But what do you people mean by "commitment" - marriage? engagement? If you never actually considered any of this - why even start dating? That is why Dominican girls call Americans "liars" - that is totally true. You are just using people for your own personal benefit and then get rid of them if they ask for a "commitment."
You are drawing conclusions using erroneous concepts. You are making an arrangement that all Dominican women are virtuous and destined for greatness. And all foreigners are the equivalent of the wily sinister character in cartoons with the black cape, black hat and thin crooked moustache corrupting morals and deceiving people.
Dominican women will call you a liar if what YOU want to do doesnt jibe with what they think you should do or what they envisioned you would do in their head. You cannot call Shawn a liar because he didnt come here for 2 weeks meet some woman and decide off the cuff to marry her. What I would do is call the men who do that liars because you have set up a whole premise full of absurdities. Like AZB would say they come here meet the 1st woman who would give them the time of day and then marry her. They never come back to this site, some do occasionally, and give us progress in their relationship. The fruitful marriage to a stranger I call it.
YOU are a liar if you cannot OR are unwilling to fulfill a whole Cinderella fantasy. But no one ever questions how credible that fantasy was to begin with. This may not be your sole purpose in coming here BUT it is theirs. Love at 1st sight is something every hopes to get a foreigner to ascribe to. If you can sell yourself then I dont have to work that hard at hiding my defects.
In my mind will always be the guy, who sat behind me on the plane last year after the earthquake, who married a woman with 4 kids just because "she is so poor and didnt have much." He dont speak Spanish she doesnt speak English but everyone is at the reception laughing. This guy was a clod. This was last year. I really, really, really want to know the progress of their relationship 1.5 year later.
This woman should consider herself lucky to have met a man like Shawn. 1st of all, he can come whenever he wants to and stay for a while. Not one of those guys who can only come once a year for a week. So the latter guy has to cram the whole relationship into that one week. At least he can come and afford to take the woman places. Most of her companeros couldnt afford to do anything and probably wouldnt spend the money anyway. What she should be doing is finding a way to make MORE out of the relationship instead of giving him ultimatums and pushing him away. I dont know the guy so I wont say he is a baller but he puts more on the table than the average Dominican man, college educated or otherwise.