Remembering Matilda/Lindsay de Feliz

whirleybird

Silver
Feb 27, 2006
3,257
301
83
Feeling so sad!

It is still very fresh. You were a very close friend with her.
The circumstances makes it even more difficult.
May the good memories flood your mind to help ease your pain.

It's even worse than my son's death in an accident in 2007 or Charlie's passing in 2010 (would be his birthday today)
 

Tarheel

Well-known member
Dec 19, 2005
555
147
63
Lindsay decided she didn't want a cautious, structured life like most of us strive for. She succeeded in spades. She was so ready, willing and able to help people without wanting anything back. A truly wonderful person. She made a difference!
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

House

Member
Dec 20, 2019
107
20
18
In transit
images4.fanpop.com
Whirley, there is almost nothing harder that unexpectedly losing someone you have such a great connection to. It's casi unbearable...but eventually....in a year...or more, it gets better.....but NEVER leaves. Savor the pain as it keeps the connection alive.
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

whirleybird

Silver
Feb 27, 2006
3,257
301
83
Whirley, there is almost nothing harder that unexpectedly losing someone you have such a great connection to. It's casi unbearable...but eventually....in a year...or more, it gets better.....but NEVER leaves. Savor the pain as it keeps the connection alive.

No, it doesn't really in my experience. I lost my son in 2007 and my husband in 2010 and now Lindsay - can it get any worse?
 

House

Member
Dec 20, 2019
107
20
18
In transit
images4.fanpop.com
The reality is that should we be blessed to have a long life, we're going to lose people. Some "naturally" and more or less expected and some unexpectedly. Of course depending upon your perspective it "could" get worse" but personally I choose to look at it differently. My advice, were I to be presumptuous and offer some, would be to "take the high road", remain optimistic and fu*king REFUSE to let it destroy me. That's what I do and everyone has to cope their own way. I've lost a ton of people and this is just how I survive.
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

keepcoming

Moderator - Living & General Stuff
May 25, 2011
3,169
480
83
Lindsay was full of life, you can tell just by reading her blog, posts, etc... While tragic her passing, I think she would want everyone to celebrate her life, the life she chose to live.
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

lackofwords

New member
Dec 21, 2019
3
1
0
No, it doesn't really in my experience. I lost my son in 2007 and my husband in 2010 and now Lindsay - can it get any worse?

Whirleybird, I wish I could give you a big warm loving hug from far away. I’m so sorry.
Life is so hard on so many of us, yet it’s so difficult to really help each other when that kind of pain strikes, that when you luckily find someone you can deeply relate to, their sudden absence leaves a void so huge that it really becomes unbearable.
Don’t give up though. Lindsay wouldn’t want you to. All my love and energy, even if, I know, it isn’t much.
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

lumiere987

Member
Jul 4, 2007
136
13
18
I met Lindsey before I even came to the DR via DR1. She was the first expat I met as I arrived in Juan Dolio. I lived a couple of blocks from where I was staying. She invited me over a couple of days after my arrival and so she helped me so much. She was very kind and I was invited to eat with her and Danillo 3 or 4 times a week. She told me of her life way before she published "what about your saucepans" and over the years we became very good friends. I also had the chance to meet her mom who was visiting her. I followed the tumultuous years when Danillo was running for mayor and her absolute support for his cause. I am glad I met her and feel very sad of these tragic developments. She had a good heart and would support her husband in everything. May she rest in peace.
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

BPL888

Active member
Sep 7, 2004
468
15
38
I met Lindsay several rears back while she was running the colmado in Juan Dolio. She offered to get me a deal on a large quantity of coffee and in return I brought her some items from a British food shop near my home in Massachusetts. She gave me a list and I was able to get everything she requested. She was absolutely thrilled to get some "Branston Pickle". I had no idea what it was but it made her very, very happy.
She was so always pleasant and helpful. I will always remember her that way. She made the world a brighter place.
 
  • Like
Reactions: whirleybird

mofongoloco

Silver
Feb 7, 2013
3,002
9
38
I haven't visited you all in quite awhile. I came here today thinking about Matilda and chivi. never met her. interacted on the board and in a few pm's. still think about her often. I occasionally creep the internet about the murderer. Still freaks me out to re-read her work and the comments made on amazon since her murder. For those of you who were her friends IRL my thoughts have been with you too. HarleysRock, if I'm ever in trouble I would want you in my corner. Mr. and Mrs AE: salt of the earth.
 

Auryn

Well-known member
Apr 22, 2012
1,273
812
113
What I remember of her now:

She guided me through the process of obtaining a DR Criminal record check from abroad, in order to get my certification to teach in Scotland. That along with many other helpful insights and advice over the years.

She could address the nastiness on here with class and her smart British sense of humour. She never insulted anyone, nor made personal attacks, but simply provided her expertise on all things as an expat Dominican.

She could see the bright side without wearing rose colored glasses.

Her wit and wisdom lives on through those who remember her.