Think of your kids first. No way can they get a better edumacation in the DR than within the Chapel Hill community.
Shalena,
I live in North Carolina (Winston-Salem area) and love it. However we do have winter here and last winter was unusually bad.
I don't need to insult you in anyway but I do have come questions. Please don't be offended.
First of all, I would like to know if you are coming here for the sake of your kids or for the sake of your own-self?
I see you have 4 kids but I also remember you had kids with a man who was (or still is) in jail back in usa (all was posted on dr1). So seems like there was no father-figure around to take care of the kids before and now it seems you have another kid with r tigre from san jose de las matas who can't even support himself without relying on your financial help.
I hope you are not coming back to be with him and making another baby in the near future. Seems like you have made all the wrong decisions in the past and now it seems evident that you have made another one with another man. If I remember correctly, you had a good job and were living well in santiago, now it seems totally opposite. You seem to have sold everything at pulga prices to rush back home to have a baby of a man who was not with you through-out the child-birth process. Seems like all he wants to do is to go to usa. So after having 3 kids from another man (or men) you had decided to have another one. Wow, you must be a super-woman to take on responsibilities like this without even winking. Now you are thinking of passing on a good job to come back to live in santiago and be with the man who can't contribute much towards keeping a family together. Nice dilemma we are talking about. You mean to tell me you will pass on a good paying job and put your kids to dominican schools in exchange for american grade schools? Boy o boy. as I missing something?
So I have a feeling, you will do whatever you always decide to do, but it seems like the decision will not be based on your mental processing of con & pro but it will certainly will be a blind decision coming from the heart.
Good luck.
AZB
Sorry I have to be rude like this, don't forget, we are talking about the future of your kids.
My priority would be educating my children to the best of my ability. Granted your kids love Santiago (who wouldn't?) but their future is going to depend on getting the best education possible.
The quality of life in the DR comes at a cost. Ask yourself how well-prepared for the future your kids will be living and attending school there as opposed to the states.
You need to set up a place where your children can acclimate to the challenges of the future. The best way to do that will be through education. The DR ain't the place for that. The area in North Carolina where you'd be working will suit your kids much better to prepare them for high school, college and beyond.
Whatever your children's interests are, they will be better served by attending school in the states.
As for you, eventually, as you get older you will run out of gas. It happens to everyone. Are you going to keep up such a hectic pace in 10-15 years?
A single mother with four children needs some type of network to rely on. You cannot do it all yourself, even though I've always found you to be something of a "Superwoman". Going back and forth constantly for work in the US not only puts added stress on you, but now you must rely on strangers as a support mechanism for your children. As they grow older they will become more independent, but you now have a newborn. I wouldn't leave a newborn with ANYONE.
The more vulnerable you appear (single mother with four kids, no family in the DR, time away from the country working ) the more you open yourself to wolves in sheep's clothing. Ask yourself this-how many times, in your relations with the Dominicans you've had to depend on, has the situation gotten around to them trying to fleece you or otherwise take advantage?
If you had a strong family in the DR to help, I would say go live your dream. But you don't. Your children miss the DR because it was fun for them, but fun time will not prepare them for the challenges they will face as adults.
And without a good education, they face two paths-abject failure or gross underachievement.
I hope this helps and please understand my intentions were not to bash but to illustrate my point of view.
very American of you to ask the opinion of your children....I think the adult should be teliing the children whats happening
I was born and raised in the North East U.S.
I hated the cold and eventually moved to Florida.
After 25 plus years I became a contract programmer.
Spend 1 1/2 years in D.C. area and then a full year in St. Louis.
Funny how making globs of money as a contractor had an effect on my dislike for the cold weather.
Yes but it is expensive, if you will be working part time it will be hard to pay for three kids in this school.I Thought alot about my kids education, this time I would put them in Santiago Christian School. Thus school can match any school in the States and over 90% ( or is it 95%) graduate and go on to University in the States. Google it and check it out for yourself.
SHALENA
Shalena can you accept the position and go back and forth as you did in the past?
I think you should wait for a few months to make the decision, you just had a baby and your hormones are all over the place. How long do you get in the US for maternity leave?