First of all, last I checked, I am a man so I know a thing or two about the topic at hand.
Second of all, I don't think there are MANY Dominican men that are worth the time and effort SOME women put in them. BUUUUT
Before I take a much needed vacation from DR1 (actually, my g/f and I took a few weeks off from work, starting tomorrow afternoon, to drive around the greatest and most beautiful country in the world, the good ol' US of A, wahaha), and I thought I leave a little "present" to SOME of my "friends" here as we all know that the "season" (wink, wink) started already.
As always, it will be LOOONG so those that don't like to read LOONG posts, por favor, stop reading at the next period (.)>.
And PLEEEEEASE, all rants, complains, speeches, advices and other "rules" are welcomed. What it's not welcomed are "hints", "jabs" or "attacks" while I am NOT here. If going to do so, let's be fair and do it while I am here.
Here you go and brace yourselves......
If you find yourself a Dominican whom you think is worth your time and you want to start a serious relationship with him:
1- Make sure he is from a good stable family. It doesn't matter if he is rich or poor as long as he is proud of them and helps them out, even if NOT living with them.
2- Observe the way he behaves with his family, ESPECIALLY his mother and sisters. If he lets them do EVERYTHING for him, that's a red flag.
3- Take EVERYTHING he says with a "grain of salt". There's NOTHING wrong with you asking questions and him "backing-up" what he is telling you. For example: A) if he tells you he owns where he lives, ask him to show you the house's title, B) if he tells you he has money in the bank, ask him to show you the account, C) if he tells you that the car is his, ask him to show you the car title, D) if he tells you me makes "such and such", ask him to show you his pay stub, E) WHATEVER he tells you he has, trying to impress you, ask him to prove it to you. If by any chance he gives you ANY kind of excuse as to why he can't prove it, take it as a BIIIIG red flag.
WARNING:Remember that a glimpse into his past and present WILL give YOU a glimpse of what the future holds for you and your life with him.
4- Do NOT ask him, his family or friends BUUUT DO ask SOME of his neighbors about SOME of his former girlfriends and/or wife (ves). Ask them where they live and do NOT be shy to pay them a visit, WITHOUT him. If you want to invest on this guy, there's NOTHING wrong with you trying to find out how he is and NOBODY knows him better than his former mates. If he is as great as he is telling you, THEY WILL tell you if he is lying.
5- If he has any kids, observe the way he treats them. Ask his ex, NOT HIM, if he takes care of them financially, NOT every now and then but ALWAYS. If he dresses better than his kids, there's a big red flag.
6- If someone tells you something negative about him, do NOT believe him when he tells you they are jealous of him and that his exes are making things up because they are hurt HE left them and do NOT want to see him happy with someone else.
7- Just because he portrays himself as "the victim" in all hardships, it does NOT mean he is. His family WILL tell you the same thing but it does NOT mean you have to believe it. They are HIS family and they DO want the best for him, and them. If they put him on a pedestal, look around for red flags.
8- If he takes you to meet his parents and friends right away, look for red flags. That's the first trap. Just because he takes you to meet his parents and friends does NOT mean he is a good "catch".
9- If he frequents bars or discos and like to hang out with friends all the time, even if he tells you it's to "relax", that's a big red flag.
10- Observe how responsible he is and who well he takes care of his responsibilities. Ask to see if all his bills and debts (if any) are paid off and up to date.
11- Make sure he is NOT trying to leave the country, at any cost. If he has a good job, properties, money in the bank and is doing good in the DR, there's no need for him to even hint he would like to live with you in YOUR country.
12- If he tells you he would like for YOU to relocate to the DR to live with him, SIT with him, pen and paper on hand, and ask him how HE will manage to support you, for a while, with the amount of money he makes. Chances are he is just telling you that because he wants YOU to think he cares for you more than he really does.
13- If after knowing him for a while and if you believe he is the man of your "dreams" and if you can, take a leave of absence from your job and move to the DR for up to 6 months. See what he does day in and day out, how he behaves day in and day out, how he treats his friends, family and kids, day in and day out. As we all know, he can tell you all he wants but at the end of the day, you WILL only get to know a person REAL well ONLY when you spend a long period of time with that person and 2 or 3 weeks a year and a few calls a day will NOT cut it.
