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Pregnant Girlfriend? Scan or Scam
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unsure it could be your child
are you in the DR on a long term basis, or"just passing through"? Do you plan on getting a cedula? Do you see a future with this girl? Hire a private investigator, check up on her, see what her game is. But in the end, if i were you- HEAD FOR THE HILLS!
are you in the DR on a long term basis, or"just passing through"? Do you plan on getting a cedula? Do you see a future with this girl? Hire a private investigator, check up on her, see what her game is. But in the end, if i were you- HEAD FOR THE HILLS!
Sort of planned to retire here but really undecided. I had reservations before this. All the evidence points to her being a thoroughly decent genuine person. That is exactly why this business doesn't quite add up. There's always plenty of cash in the house but when she left she took just a few dollars and left a note appologising and saying she needed a little money for bus fare and food. Dont know if I'll end up with her but I'll have to live with myself for the next thirty years or more,God willing, so I need to get this right.
I appreciate all the advice as I really dont understand the stuff that goes on in this place. Got my head straight now. I'm going consider her "inocent untill proven guilty" and see how things pan out. I have the luxury of options, she doesnt.
Thanks again
Not sure about the scans but a Condom no matter how good 'quality' does NOT by any means guarantee 'protection'. If you have Sex, you should at some point at least consider the possibility of children. Not to sound cliche but as Dr. Malcolm said in Jurassic Park "life finds a way". I hope everything turns out for the best especially if there is a child involved.
This is what the girl is counting on!!! You feeling sorry for her and thinking like a gringo. If I were you tell her you just got checked in your country and you are incapable of having babies and you can prove it!! Then ask her why she was unfaithful and leave it at that. You will have one or two things happen. She will all of a sudden have a miscarrage or she may even ask forgiveness for her infedelity. You then tell her you will forgive her and help her if she is 100% honest with you, but you will not deal with her until she is completely honest and hang up the phone. Do not call her back when she calls and hangs up, So you can call on your dime, wait for her to get a little desperate and she will find money to put minutes on phone to call you. You will then get the whole truth. Sounds rough but this will work. Also Innocent till proven guilty is for criminal court, for matters of the heart you are guilty till proven innocent.
If she moved out change the lock's ASAP and get anything that she left in the house out ASAP as far as her being pregnat wait and see .
listen, you dont want her to be drinking beer and eating pollo with her papichulo tonight with your money,laughing away at what a pariguayo she just suckered.if you been using condoms 99.9999% would say she's lying or it aint your's brother.
it's the #1 way to keep ya hanging around or to get something from ya.
it's the #1 way to keep ya hanging around or to get something from ya.
Follow whiskeys, skateboards and badpieces advice.
Listen, this girl is just looking for the big mealticket, because her mom's neighbors friends cousin told her that her sister hit it BIG TIME because she had a baby with a gringo and is now receiving US $500 in "child support" until child is hitting 18... She knows gringos are stupid so shes playing you like a fiddle.. follow badpieces expert advice..
Listen, this girl is just looking for the big mealticket, because her mom's neighbors friends cousin told her that her sister hit it BIG TIME because she had a baby with a gringo and is now receiving US $500 in "child support" until child is hitting 18... She knows gringos are stupid so shes playing you like a fiddle.. follow badpieces expert advice..
Are you exactly like the other ex pats from your country?
Ok. I have an open mind on this but I have given her plenty of opportunities to rob me blind and she never has. I always keep at least a grand in cash in the house, even when I'm away. Never been a problem.She uses what she needs, not a lot, and accounts for every penny If she has a papichulo he aint getting much because she doesnt let me out of her sight. She is paranoid about other dominicanas and I am no better than I should be.
I was aware of the Sankey thing before I got here which Is why I have doubts and why I posted. I know I am leaving myself open but the downside is not that big. I live well here but have nothing I cant walk away from and replace in a week. Largely by accident of birth I am comfortably off and make a pretty decent living. I can afford to lose this bet and am more than interested in the outcome. It reflects on the year I have spent here, my experience of the DR and things in general. Been wrong befor but learned and profited from it.
Ok. I have an open mind on this but I have given her plenty of opportunities to rob me blind and she never has. I always keep at least a grand in cash in the house, even when I'm away. Never been a problem.She uses what she needs, not a lot, and accounts for every penny If she has a papichulo he aint getting much because she doesnt let me out of her sight. She is paranoid about other dominicanas and I am no better than I should be.
I was aware of the Sankey thing before I got here which Is why I have doubts and why I posted. I know I am leaving myself open but the downside is not that big. I live well here but have nothing I cant walk away from and replace in a week. Largely by accident of birth I am comfortably off and make a pretty decent living. I can afford to lose this bet and am more than interested in the outcome. It reflects on the year I have spent here, my experience of the DR and things in general. Been wrong befor but learned and profited from it.
OK let me lay it out for you. She's been "testing the waters" and "creating trust" all the time.. but then when things went rocky she wanted her income guaranteed so she's playing the preggers ploy. It's standard. I know this might sound harsh because she's such a special, innocent girl, but it's the same thing. Over and over again. And again. And then some.
She's been living off of your wallet all this time (and probably quite well for her standards as gringo's have the habit of dating very poor low class girls - as they dont know how to differentiate between a good girl and trailer trash - no pun intended).
When you say she only takes little and for what she needs, that is, very little FOR YOU in YOUR EYES..
