The Dominican family I am helping now is I guess classic for why this country is a failed state for most of its citizens. The mother has 4 daughters by 3 fathers. None of the 3 fathers have ever supported their daughters. From what i know the mother has never taken the deadbeat fathers to court. Now the youngest daughter 16 yo is pregnant by a 35 yo dominican guy who apparently has fathered 5 other children that he is not supporting. Yes I told them Uncle Sugar may cut off support if they dont go to court after she delivers but what i am hearing is she can expect at best about 1000-2000 pesos a month support? No one w a child can live on that.
But it doesn't matter. She needs to go to court no matter how meager the amount.
They cannot allow the father off the hook or they will never learn. They say 1000-
2000 is not enough but it does help. Believe me she will accept it. She should have
thought about that BEFORE she decided to have a child(contraceptives are available
for free ( at free clinics) No reason whatsoever.
Do not take it upon yourself to continue to support her, if they see this, they will
have no initiative to do anything on their own and will always rely on others to do
things for them. Sometimes you have to pull back and let them go through hard
ships in order for them to learn.(it's called tough love)
1000 or 2000 pesos may not be enough for a child but it's more than what she has or
will have which is nothing.
Sometimes I marvel at the mentality of most of these women.
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