Met my husband here and need some advice

lifeisgreat

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Serenitydp you know the answers you seek rest is up to you! Sink or swim...you won’t find your answers here sorry :(
 

the gorgon

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Yes but then when he split from his wife in 2009 then he should have went back. If he is so unhappy here

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i understand your assertion that he should have gone home when he split up with his former wife. however, the moving parts at that time in his life might have been convoluted, and maybe he decided to give it a shot in Canada..maybe he thought that he had a better shot financially in Canada...who knows?
 

Serenitydp

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i understand your assertion that he should have gone home when he split up with his former wife. however, the moving parts at that time in his life might have been convoluted, and maybe he decided to give it a shot in Canada..maybe he thought that he had a better shot financially in Canada...who knows?
Yes maybe. I mean I know it is tough for someone to come to another country when they are older especially if they loved where they were. I think it was for his family back home that he stayed to give them opportunity. Also he really cares what people think of him so he may not have wanted to go back with nothing. My thing is I rather him be happy then miserable.

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the gorgon

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Yes maybe. I mean I know it is tough for someone to come to another country when they are older especially if they loved where they were. I think it was for his family back home that he stayed to give them opportunity. Also he really cares what people think of him so he may not have wanted to go back with nothing. My thing is I rather him be happy then miserable.

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i think you have a very good understanding of the motivations. people who plan to emigrate are going to be met with two different sets of responders. one cohort is going to tell them not to go, because the grass is not greener on the other side. the other guys are going to convince them that they will be better off if they go. so, returning home with nothing to show for it creates two unpleasant scenarios..

1..they feel they have disappointed the folks who encouraged them to go..

2...they fell they have given the last word and laugh to those who told them to stay put.

going back home in third world countries is not pretty. if you have to look to people to hire you, they sometimes take the approach that the only reason you want their job is because you could not get one with gringo.
 

Aguaita29

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He had his first kid with a Dominican also in canada and she actually had him scared. It wasnt until he met me that i told him she can't call cops on you just because you are at the same place etc.
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Maybe she had him scared for a reason.
 

Auryn

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"Peroooo, no es mi culpa....." And yes she can call the cops on him if she had some sort of peace bond or protection order against him.
 

Serenitydp

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"Peroooo, no es mi culpa....." And yes she can call the cops on him if she had some sort of peace bond or protection order against him.
Yes but she didnt. He was new here and didnt know the ins and outs

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jad604

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So been married with my husband 6 years and things are very difficult. He is very selfish along with his family and he was raised very tough and with basically no love and he is the same with our kids. He doesn't want to spend time with us it is all about him and what he wants to do and we are always last. Everything is about the DR and how he misses it etc. So I tell him I didn't bring you here and if you miss it you should have gone back. He ruins every holiday I have as he is not happy. I am at a loss. I am near the end. Dont know what to do.

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For the first 6 years my wife acted foolishly too. I call her a joy thief. I put her out for a year almost. We have a son. I relented and took her back. I realize my happiness doesn't depend upon her. I got her a job and make her contribute money monthly. Her stubbornness only hurts her. 7 years later her attitude still sucks but it goes only to her detriment. It's why I've taken so long to bring her 1st child here. My money is used to keep MY HOUSE updated. She works as often as she can, avg 6 days a week. Her money pays her car insurance and maintenance, 2001 Infiniti. She is the victim of her own demise and doesn't realize that if she just shifted her mind things would be great for her, in comparison to her previous life they already are. I'm not unhappy and we're okay paying our own bills plus the money she gives me. I give her no money but plenty of opportunities to earn. I'm about to retire and would like to live in or near Las Terranas in an expat community. I won't buy because of the marital laws giving her half my property so I want to rent a house from December to April for a few years.. I digress. Give your spouse either additional time or put his ass out so he'll realize the good situation he blew up. Good luck.