meeting girls in Santo Domingo

[Indie]

THAT WAS MOI...

...Because it takes one to know one!

Nah. I mentioned the Cibao region of the DR because it still maintains traditional, cultural, and historical values more so than Santo Domingo, the capital. That may be because the city of Santo Domingo has become very modernized throughout the years, and has done so faster than the rural areas of the country.

I believe modernization and education are closely related. And the more modernized, educated and open-minded a person is, the more likely he or she would be to have liberal views, question authority (read: parents), tradition, and able to change societal norms for him/herself. Also, it is less likely he or she would hang on to traditional or familial values imposed by society throughout the years. In my opinion, that is the present-day status and mind-set of women in Santo Domingo, and you'll be luckier there.

In no way am I saying Cibao women are less educated. But, believe it or not, you can still meet college-age and college-educated girls there who still want to (and at times, must) remain virgins until they marry, and their families are fiercely protective of this. Chaperoned-dating is still strictly enforced. (Is that what you're looking for?) How's that for solid traditional values?

If you're looking for something a bit more balanced, I suggest you go to Santiago. Located in the Cibao region, it's the DR's second largest city....and the majority of the girls are level-headed, sweet, and beautiful.

Buena suerte et bonne chance!

-Indie

 

[philly]

how about an university or a intensive spanish class aimed at tourists ... you could try and court your teacher then again there is always Belize...

Don't forget the church too.

Good Luck!

 

[liquid]

Spanish class is a good idea, or maybe even teaching english privatly could lead to interesting things too...we'll see...I'll be there for a few weeks in september, and I'll most likely be back for a couple of months to escape our brutal winter...
Church really isn't my thing...I'd have a hard time faking it.
Anyway, I'm more concerned about locations because last time I was there I had a hard time finding things...once I finally did, I realized they were usually just around the corner and I just didn't know it. IF anyone can suggest places in Santiago that would be helpful too....hehehe.bye

 

[ltsnyder]

You can do ok if your commited to learning the language.

You must gain a working knowledge of spanish. I can't give you the ins and outs of dating and meeting people, it's the same all over the world, but don't worry too much about the local competition, if your honest and true women will seek you out. Just don't expect a quick fix place to meet these girls, it takes time.

-Lee

 

[AnheloQuisqueya]

New York, New York

I've seen alot of beautiful women in DR too, but don't know too much about meeting them since I always have my Dominicana celosa with me.

New York is alot closer to home for you and has huge Dominican enclaves. Check out Club New York, the Copa, and so on.

 

[Criss Colon]

No "Gimmicks" needed to meet girls in the DR!!!!!

You just walk up to the lady of your choice and introduce yourself! Then smile as she talks, and show an interest in what she has to say! Let her talk! Dominican men ,like men everywhere,try to impress the ladies with how important,rich,connected,and "Cool" they are! The ladies have heard the same story 1000 times!!! Let someone show a sincere interest in them,and what they have to say,you will be a big winner!
Cris Colon

 

[AZB]

trick to meeting sweet dominican girls: Be real and be yourself. Don' try to be someone you are not.
The most important ingredient = humor. Must learn dominican humor and mix it with your foreign humor but keep it simple. Dominicans are easy to please when it comes to fun and laughter. Be funny and sincere and you will break the ice in no time. Be aggressive which mean don't act like a gentleman (like we see in the Black & white movies). Girls hate a Pendejo. Be a man but also don't disrespect her either. Dominican girls love a tigre but one who has class and style as opposed to a broke "tigre" who dresses up like a chopo with a hot haircut and baggy pants with rings and chains.
Be young looking and dress well (no shorts and old jeans) but most of all, make sure you know how to dance and speak spanish. If you are lacking the above requirements then be prepared to pay for the hookers and forget what i just mentioned above.
Good luck

 

[Criss Colon]

Thank God for money,and Hookers!!!

I have lots of both!!!!!
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I don't want girls with good taste,I want girls that "TASTE GOOD"!!!!!!!

