Criss Colon said:Since he was the first "Rubio" in the family he was made the "PRINCE"!He was passed from relative to relative and then to the neighbors.Since then we have had two more,also spoiled rotten!
I HATE pacifiers!!! Luckily,only the "middle" girl ever used them.She will be 4 in May,and still does! I just try and let Dominicans be Dominicans!! I am heavily outnumbered here!!!Financially I will be much wealthier once we are done with Pampers and "Powdered Milk"!We are talking thousands of pesos per month!!
I have given in to the Dominican culture of having the kids in bed,and/or in the bedroom with the parents!We have a huge bedroom,with a "Kingsize" bed,a "Twin Bed",and two cribs!!The two little girls and our 8 year old son can be found using any or all of the above on any given night!Being "60" on my next birthday,means these kids are kind of like my children and grandchildren at the same time!It also means that I get up about 10 times during the night to "PI$$",so I take lots of time and pleasure in watching the kids sleeping,hugging them, smelling their hair,and thanking God for blessing me so!
My "Advise",raise your kids like your dominican family wants to raise them.On top of that,teach them to say,"Please & Thankyou"!Read to them,play games with them."Talk" to them,and don't forget to "listen" to them too.Dominicans don't spend what Americans call "Quality Time" with their kids!Kids here spend a lot more time with their sisters and brothers,and "Cousins".Probably because there are "LOTS" of both,and they usually live nearby,if not in the same house.I try to take turns giving eavch of our kids some "face Time" with just the two of us daily.Theyn really like feeling "Special"
I think that there are lots of advantages to a "Blended",or "Bi-Cultural" family.So let the kids "Get Something" from both their parents cultures,even if it means defering to the DR side more than the other way around!!
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Although I am trying to keep the Dominican culture alive with my boys, there are definitely parts of the culture worth avoiding, such as excessive use of the bottle and "bobo". Neither Dominic nor Noah have ever had a pacifier in their mouth - they both spat it out in disgust whenever it was popped in there - they much prefer the breast. So I was their pacifier. Not complaining though, breastfeeding is the best diet in the whole world! Neither boy would ever take a bottle, either. Noah still doesn't know how to drink from one. He has been drinking from a sippy cup or glass - yes glass! or water bottle - since he was six months old. He's now 11 months, and drinks perfectly from a cup. And I got the "abusadora" from many Dominicans, too, because I refused to give a bottle. I smiled and explained, well, you see, that's why they have such good teeth! Many also asked me why I don't feed my children formula instead of breastmilk. I guess since all gringas are "rich", why would I act like a "poor" person and breastfeed ...argh...sometimes the mentality of people is shocking...
Criss...fwiw, Dominic (4) and Noah (1) both sleep in our king-sized bed, too. Angel can't sleep without them!