Here's something written by a Dominican friend/attorney in Santo Domingo. As you can see he is educated. And yes, he is 100% Dominican.
I'm going to try to get a couple of other Dominican friends to post their thoughts here.
Monday, October 11, 2010
It gets better... though not for everybody.
While I'm in the US, I've come across with all sorts of information, and
giving that its mid-term election time, information is everywhere
concerning the issues and interests of all sorts of groups here. One of
the main issues however, as expected, is the issue of gay relationships, legal status and of course, discrimination.
Most notably, and this is something that I've come across since before
coming here, is the issues regarding the wave of gay suicides as a
result of massive bullying in high schools, or taunting as was the case
in Tyler Clementi's suicide, who was broadcasted over the internet
having sex with someone.
In one of my visits to the local Barnes & Noble, there was this medical
journal's research regarding psychopaths and how they can distinguish
between right and wrong and actually stopping from doing the things
they do. Though I'm inclined to think that this would be the case with
bullies, the answer is much more simple: Although they can't (in fact)
stop doing the things they do, its because they're too stupid to do so,
not because they are sick. Anyone who feeds on the pain of others
knows all too well of his own weaknesses in order to perform the acts
they carry on out. But its because we don't act that his conduct carries
on through time.
I think its time to act.
During my days in school I can't say I was bullied, at least not in ways I
couldn't defend myself. Schools I've been into have been too small, too
strict or not strict at in for it to matter. But I can't say I haven't seen
bullying arround me.
Journalist Dan Savage recently started a campaign, and I want to
promote this campaign through this blog. He calls it "It Gets Better".
And it does. Personally High School was the most boring time of my
life, although I learned a lot, it wasn't until just 3 or 4 years ago I
realized nothing of what happened back then matters now. And it
doesn't matter in a way that I look back at the stuff happening back
then and I just laugh at it. Seeing where I am now, and where
my rhetorical bullies are... its just epic.
High school, or school in general, is one of the most important times in
one's life as it is where one shapes an identity for one's self and its
incredible how a single human being can absorb the things being said
and done around him and how all this information can control the way
you think and act (good or bad) and its up to us to decide how all of
this converts us into what we are. In times like now when we have so
many resources it is unacceptable to allow lesser human beings make
you feel less than what you are for being who you are.
Believe it or not, your parents are always there. If not, trust your
brothers and sisters who are older, they've been there done that and
(hopefully) moved on in life to bigger and better things and they can
guide you. And even though I haven't taken that extra step for reasons
personal to me, I know that if I should take that step, I'd have their
support. Live your life to the fullest, be the best at what you do, and
always help others and you'll see nothing you do in your private life will affect how others see you. If it does, it means they really weren't that important to you.