 

[Pavan]

Missing's point of view

Mr. Liquid,

What I am about to write is strictly my opinion and may or may not work for you. I lived there for 10 years and I think most people will never go thru what I have been thru. At the same time I am no Grand Master at "pussy handling".

When I moved out of DR and started going there as a tourist my Modus Operandi had to be adjusted for the HSST (High Speed Short Time) deals. Now we are talking about females who come from established families no putas or chicka beeper etc.

Here are some of my rules:

1. Be confident, if you stammer, become nervous you are already out. Forget how rich you are or how much your old man will leave you when he kicks the bucket. Most of those females have enough money for change to make your head spin.

2. How you dress, walk, talk, and conduct yourself will be very carefully scrutinized. Forget telling you live in NYC...that will not fly. Try to talk slowly, chose your words and extremly important watch your table manners. Forget that you are eating in McDonalds or watching baseball with your loser friends. NO forks in the right hand please and no napkins around your necks. Boy...I love the Gringos who lose like this.

3. NBO: No bending over....keep your stand and do not let her tell you what to do. Be firm yet gentle.

4. FP=EP: Free Pussy=Expensive Pussy...thats why my brother Criss Colon stays put with the hookers....he can't go wrong there.
So if you have a real classy woman....I mean classy.... not what most guys go gaga over.....expect a diner or two before you proceed anywhere. The moment the chick orders a fancy drink and does not drink it......drop her...she is a someone wanna be.
The moment she starts complaining about food in a restaurant and becomes finiky....kill her and do the rest of us a favour.

5. TYI: Trust your instincts. Within 5 minutes of meeting a chick I usually know if it is worth it or no. This you just got to develop as soon as you can and only you can do it. You will not always be right here but sure save some bucks if you are right. Even Grand Masters like AZB get fooled sometimes......hell last week the greek god took us on a "all sorted out and ready" adventure only 200 miles of each other and all within 18 hours for nada!!! But, that is a part of the deal..........no guarantees.


6. TMTO: Try Many take One. Hey if you meet just one chick do not be sold out on her. Keep meeting as many as you can and some will be happy to fulfil your sexual desires....

7. TD: Target date: Set yourself a target date to screw the chick. If you fail to score by then.....she goes in the automatic back burner...remember...retired...not fired......she will come back as soon as she finds out you are not interested.

8. LANOS: Late arrivals and no shows: Very common in the DR. The first late arrival is escused, the second.......do not wait for her...she will be beggin you for a date and she will come before time.

9. P & C: Prize and Competition...very important.Remember whatever the social level...the competition between chicks is very strong and fierce....you can get many she only has you or maybe a sorry dick or two at the most......

10: SITREP: Situation Report: When you go in a bar. Take a walk around and see what the scene is like. A table with 6 girls is very difficult to break into. Most of the times the girls have a pact that no guys only them for the night etc. Also avoid a girl with a Dominican Guy as an over coat. You don't want to be a part of a Dominican barbecue where you are the meat. Easiest is two girls and a guy. The lone chick is feeling out of place and looking at her friend is dying to get something going on her own too. Do not waste time in bars where there are groups, families, find another one. Now if you see a Dominican Guy with three females on a table..he knows he is also f_ucked!!! He probably invited one female who took the liberty of inviting a cousin and her friend....SOP amongst chicks there. In this case start talking to the guy, offer to buy a beer and he will be more than happy to set you up.

11. REMF: Rear End Mother F_uckers: Nothing wrong with being a REMF. Specially if you are with a group of drunk friends. Just sit back and watch these guys drive home a water buffalo charge at a flock of quail and see what happens. If it is a successful coup then do not waste time..join right in..However, if after 30 seconds of the charge the chicks start yawning and looking at their watches and your buddies are pondering sheepishly over the next step....stay back.

12. PCOD: Pussy Cut Off Date: Comes into effect 48 hours before your flight time out of the DR. Forget meeting any new chicks or leaving some irons in the fire for next time, unless you are coming back real soon. Two days......you need to be really lucky to score.....I just sit back with what I have and so avoid those fancy 100 dollar dinners just because I got a kiss on the cheek.


