The New Dominicana

[the gorgon]

Well, yes, it’s an oddity these days, as your current situation reinforced the normality, because you are in fact married. So in this case my assumption was correct, although not with a Dominicana as you claim, it’s not. Is your wife Jamaican?

I assumed when heterosexual man decides to live and become an ex-pat in the DR, the native women there become a predominate factor in that decision. But, again, that may be just my mindset!

Also, what I was alluding to earlier and was getting at, was that here you are writing all negative about lonely men from the states or whatever, being inadequate to find a suitable mate where they came from, and can’t possibly be adequate and capable enough of finding a suitable mate in the DR. (I’m paraphrasing, your main points)

TheGorgon, I gotten this from reading your thread responses--- you telling others where they should or should not look for a suitable wife, that they may feel can make them happy for the duration of their life, and perhaps they, the foreigner should find or look for their wife in their own country.

First off, we are all adults and free agents here. Even more so if you are from the USA with an active passport. With that being said, there’s no one on this planet that can tell me where I should or shouldn’t go regarding looking for my dream come true wife. So if it happens to be in the DR (which it is), then it’s the DR. That’s final say, on that matter.

Can I get a suitable wife, in the USA, of course I can personally, but again, I don’t want an American wife. The whole environmental and negative atmosphere that permeates the USA is not something I would like to have, while I’m also married there too, in the USA. That kind of negativity sometimes breeds negativity in day to day marriage life.

But, alas, the DR is a whole different story altogether, living on an island surrounded by the most beautiful women on this planet. Although, If I’m going the marriage route with one Dominicana in particular, I’d need to refrain from staring at these other Dominican beauties.

Does the DR have its problems!? They most certainly do, in some case worst than the US’s problems. But If and when I’m choosing to reside in the DR, it’s basically choosing the less of two evils.

i see you used my handle in your response, but i am not sure you are addressing me.

first of all, i have zero idea where you got it from that i am married.

you simply need to stop assuming. it is getting tiresome.

 

[Fulano2]

Well, yes, it’s an oddity these days, as your current situation reinforced the normality, because you are in fact married. So in this case my assumption was correct, although not with a Dominicana as you claim, it’s not. Is your wife Jamaican?

I assumed when heterosexual man decides to live and become an ex-pat in the DR, the native women there become a predominate factor in that decision. But, again, that may be just my mindset!

Also, what I was alluding to earlier and was getting at, was that here you are writing all negative about lonely men from the states or whatever, being inadequate to find a suitable mate where they came from, and can’t possibly be adequate and capable enough of finding a suitable mate in the DR. (I’m paraphrasing, your main points)

TheGorgon, I gotten this from reading your thread responses--- you telling others where they should or should not look for a suitable wife, that they may feel can make them happy for the duration of their life, and perhaps they, the foreigner should find or look for their wife in their own country.

First off, we are all adults and free agents here. Even more so if you are from the USA with an active passport. With that being said, there’s no one on this planet that can tell me where I should or shouldn’t go regarding looking for my dream come true wife. So if it happens to be in the DR (which it is), then it’s the DR. That’s final say, on that matter.

Can I get a suitable wife, in the USA, of course I can personally, but again, I don’t want an American wife. The whole environmental and negative atmosphere that permeates the USA is not something I would like to have, while I’m also married there too, in the USA. That kind of negativity sometimes breeds negativity in day to day marriage life.

But, alas, the DR is a whole different story altogether, living on an island surrounded by the most beautiful women on this planet. Although, If I’m going the marriage route with one Dominicana in particular, I’d need to refrain from staring at these other Dominican beauties.

Does the DR have its problems!? They most certainly do, in some case worst than the US’s problems. But If and when I’m choosing to reside in the DR, it’s basically choosing the less of two evils.

Lidr
You might wish to calm down a bit with your comments. Take it easy. Women dont like this nor do men.

 

[Yourmaninvegas]

I think you meant Tupac.

My floors are dirty and they could use some cleaning. I've been drinking again... if the mods
are willing to allow it, lol, I'll take this thread way off topic.

Yes, Tupac. And as for cleaning your floors I've already given a method for handling that. No need to take the thread way off topic in order to handle your domestic needs.

 

[LoveInDR]

Lidr
You might wish to calm down a bit with your comments. Take it easy. Women don't like this nor do men.

Would you like to explain your comment, about my comments, what women and men don't like? It's vague. I'm for one is a man, what I wrote that I like, from the perspective as myself, a man.

 

[LoveInDR]

i see you used my handle in your response, but i am not sure you are addressing me.

first of all, i have zero idea where you got it from that i am married.

you simply need to stop assuming. it is getting tiresome.

