Oh the conundrum

Manuel01

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My kid's older brother's new wife is 9 months pregnant and ready to have the baby. The problem is given she's illegal, she can't get into the hospital for pre-natal. Not sure about the actual birth.

So he's asking me for a part or all of the 45000 pesos needed for a clinic birth. My initial reaction is that I didn't bring her over illegally (about 1 year ago) and I didn't F her so why should I have to pay? However, if something happens to her or the baby, I don't know if I could forgive myself. Hence the conundrum. Additionally, the older bro has saved all of 7000 pesos for this in the 9 month pregnancy.

And yes, I'm illegal here and so is my kid. However, I pay for all his stuff so he is not a burden to the DR. That includes med issues.

My hope is that they can define childbirth as an emergency so that she can give birth in a public hospital and then be discharged rapidly.

I'm just wondering what others think.
BS ! she can go to every public hospital. In every public maternity station you find 2 illegal for every Dominican women.
And she will not deported from there. Never gonna happen. You think they gonna throw a women into a overcrowded bus after giving birth.!?
But she is not getting any VIP treatment either this i can guarantee you as well.
 

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BS ! she can go to every public hospital. In every public maternity station you find 2 illegal for every Dominican women.
And she will not deported from there. Never gonna happen. You think they gonna throw a women into a overcrowded bus after giving birth.!?
But she is not getting any VIP treatment either this i can guarantee you as well.
The last few days they have been publishing videos of immigration doing just that.
 

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I would suggest in future for birthdays and christmas .....you give him condoms or have him sterilised ......if he can only produce 7000 pesos in 9 months he should not be siring any off spring
 
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Read the OP again. So as this is obviously no emergency, they had 9 months time to prepare for this, and all they could do was 7000 pesos extra during 9 months. How are they planning to feed the newborn or pay for the pediatric care? I hope they did not wait the 9 months and only now realized that they need funds for the birth.
This is the Dominican/Haitian way of doing things: don't think about tomorrow and hope things work out.
 
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BS ! she can go to every public hospital. In every public maternity station you find 2 illegal for every Dominican women.
And she will not deported from there. Never gonna happen. You think they gonna throw a women into a overcrowded bus after giving birth.!?
But she is not getting any VIP treatment either this i can guarantee you as well.
I heard on the radio today that they are already deporting people who can't provide the necessary documentation in hospitals. Whether or not these people are women who have given birth, I don't know.
 

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I heard on the radio today that they are already deporting people who can't provide the necessary documentation in hospitals. Whether or not these people are women who have given birth, I don't know.
See post #26
 

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Just a quick update on this increasingly stupid issue:

They are balking about a mid-wife because they say it's illegal in the DR (and she is an illegal alien, like me). This is the ultimate SMH.

He is talking about sending the Mrs. back to Haiti to have the baby with his mom. She's very close to giving birth so this is a monumentally stupid idea. It would cost a minimum of 40K pesos to get her back, which he will never have. In other words, his wife will live in Haiti forever and his mom will support the baby.

Also found out a bit more about his budget. He makes 1100 pesos/day, 6600/week. His rent is 0, his electric is 0, and his water is 0. This is because he lives on a construction property as the kind of care-taker, totally outside of his regular construction employment.

Since I've known him, about 6 years now, he was single for about 5 of them. Now he has the wife and the 2 boys he was neglecting. I help the boys out quite a bit but helping out on this is too over the top. He's getting close to 40 so he should have figured out saving and budgeting by now. Having said that, no way am I letting the Mrs or the baby suffer in a true emergency.

Stay tuned for further updates, if interested.
 
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Yes keep us updated, there’s stuff to learn here. 1100 pesos a day in construction is quite normal and not that bad for DR. We had a group onsite that lived freely in the houses before delivery. One guy cooked for the whole group (cutting costs) and they were eager for doing extra private work for extra money. All this indicates there are enough possibilities to seriously save up money.

The ruling out of a mid-wife, which now is the best, simplest and cheapest solution for this situation suspects they might be after extra money. When they get it they may still do the birthing on the cheap and keep the bonus.
Respect for your humanity though. Don’t get played on that.
 
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I would suggest in future for birthdays and christmas .....you give him condoms or have him sterilised ......if he can only produce 7000 pesos in 9 months he should not be siring any off spring
You’re thinking like an American, not like a Haitian in this case. If your thinking would had been the Haitian norm, Haiti wouldn’t be overpopulated.
 

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NICE That's new ! Amazing what Lat. Am. Leaders are now able to do if there is no Protesting woke Liberal in Charge in the US.
 

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You’re thinking like an American, not like a Haitian in this case. If your thinking would had been the Haitian norm, Haiti wouldn’t be overpopulated.
I dont think im thinking like an American ......more like a reasonable person should think .....if you cant afford kids ...keep it for pissing
 
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I heard on the radio today that they are already deporting people who can't provide the necessary documentation in hospitals. Whether or not these people are women who have given birth, I don't know.
I heard yesterday that Dominicans renting apartments/houses to illegal Haitians are forcing them to vacate.
What's next ? Refusing to allow them to shop ?
 

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I heard yesterday that Dominicans renting apartments/houses to illegal Haitians are forcing them to vacate.
What's next ? Refusing to allow them to shop ?
Whatever it takes, I guess. The DR is big on deporting illegals. Illegals means Haitians, of course.

Intresting case study we have in this thread. I had read DR public hospitals were outright refusing all illegals, forcing illegals to give birh "in the street". But that could just be anecdotal and not reality at every hospital. Good luck with this one. Nothing is certain but the eventual deportation.