Before we paint everyone with the same brush, the deal is that the divorce rate in Canada is what? 40? 50? %. Life is a gamble even if you marry within your own country, religion and culture. Just ask me or anyone else that is divorced and married within their own culture and language.
**** happens, that's life. Best to get to know someone in their own setting first but that is still no guarantee!!.
The divorce rate in Canada last year was 37%.
I would say marriage to these men is not a gamble, but russian roulette. And your right Anna, you can't paint everyone with the same brush, but I think you can paint most of them with it. Just my opinion....
More often than not, these women are being used and what happened to canadiangirl858 seems is becoming the norm and not the exception when it comes to Dominican/Canadian marriages. The guys who stay married to Canadian women in my opinion, do so not because they are in love with these women, but because they are content. I was reading a blog written by a guy who made to the US and he was saying that he's been married for 10 years and when his son is old enough, he's leaving his American wife. He said he needed a way out of the DR and she was it. People stay married for all sorts of reasons and many of these women think just because they've made it to the 5, 10, 15 year mark of marriage, they have the real deal....maybe they do...and maybe they don't. I guess the same could be said of all marriages.
As someone pointed out to me not so long ago, Dominican men with education and social standing don't bother with foreign women. So..it would seem that if the man needs you more than you need him, you should stop and think. If it's too good to be true, it probably is!
You only have to go look around the net and see the wedding pictures of these unions to see that most of these women are being taken for a ride. Some of the ladies fit the victim profile perfectly .... a little bit older than the groom, and in some cases, plain looking and a bit overweight. Not everyone fits this description, I know. But if you're dating a man who looks like the men who never give you the time of day in your own country, it got to make you wonder how sincere he really is....
I agree with Anna that you should spend some time with a person in their own setting. If you think you've got a good Dominican, go live in his country with him for a while and get to know him. I don't think travelling back and forth 3-4 times a year to see him for mini holidays is a good way to build a relationship. You need to see someone day in and day out. You need to see what makes them tick....their highs and lows. I wonder how many disasters could be avoided if some women took the time to get to know their significant other in this manner.
As for **** happens, that's life...well this is a bit more than ****, marriage for visa constitutes fraud and is illegal. Not only do these women get their lives turned inside out, but they have deal with the fact that not only has their marriage ended, their marriage was a lie from the get-go and in most cases, they are the last ones to know. Imagine dealing with the pain and humiliation of all that!
I applaud the women who come here and tell their stories. I wish more of you ladies would come forward so that maybe other women can stop and think before they act. Too many of these men are landing in Toronto and Montreal every other month and they have no right to be in our country. There are decent Dominican men but how many of them end up in our country???? Not too many I suspect.