Sorry I made a mistake, I was addressing Cdn_Gringo's comments, and yours too. But somehow became confused, when I was responding.

Well anyway, did you find a compatible mate from your country Jamaica, because you have so much to say, that men from the states should choose from their own country a suitable mate, but not from a place like DR? Let just say my comments above are addressed to both you Cdn_Gringo, in where I choose to select a wifie!

 

[the gorgon]

Sorry I made a mistake, I was addressing Cdn_Gringo's comments, and your too. But somehow became confused, when I was responding.

Well anyway, did you find a compatible mate from your country Jamaica, because you have so much to say, that men from the states should choose from their own country a suitable mate, but not from a place like DR? Let just say my comments above are addressed to both you Cdn_Gringo, in where I choose to select a wifie!

do you have headphones?

do a search and bring up a thread called Racer We Are On.

it is a thread that is dedicated to musical suggestions. go and find something which will soothe your soul. you seem like someone looking for a fight, and i have less than zero interest in you, or your intentions.

plug your phones in...enjoy some tunes.

 

[mobrouser]

Sadly gorgon that thread is in OT......he'll need a few weeks to get there.

 

[LoveInDR]

do you have headphones?

do a search and bring up a thread called Racer We Are On.

it is a thread that is dedicated to musical suggestions. go and find something which will soothe your soul. you seem like someone looking for a fight, and i have less than zero interest in you, or your intentions.

plug your phones in...enjoy some tunes.

I don't understand... so responding to your comments, with a rebuttal argument, is now I'm looking for a fight?

You wrote this earlier:

i am forever amused when guys who cannot find a partner where they live attribute that problem to a communications deficit. then they go to a country where they can only speak enough of that language to ask where the bathroom is, looking for meaningful understandings.

after the sex is over, they are left to making hand signals. i do not understand it.

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I'm sure just like you learned Spanish, others that may have a Dominican mate can and will do the same, and not have to continually results in hand signals.

Now, am I "looking for a fight" because I have a reasonable counter to your faulty premise?

 

[the gorgon]

I don't understand... so responding to your comments, with a rebuttal argument, is now I'm looking for a fight?

You wrote this earlier:

i am forever amused when guys who cannot find a partner where they live attribute that problem to a communications deficit. then they go to a country where they can only speak enough of that language to ask where the bathroom is, looking for meaningful understandings.

after the sex is over, they are left to making hand signals. i do not understand it.

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I'm sure just like you learned Spanish, others that may have a Dominican mate can and will do the same, and not have to continually results in hand signals.

Now, am I "looking for a fight" because I have a reasonable counter to your faulty premise?

ok...since you cannot access Off Topic for a while yet, i am sure you have google search on your PC...

look up the word ''generalization''. then spend some time thinking about how it might apply to some things you read on internet sites...

 

[Yourmaninvegas]

Ok, if you want to talk big picture…In my opinion, the fundamental nature of females are no different in the Dominican Republic than anywhere in the world. When I quoted Tupac I was referencing my extensive travel to countries around the world (yeah I know those who wrestle with pigs had different thoughts). Our base need as human beings have not changed. I am making reference to Maslow's hierarchy of needs: physiological, safety, belonging and love, social needs or esteem, and self-actualization. If you wish to challenge my assertion then make your argument.

Now this take on human nature is highly debated and attempts to prove them through empirical examination of social trends show us that in prosperous nations the progression of these needs get short circuited.

For example: It is striking for Maslow's theory that First World countries, where so many people's basic needs are met, experience considerably higher divorce rates. Within the United States, it is those with more money and a more stable economic situation who have higher suicide rates than those from the lower socio-economic strata. Furthermore, it is estimated that the suicide rate is twice as high in Caucasian than minority communities in the U.S. (Apologies in advance to everyone about to have apoplectic fit because they THINK I’m playing the race card. I am not. I describing a population characteristic).

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...-self-actualization-theory-is-not-quite-right

I’m with Mr. Cobraboy on this one:

The further away from "traditional" roles men and women play in a society, the more miserable and lonely men and women become.

My argument remains that throughout the entire world, these new changes will not necessarily bring happiness to the individuals making the changes. In a society (Dominican Republic specifically) where the government does not provided adequate resources to provide care for it citizens as they age, the cohesive nature of the family unit remains the main care system in place for the elderly. Will the “new Dominicana” escape the need to take care of her parents? Who will take care of her in old age if she does not have a family? These are the sort of question that come to my mind when reading about these changes. And anyone here that would like to is free to address these issues as they pertain from any country perspective they would like.

This is my age group and that of nearly all Dominican women that I know. They (relatively educated Dominicanas in this age category) aren't interested in the typical, traditional role of previous generations in the least.

