Lindsey,
You hit the nail on the head.
I have a family here who was always asking for help, so I decided to help them. I gave the father a job as a groundskeeper.
HOWEVER, after one week, I realized there was a problem. He spent the money I paid him on rum and a new shirt for himself, while his wife and two daughters (ages 2 and 4) were still hungry. Turns out, he was doing the same thing his father did (except his father was physcially abusive.)
Solution: He gets paid in food for the family and a smaller amount of cash for his rum. When I go to the grocery store for me, I purchase rice, beans, oil, seasoning, salami, a couple of frozen chickens, milk, and sugar. He is now working with me to grow a garden with vegetables and he is in charge of my chickens. After talking to him repeatedly and showing him by example, he is finally starting to realize that his daughters take priority over clothing and rum. I also learned to pay him daily, because if he gets more than 500 pesos in his pocket at a time, he is compelled to spend it. It has not been easy, and I have grown frustrated many time, but he is finally starting to "get it". And the best part: his self-esteem has grown.
The sad part of this story: his neighbors are jealous and keep saying, "Donde esta el mio?" (Where's mine?)
The point is: it's easy to get overwhelmed by poverty and inequality and the difficulties of life, but we can all help at least one person. Do what you can for your fellow human beings and hope that others learn from your example.
You hit the nail on the head.
I have a family here who was always asking for help, so I decided to help them. I gave the father a job as a groundskeeper.
HOWEVER, after one week, I realized there was a problem. He spent the money I paid him on rum and a new shirt for himself, while his wife and two daughters (ages 2 and 4) were still hungry. Turns out, he was doing the same thing his father did (except his father was physcially abusive.)
Solution: He gets paid in food for the family and a smaller amount of cash for his rum. When I go to the grocery store for me, I purchase rice, beans, oil, seasoning, salami, a couple of frozen chickens, milk, and sugar. He is now working with me to grow a garden with vegetables and he is in charge of my chickens. After talking to him repeatedly and showing him by example, he is finally starting to realize that his daughters take priority over clothing and rum. I also learned to pay him daily, because if he gets more than 500 pesos in his pocket at a time, he is compelled to spend it. It has not been easy, and I have grown frustrated many time, but he is finally starting to "get it". And the best part: his self-esteem has grown.
The sad part of this story: his neighbors are jealous and keep saying, "Donde esta el mio?" (Where's mine?)
The point is: it's easy to get overwhelmed by poverty and inequality and the difficulties of life, but we can all help at least one person. Do what you can for your fellow human beings and hope that others learn from your example.