that was my point. my father would have never tought us to say thanks. on the other hand, he used to take away from me what i didn't want to share. for example, when i had candy, and didn't compart it with others, he would get mad, take it away, and give all of it to the other kids. the same with toys. that is something my mother would have never done. as a matter of fact, i remember a lot of parents litterally fighting with other peoples kids over toys, saying "this is my sons/ daughters.... give it back", something that allways used to fluster my dad.
it all comes down to different values and social education, and once you figure that out, i guess you are better off with attributing it to just that than judging people for it. after all, you probably won't be successfull in re-educating an entire society, and who is to judge that yours is the better way to do it?
the reluctance thing was just another thought. in a society with such a great divide between rich and poor, very little upwards mobility, and ages old exploitation of the many by a very few, giving people a hundred peso is a generous tip, and yet still just crumbs of your table. so while you are going to drive off to your airconditioned condo in your yipeta, the other person is still going to have to ride the motoconcho to his or her modest hut on the other side of town. the hundred pesos won't change that, and the guy is still going to get exploited for the rest of his life. this is a society where those that can afford it are used to being served. those who can not afford it, are the ones serving. now, people are not going to thank their maids for cleaning the dishes, while at the same time whatever generous gesture they are showing their servants might probably still leave a bitter taste in the latters mouth. so maybe that is why saying thank you is not stressed in dominican social education. you could also attribute the dame thing to that. if you have servants, you are probably used to ordering them around without much curtesy, and in general, formality over here has a lot to do with social standing and hirarchy. being formal is more about subordination than mere politeness.
Mariot, I am going to shed a tear bro. lol
You have many interesting points in the above response. I agree that the 100 peso tip is not going to help much at all. You hit the nail on the head with that one. I'm trying to help this motoconcho chofer and his daughter these days for that very reason. I have been tossed up about how to help.
Btw, is Yipeta the wife of Gipetto?