"No, everything is not "ok", but at the same, it does not resemble anything similar to other so called hot spots within the globe we share. The biggest problem to date has been the closures of businesses, and the related economic impact. Not lines of sick people. Not lack of ventilators. Not people being wheeled out back doors under the cover of darkness. No mass graves. No riots. No looting. No zombies.
Perhaps if you were here, you could see it for yourself."
I have family in New York and living there they can not see any of the things you describe above, although there is some major suffering going on in that virus hotspot. If you are not living around the corner of one of the hospitals you will not see any of those things.
I have a friend in Santo Domingo, Los Minas and 3 weeks ago the rumor from enfermeras working there was going on about the hospital around the corner in Los Minas, maternidad, full of corona cases. After hearing that they lived around the corner of a corona hotspot they fled to the country side. Weeks later a newspaper confirmed corona cases in baby's and mothers in maternidad.
I know maternidad and have been there several times and I know Los Minas having lived there, I know how many people are every day in and around that hospital and that it is located in the middle of the densely populated barrio Los Minas. Not a good situation.
Most people living in the middle of a virus disaster will not be able to see any of the things you describe, unless they know the right people or really live around the corner of the hotspots.
Going with your argument that you need to be able to see it, I could now say Santo Domingo is much worse then New York?? But of course not, as anecdotal evidence is next to worthless. But you can say there is stuff going on and more stuff then reported in the numbers. How much, I don't know but with going there and looking you will never find out.