Don't get sucked into HER sense of desperation. She wants to have kids NOW but that doesn't mean YOU have to.
She wants to control all aspects of the relationship-when to have sex, how it will go down(no protection, no birth control pills) and how quickly she wants to have kids with someone she has dated TWICE.
Step away from the situation and ask yourself if in any other part of your life do you let people steamroll you like this.
Did she bother to ask you what YOU wanted out of life? I can only assume that from what you've said there is no room for negotiation. It is her way and that is that.
Some Dominican women believe that gringos are passive and quite the opposite of the typical macho latino. She would not dare put those type of conditions on a Dominican male, and if she did the guy would just walk away.
A Dominican male would not doubt his position in life or what he wants in a relationship. But apparently this scenario is working on your mind because you seem a bit more liberal in nature.
This may sound harsh but I am not questioning her sense of desperation and urgency-I am questioning YOURS.
Because if YOU really knew what you wanted out of life, this would not be an issue that you would seek advice over.
Now if you share her same sensibilities, then go for it. You will be all set. But at your age I would be very leery of someone who is so quick to write the script for my life on the second date.
In the DR, the man makes the decisions. In the US, it is more of a consensus. Where is it that YOU stand by having her run your whole show?
come on FRANCES lighten up a little....we all know he didnt give us all her words verbatim...lets give the girl a little credit...and figure "our" man left out a little...ok
I am sure he condensed the way it went down and may have tainted it or left some stuff out.....
I had talked on line with a girl before my last trip to the DR and so when i met her face to face it was NOTHING like meeting a person cold for the first time...it was relaxed and we felt as if we had known each other a longer time than we had.....so the same was probably true for this couple...by the time the first date rolls around you are leanring more physical stuff than mental stuff.
try and look at it from the girls angle.....she wants to date him, but she has reservations...just like he does...thus the reason he is here.
you cant always take the worst case scenario from your imagination or from experience.... and play it over and over as "the way it is"
I dated a dominican for 3 years.....you ever see me..GRINGOITIS big time...and the girl broke all the pre concieved sterotypes you guys could dish out.
I wish I still had her...but beyond that I met a few women that should have fallen into your "catergories"...but they turned out really normal ..
they ended up being as normal as the girls I work with who are dominican...nice , polite, real, passionate, no scaming....no BS.....
definately lower morals standards...BUT thats it....everything else about them was a good as any woman you could hope to find...fun...trusting...truthfull, honest....
maybe I have just been the luckiest gringo to land there!!!
I cant find all those Awful faults we are warned about over and over..
but if anyone wants to call Tavina and tell her I miss her.....go ahead!! ha ha ha
This has been the worst year of my life period hands down.....and i just cant help but to try and counter so many negative things some people want to say about meeting others..
life is dynamic...... drive it...dont go along for the ride...it may end before you know
bad bad......BOB
My fear is that my horse might break the cart