Not hating on this. Everyone has to live their life for their own benefit.

My mother-in-law takes pride in catering to her family, hand and foot. Her job is the cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, washing, and shopping. Her husband helps now and then, mostly with daily dishes and weekly laundry. But he is retired and very much retires to Dominoes, walks to the malecon, visiting, and riding his bike.

Not hating on this too. Female in this case made a choice to be with male. It is role she chose. No one forced it on her. He worked hard to get to the point of retirement. He should enjoy his life.

Their daughter has a university degree and just turned 30. She has a mediocre job, and does okay. She's not wealthy but she wouldn't quit her job to stay home when she could work to buy herself nice things. Would she fall into her mother's role for anybody? Not in a million years.

And why would she stay at home and follow in the footsteps of her Mother? Show me a dominicana that takes care of her children herself and I’ll point to the same person and show you a poor girl. Apartments in the range of 1.8 - 2.2 million DOP have “habitaciones de servico”. That shows developers realize market demands these amenities. I rarely see a Mother or entire family out in Santo Domingo without the domestic help doing the heavy lifting. So I would suspect that should “their daughter” decide to form a domestic partnership she would do so with the ability to hire someone to care for the home and a child/children (if any resulted from the blissful domestic union).

OFF TOPIC: I’m not inclined to do gorilla type reach arounds and then flinging at others because I don’t like their perspective. But it doesn’t surprise me. That is the nature of online communities and from what I’ve read in this thread and others DR1 is no different in that respect. Someone does not have a high post count…that means they don’t know (expletive redacted) about anything they post if they happen to disagree with the person with high post count. Furthermore it is my opinion if people are not prepared to have someone disagree with them then maybe they should keep their opinions to themselves and not be posting them in a public forum.

]and as for your dinosaurs.....
don't look over your shoulder….

Hey Mr. illster, I prefer to be referred to as Mr. YMNV if you choose to truncate my name. What do you prefer? Remember they be your dinosaurs brother and I don’t need to look over my shoulder. You see the dinosaurs died out. But they are getting close to being recreated. But that’s at least 5 years out. So you may be getting ahead of yourself.

https://movieweb.com/jeff-goldblum-jurassic-park-line-scientists-creating-dinosaurs/

Now if you are referring to ad hominem. Those pesky creatures are tough. And are still hanging in there. I only need to look at your responses to my posts in this thread to find them.

Ad hominem...short for argumentum ad hominem, is a fallacious argumentative strategy whereby genuine discussion of the topic at hand is avoided by instead attacking the character, motive, or other attribute of the person making the argument, or persons associated with the argument, rather than attacking the substance of the argument itself.

 

[Yourmaninvegas]

i am forever amused when guys who cannot find a partner where they live attribute that problem to a communications deficit. then they go to a country where they can only speak enough of that language to ask where the bathroom is, looking for meaningful understandings.

after the sex is over, they are left to making hand signals. i do not understand it.

According to the illster this post is off topic. Since the thread is about the changes of female gender roles. So that's pretty bold of the OP to be talking about somebody else's access to off topic posts. Check the upper left hand corner. Posts: 32K plus.

LoveInDR remember that personal insults are the last refuge of the intellectual bankrupt. Do not meet him in court. Also remember that platinum is used as a catalyst in the reduction of oxygen. Breathe easy my friend.

 

[LoveInDR]

According to the illster this post is off topic. Since the thread is about the changes of female gender roles. So that's pretty bold of the OP to be talking about somebody else's access to off topic posts. Check the upper left hand corner. Posts: 32K plus.

LoveInDR remember that personal insults are the last refuge of the intellectual bankrupt. Do not meet him in court. Also remember that platinum is used as a catalyst in the reduction of oxygen. Breathe easy my friend.

Yourmaninvegas, I know what you mean. His condescending comments directed toward me are amusing, and I’m unbothered by them. I write and create fictional stories for future payments, so characters like him I create, and make them worse.

 

[Bronxboy]

do you have headphones?

do a search and bring up a thread called Racer We Are On.

it is a thread that is dedicated to musical suggestions. go and find something which will soothe your soul. you seem like someone looking for a fight, and i have less than zero interest in you, or your intentions.

plug your phones in...enjoy some tunes.

Excellent advice.

https://dr1.com/forums/showthread.php/114662-Racer-we-are-on!!!!!!!!/page469?highlight=racer+we

You need over 500+ posts to enter Off Topic.

Happy posting until then.......

This thread is done.

Hope LoveInDR enjoyed his fifteen minutes of fame.

Please do not bother to open another related thread, please.........