Happy hunting buddy.

 

[Robert]

missing_dr - I'm sure some people will take offense to the bluntness of your post, but the reality is it's pretty good.

Those are things that you learn over time, a newbie fresh off the boat will still be in "Cosmopolitan Guy" mode

 

[AnnaC]

You can always tell when missing has been hanging around another Santiago resident who's name I won't mention and it ain't Hillbilly.

 

[ltsnyder]

The missing link . . . .

Sounds like missing_drs plans are about meeting a girl quick, but why not just keep one, sounds like he goes into contiunous "pick up" mode until 2 days before departure. Kind of reminds me of a dog I had, he loved the hunt, but that was it. One day he got loose on a farm and went around all night chasing down chickens, he would grab em by the neck, shake and drop the dead chicken seeing a dead chicken was no fun. In the morning there were dead chickens everywhere.

Ok, maybe a bad colorfull metaphore, but am I right, does this pickup mode continue for mulitple girls until 2 days before departure?

-Lee

 

[Forbeca]

I don't know if liquid is still around....

..but if I remember correctly he wanted to meet an educated nice girl who he can have a relationship with. He wants a keeper. Except for TonyC, Indie and myself few others addressed that issue.

 

[FRANKY R]

wow down to a science

my my my mr. missing dr has the game down packed.

well well well , my hat goes off to you my man.

I consider myself a pro. and I can say that I have learned with your numerous data. thank you keep' em coming

 

[mimi]

pathetic

my my my mr. missing dr has the game down packed.

well well well , my hat goes off to you my man.

I consider myself a pro. and I can say that I have learned with your numerous data. thank you keep' em coming

instead of giving this guy some hints on meeting the type of girl he wants, you're taking your hat off to someone who is gross to say the least. That tells me a lot about you., Be more original.

Liquid:

People are the same the world over. If you behave yourself and try to get along with people, you should not have a problem. I hope you find the right person. Good luck

 

[liquid]

Thanks for the message, but you didn't really answer my question....
where do I go?
Santodomingo is huge! And kind of a crazy place....Last time I was there, I just found it hard to discover the cool local hang outs....I am looking for more of an insight into that.

 

[Forbeca]

Liquid when are you going on your trip?

Santodomingo is huge! And kind of a crazy place....Last time I was there, I just found it hard to discover the cool local hang outs....I am looking for more of an insight into that.

I don't know if you have these places on your list, but while speaking to my nephew, who lives in DR, he mentioned the following, said they are most appropriate for your age group.

Tao Room Avenida Lincoln
POP Lounge Zona Colonial
Abacus Zona Colonial
Praia - Zona Naco (smooth young crowd)

Hope this helps

 

[An Evil]

Help from a local

You don't need to go to Santiago, liquid. The profile you seek can be found in plenties in Sto. Dgo. However, like missing dr says, you may have to spend time.

It appears you don't want to do the tourist's tour, valga la redundancia. My advice echoes a lot of the people here.

1. Dress decent: Clashing with the crowd is sort of bad luck. You want conservative, you dress like it.

1a. The only nocturnal places were you'll get away with a T-shirt and sneakers are the pubs "sanctioned" by the in-crowd, located at the colonial zone. These bars are grungy and have short lives. Ocho Puertas and Los Falafels are currently active. The former is near Las Mercedes St, the latter in Padre Billini St.

1b. For any other place, a modest shirt, clean jeans (not torn), and some loafer-type shoes.

2. If you're going to be coming here ocasionally, learn some language. A lot of the "traditional" girls you seek know english, but a person who doesn't know the language is a bit of an outcast where the locals meet: Fun to exercise the english, but a burden at times. Knowing some spanish is key if you have to be reviewed by the family. If you'll only be here two more times, then you decide if it's worth the effort.

3. Don't go over-board trying to charm everybody. If you can't dance or don't feel like it, don't. Apply that to anything else.