For you 10-20 bucks isn't a lot to go "visit her sister" but to her it surely is... even just 2-5 bucks for grabs for free is probably a LOT to her... But she wants the Big Guaranteed Bucks and since she's been with you long enough to make the gringo stoopid, she's playing it.. Please... be smart.... follow experts advice.. in the end she will respect you even more.. if you are soft and gringolike she'll override you like a freight train..
She's been living off of your wallet all this time (and probably quite well for her standards as gringo's have the habit of dating very poor low class girls - as they dont know how to differentiate between a good girl and trailer trash - no pun intended).
When you say she only takes little and for what she needs, that is, very little FOR YOU in YOUR EYES..
For you 10-20 bucks isn't a lot to go "visit her sister" but to her it surely is... even just 2-5 bucks for grabs for free is probably a LOT to her... But she wants the Big Guaranteed Bucks and since she's been with you long enough to make the gringo stoopid, she's playing it.. Please... be smart.... follow experts advice.. in the end she will respect you even more.. if you are soft and gringolike she'll override you like a freight train..
In a way I hope your right, it will save me a fair bit of cash but I think you are wrong.
She's been living off of your wallet all this time (and probably quite well for her standards as gringo's have the habit of dating very poor low class girls - as they dont know how to differentiate between a good girl and trailer trash - no pun intended).
When you say she only takes little and for what she needs, that is, very little FOR YOU in YOUR EYES..
For you 10-20 bucks isn't a lot to go "visit her sister" but to her it surely is... even just 2-5 bucks for grabs for free is probably a LOT to her... But she wants the Big Guaranteed Bucks and since she's been with you long enough to make the gringo stoopid, she's playing it.. Please... be smart.... follow experts advice.. in the end she will respect you even more.. if you are soft and gringolike she'll override you like a freight train..[/QUOTE]
When you say she only takes little and for what she needs, that is, very little FOR YOU in YOUR EYES..
For you 10-20 bucks isn't a lot to go "visit her sister" but to her it surely is... even just 2-5 bucks for grabs for free is probably a LOT to her... But she wants the Big Guaranteed Bucks and since she's been with you long enough to make the gringo stoopid, she's playing it.. Please... be smart.... follow experts advice.. in the end she will respect you even more.. if you are soft and gringolike she'll override you like a freight train..[/QUOTE]
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This is starting to get a bit unproductive now. How about keeping the thread open for nine months and seeing how it turns out for the "stoopid" gringo and his trailer trash novia.
There is a sense of fellow-man concern that brings with it some hyperbole in the hopes of being more convicing, but please know it is well-placed.
I understand your position regarding a willingness to be engaged in the process, rather than dishonest, or harsh, as you feel comfortable with a balance of limited risk. However, I do think there is valuable advice that is a common thread in the other posts - don't rush in, chase her now, and/or overreact. In my opinion, it IS important that at this point you let her reach out to you for a variety of reasons. How you respond here is an important move for this stage of a relationship.
I also think it doesn't seem out of the question to get an over-the-counter pregnancy test (just get one, and happen to have it once you reconnect). That gets you to next point, and then you go from there - determining if it is indeed yours, etc....and until then holding off on filling up the nursery. My instincts make me think she is either faking pregnancy, or it is by another man, but feel there is no need to overreact or believe the worst at this point. I am interested to read more as the story unfolds!
I understand your position regarding a willingness to be engaged in the process, rather than dishonest, or harsh, as you feel comfortable with a balance of limited risk. However, I do think there is valuable advice that is a common thread in the other posts - don't rush in, chase her now, and/or overreact. In my opinion, it IS important that at this point you let her reach out to you for a variety of reasons. How you respond here is an important move for this stage of a relationship.
I also think it doesn't seem out of the question to get an over-the-counter pregnancy test (just get one, and happen to have it once you reconnect). That gets you to next point, and then you go from there - determining if it is indeed yours, etc....and until then holding off on filling up the nursery. My instincts make me think she is either faking pregnancy, or it is by another man, but feel there is no need to overreact or believe the worst at this point. I am interested to read more as the story unfolds!
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My dominican girlfriend told me her girlfriend got pregnant by having sex with her gringo - with condom - , she took the used condom to the bathroom - "she would throw it away", opened the condom and used the 'content' to get pregnant, i don't know if it's possible, but that's what she told me. She told me, if you do that within 15 minutes after having sex, ... surprise.... Since then, i was being very careful....
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I am listening guys, believe me I am taking in every word. My gut tells me she isnt pregnant its just emotional blackmail. I've experienced that sort of crap on three continents, its not exclusive to the DR.
At the moment she is still skulking somewhere but is now back in touch. The cynic in me is right with you and thinks she got her period on Saturday or Sunday and will be back when its over. About Thursday/Friday? Will try to get a test result but I cant face too much drama for now.
I considered the used condom ploy but I'm not buying it. Havnt had sex without one in over a decade. Cant recall any failed condoms in recent months, or ever. Am not at my most objective at such moments but I do check them over afterwards. They arnt 100% though its pretty close. If it turns out she is up the duff then I will be quietly sceptical and start looking for clues. I dont mind sticking around full term, might be interesting and I am certainly curious.
See no reason to run. From what I've read and been told the worst case scenario isnt that big a deal. Mandatory child support here is a pittance,about 100 bucks. If I choose to bail out I can do way better than that and not even notice. If anybody knows different PLEASE let me know.
Have found a DNA clinic in SD courtesy of DR1 and another in the US who will analyze samples via Fed Ex so I have that covered if and when the time comes. I am not about to trust the family doctor.
Thanks for sharing, will keep you posted.
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