14- If by any chance he even HINTS about not being able to pay for certain things, even English classes or ANTHYTHING, or can NOT pay "this or that", is always talking about how hard life in the DR is, it's time for you to move on. Why?: A) NO decent and proud Dominican man, rich or poor, would even dream of telling a woman they want to be with their problems, B) If they are proud, they would be ashamed to admit they can NOT take care of their responsibilities, C) Even if they need the help, they would NOT take it, NOT once, twice of three times, from someone they are trying to court or impress as it does NOT say much about their manhood, D) A good and proud Dominican man, rich or poor, will NOT accept ALL kind of gifts from a woman they are courting or trying to impress, even monetary gifts. SOME gifts, yes, as long as they can return the favor, sort of speak.
15- Last but not least, if you decide you want to get serious with a Resort worker, just know that the odds are against YOU for the relationship NOT to be successful. I will not post an estimate because my opinion is that there are only a few who are NOT Sankies (VEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERY few). But just be aware of a few things about Resort workers: A) They barely make enough money to even support themselves, therefore YOU WILL pay for just about EVERYTHING, B) MOST are poor and uneducated, therefore looking for a way out, C) MOST have a few kids YOU WILL have to sponsor if you decide to marry one, D) MOST have a wife or girlfriend/s in their hometown, E) MOST have a few foreign girlfriends who are in the same boat as YOU, F) MOST will NOT bring stability into your life, if anything YOU WILL have to start from the bottom up, all over again, G) MOST WILL portray themselves to be someone they are NOT just to plant "the seed" of deception, H) When YOU marry him and pay for most of the wedding, life with him WILL NOT be as "paradise" as when YOU visited him in the DR so try NOT to get pregnant right away. The longer you wait, the better, even if 5-6 years.....
There are MUCH, MUCH more I can write but I don't have ALL year, so guys, help me out here, if you care to participate.
Have fun you all and as I always say:
"Sankies are NOT only those one finds in a Resort as we know they "work" EVERYWHERE". ANNNNND:
"You can take your Sankie out of the DR BUUUUT you can't take their religion, "SANKIES FOR LIFE" out of them".
ENJOY!!!.
Ooooh, before I forget:
Wahahahahahahahaha!!.
Second of all, I don't think there are MANY Dominican men that are worth the time and effort SOME women put in them. BUUUUT
Before I take a much needed vacation from DR1 (actually, my g/f and I took a few weeks off from work, starting tomorrow afternoon, to drive around the greatest and most beautiful country in the world, the good ol' US of A, wahaha), and I thought I leave a little "present" to SOME of my "friends" here as we all know that the "season" (wink, wink) started already.
As always, it will be LOOONG so those that don't like to read LOONG posts, por favor, stop reading at the next period (.)>.
And PLEEEEEASE, all rants, complains, speeches, advices and other "rules" are welcomed. What it's not welcomed are "hints", "jabs" or "attacks" while I am NOT here. If going to do so, let's be fair and do it while I am here.
Here you go and brace yourselves......
If you find yourself a Dominican whom you think is worth your time and you want to start a serious relationship with him:
1- Make sure he is from a good stable family. It doesn't matter if he is rich or poor as long as he is proud of them and helps them out, even if NOT living with them.
2- Observe the way he behaves with his family, ESPECIALLY his mother and sisters. If he lets them do EVERYTHING for him, that's a red flag.
3- Take EVERYTHING he says with a "grain of salt". There's NOTHING wrong with you asking questions and him "backing-up" what he is telling you. For example: A) if he tells you he owns where he lives, ask him to show you the house's title, B) if he tells you he has money in the bank, ask him to show you the account, C) if he tells you that the car is his, ask him to show you the car title, D) if he tells you me makes "such and such", ask him to show you his pay stub, E) WHATEVER he tells you he has, trying to impress you, ask him to prove it to you. If by any chance he gives you ANY kind of excuse as to why he can't prove it, take it as a BIIIIG red flag.
WARNING:Remember that a glimpse into his past and present WILL give YOU a glimpse of what the future holds for you and your life with him.
4- Do NOT ask him, his family or friends BUUUT DO ask SOME of his neighbors about SOME of his former girlfriends and/or wife (ves). Ask them where they live and do NOT be shy to pay them a visit, WITHOUT him. If you want to invest on this guy, there's NOTHING wrong with you trying to find out how he is and NOBODY knows him better than his former mates. If he is as great as he is telling you, THEY WILL tell you if he is lying.