4. To missing_dr's list of possible chicks, I would add the classic girl couple. Be nice to both of them, and let things take their course until a choice is clear (it sounds more icky than how it really is).

5. The places:
(trying to find places on your own is madness on your first trips. Write down the address and let the taxi take you there. If you're coming often, get a map, because most of the places are along the big avenues, and you learn those pretty quick)

The first six are around the Naco-Piantini burroughs.

5a. I would call SteakHouse Cafe the standard. An all around good place, we all love it. The crowd is just what you're looking for, but it isn't a pick-up place. It's mostly tables with most people drinking and few dining. This is a great place to get a feel for regulars, and people who can take you to any other place. A good place to try and save that poor guy with the 3 chicks that missing_dr mentioned. Ensanche Naco, calle Gustavo Mej?a Ricart, between avenidas Lope de Vega and Tiradentes.

5b. Tr?o Caf?: Avenida Abraham Lincoln, esquina Lope de Vega, Plaza Castilla. This place gets a little packed, and the pick-up scene gets ridiculously overt. It's still a regular place.

5c. Caf? Kiev: Abraham Lincoln, esquina Victor Garrido Puello. The place is a bit snobbish, but it's the same crowd. Put on a smug face and talk down to people.

5d. MonteCristo: Jos? Amado Soler, casi esquina Abraham Lincoln. Try and check this place. Gets a good crowd, chicks come in all sorts: pairs, groups, mis-matched numbers, etc. Has a small dance floor, but it's mostly another sitting down place.

5e. Praia: Very hot at the moment. Gustavo Mej?a Ricart. Decorated with wine bottles all over, it has become infested with people.

5f. Acr?polis. A 22-stories tower, the first 4 floors are a shopping mall with several bars and restaurants. TGIFridays, Outback SteakHouse, and a couple more that scape my name at the moment. Avenida Winston Churchill, esquina Rafael Augusto S?nchez.

5g. Doubles: Back in the colonial zone. Calle Arzobispo Meri?o, casi esquina Padre Billini. Good place, lots of regulars.

5f. Casa de Teatro: Arzobispo Meri?o, one block south from Doubles. Semi-Bohemian art place. Works the same crowd as the grungy bars I mentioned before, but you need to dress decently depending on the show. Not much people unless something special is taking place. However, a good place for getting acquainted with interesting people. Or you could just go to the pubs...

5g. Dance places are tricky: The crowd is more mixed than the bars, dancing is the only common denominator. Ask for Neon at the Hotel Santo Domingo/Hispaniola, Jubilee at the Hotel Jaragua. I myself would recommend starting at the bars (some have small dance floors) and jumping to discos if the situation merits it. However, any one who visits Santo Domingo should visit La Gu?cara. A disco in a underground cave. You'll love it even if they're playing the Barney song.

 

[Indie]

GREAT POST!

An Evil, welcome aboard! That was really good advice you gave liquid, and your list of places for him to visit was excellent as well. Thanks!

-Indie

 

[AZB]

Start your search before you even come to DR.

While you are sitting home looking at this webpage, get a head start. go to www.latinchat.com
now seek out dominican republic chatroom and log on. Spanish is a must to type and understand but type in english and see how many girls would respond to you. Then you can carry out a private message chat with her and eventually put her on your Msn messenger list to continue talking. This is a great way to meet a girl who, atleast, know how to use a PC. Then have her send you a picture so you would know what she looks like. You will be surprised to see how many pretty young bored girls sit in their rooms or internet cafes to seek the right man. I have met far better quailty of girls via internet than in bars / discos. These internet girls are not your average whores who drink like sosua drunks. They can be a bit shy and innocent but they all want the same thing as you do, meet someone special.
Whenever I travel to a latin country, I always check out the net to make friends there first. This way when I arrive, I am already set. So my friend, start from internet first and then check out the discos. have fun.
P.S. only if you knew what I had last night through the internet, you wouldn't believe your eyes.