
Do not act too gringa and too cold. I warn you, you will screw up the whole deal if you insist upon being a typical square meal type gringa. The latin culture is warm and hospitable so don't confuse it for anything else. So be careful with your choice of words and actions. He will invite you out to eat so make sure you don't order lobster or any expensive drink to break his piggy bank. Remember this is christmas time and he is spending money like crazy for the upcoming festivities for his family. He may have the responsibility of supporting his younger brothers and sisters and also parents. So be considerate and be warm and friendly to him. Do not make him spend unnessary amount of cash on you. I think you may have a nicer guy than the 98% of foreign women meet in this country.
AZB
This guy sounds like one of my cousins..........
KariAnn, as long as you're open-minded about meeting a stranger (6 months of chatting online doesn't change the fact that yall still haven't met in person) and keep a cool head in case things go wrong, you should be fine. Taking your brother would be a good thing just in case. This guys sounds like one of my cousins down there, owns his own business at 23 yrs of age, can get a visa whenever he feels like it, is humble, makes good money and whatnot, but has no desire to leave the DR. Go with your heart but use your mind, be warm and affectionate, but always keep in mind that you're there to have fun as well
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AZB is right, it's not such a big deal for all Dominicans to get a visa and leave their country if they're doing just fine down there. The guy probably has a bunch of women throwing themselves at him and he might be ignoring them so he can meet you, trust me, alot of us Dominican guys are intelligent and mellow and have enough self-restraint to not go after every pretty chick that wants to get with us. HB and Talldrink also mentioned some really good advice. Good luck and enjoy the trip if you do go
KariAnn, as long as you're open-minded about meeting a stranger (6 months of chatting online doesn't change the fact that yall still haven't met in person) and keep a cool head in case things go wrong, you should be fine. Taking your brother would be a good thing just in case. This guys sounds like one of my cousins down there, owns his own business at 23 yrs of age, can get a visa whenever he feels like it, is humble, makes good money and whatnot, but has no desire to leave the DR. Go with your heart but use your mind, be warm and affectionate, but always keep in mind that you're there to have fun as well
.AZB is right, it's not such a big deal for all Dominicans to get a visa and leave their country if they're doing just fine down there. The guy probably has a bunch of women throwing themselves at him and he might be ignoring them so he can meet you, trust me, alot of us Dominican guys are intelligent and mellow and have enough self-restraint to not go after every pretty chick that wants to get with us. HB and Talldrink also mentioned some really good advice. Good luck and enjoy the trip if you do go
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