5- If he has any kids, observe the way he treats them. Ask his ex, NOT HIM, if he takes care of them financially, NOT every now and then but ALWAYS. If he dresses better than his kids, there's a big red flag.
6- If someone tells you something negative about him, do NOT believe him when he tells you they are jealous of him and that his exes are making things up because they are hurt HE left them and do NOT want to see him happy with someone else.
7- Just because he portrays himself as "the victim" in all hardships, it does NOT mean he is. His family WILL tell you the same thing but it does NOT mean you have to believe it. They are HIS family and they DO want the best for him, and them. If they put him on a pedestal, look around for red flags.
8- If he takes you to meet his parents and friends right away, look for red flags. That's the first trap. Just because he takes you to meet his parents and friends does NOT mean he is a good "catch".
9- If he frequents bars or discos and like to hang out with friends all the time, even if he tells you it's to "relax", that's a big red flag.
10- Observe how responsible he is and who well he takes care of his responsibilities. Ask to see if all his bills and debts (if any) are paid off and up to date.
11- Make sure he is NOT trying to leave the country, at any cost. If he has a good job, properties, money in the bank and is doing good in the DR, there's no need for him to even hint he would like to live with you in YOUR country.
12- If he tells you he would like for YOU to relocate to the DR to live with him, SIT with him, pen and paper on hand, and ask him how HE will manage to support you, for a while, with the amount of money he makes. Chances are he is just telling you that because he wants YOU to think he cares for you more than he really does.
13- If after knowing him for a while and if you believe he is the man of your "dreams" and if you can, take a leave of absence from your job and move to the DR for up to 6 months. See what he does day in and day out, how he behaves day in and day out, how he treats his friends, family and kids, day in and day out. As we all know, he can tell you all he wants but at the end of the day, you WILL only get to know a person REAL well ONLY when you spend a long period of time with that person and 2 or 3 weeks a year and a few calls a day will NOT cut it.
14- If by any chance he even HINTS about not being able to pay for certain things, even English classes or ANTHYTHING, or can NOT pay "this or that", is always talking about how hard life in the DR is, it's time for you to move on. Why?: A) NO decent and proud Dominican man, rich or poor, would even dream of telling a woman they want to be with their problems, B) If they are proud, they would be ashamed to admit they can NOT take care of their responsibilities, C) Even if they need the help, they would NOT take it, NOT once, twice of three times, from someone they are trying to court or impress as it does NOT say much about their manhood, D) A good and proud Dominican man, rich or poor, will NOT accept ALL kind of gifts from a woman they are courting or trying to impress, even monetary gifts. SOME gifts, yes, as long as they can return the favor, sort of speak.
15- Last but not least, if you decide you want to get serious with a Resort worker, just know that the odds are against YOU for the relationship NOT to be successful. I will not post an estimate because my opinion is that there are only a few who are NOT Sankies (VEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERY few). But just be aware of a few things about Resort workers: A) They barely make enough money to even support themselves, therefore YOU WILL pay for just about EVERYTHING, B) MOST are poor and uneducated, therefore looking for a way out, C) MOST have a few kids YOU WILL have to sponsor if you decide to marry one, D) MOST have a wife or girlfriend/s in their hometown, E) MOST have a few foreign girlfriends who are in the same boat as YOU, F) MOST will NOT bring stability into your life, if anything YOU WILL have to start from the bottom up, all over again, G) MOST WILL portray themselves to be someone they are NOT just to plant "the seed" of deception, H) When YOU marry him and pay for most of the wedding, life with him WILL NOT be as "paradise" as when YOU visited him in the DR so try NOT to get pregnant right away. The longer you wait, the better, even if 5-6 years.....
There are MUCH, MUCH more I can write but I don't have ALL year, so guys, help me out here, if you care to participate.
Have fun you all and as I always say:
"Sankies are NOT only those one finds in a Resort as we know they "work" EVERYWHERE". ANNNNND:
"You can take your Sankie out of the DR BUUUUT you can't take their religion, "SANKIES FOR LIFE" out of them".
ENJOY!!!.
Ooooh, before I forget:
Wahahahahahahahaha!!.
