Ok so I'm well aware of the hidden agendas of the men in DR, I have traveled there on numerous occasions and made plenty of friends (none of whom I've spent a red penny on or slept with) needless to say I've got a good head on my shoulders and the countless number of times I've had men use their supposed smooth talking lines on me I've laughed it off and told them to not bother that it's a waste of time. It's humorous to see the same junk being spewed from every single one of them, I've heard them use these lines on women of all shapes, sizes, races and other physical and intellectual backgrounds.
Here comes the sticky situation:
I've known one man in specific for quite awhile; I met him on a resort 4-5 years ago on my first trip. There were no sexual innuendos which was really refreshing since I was being swarmed the whole time, my family and I make regular trips back and last year on our trip I let my inhibitions go and ended up sleeping with him. Needless to say I screwed my head back on quickly and was on my way home not giving it another thought....
My fam went back but I could not due to work related purposes and they spent quite a bit of time with him... He sweet talked my mother into believing that he has feelings for me and she's fallen for it. She absolutely adores him, I provided her with evidence that he has a longtime GF in the DR and she called him out on it, needless to say he ended the relationship and has continued pursuing me. This guy has never asked for money from myself or my family, and the time spent with him was always on his dime. We haven't slept together since & Ive met friends of his who have successful marriages and are happy (men & women, locals & tourists & they reside all over the world) certain people have accounted for the fact that he is not like other DR men and does not have a hidden agenda, the family has money, he's educated and works f/t for numerous years...
I am not the type of person to make things easy for men as I believe in chivalry and courtship so my guard has been up and I have not given him an easy time, for heavens sake he doesn't even know how strong the feelings I have for him are. We're going on another family vacation soon and he wants to pick me up at the airport when I arrive.
What I'm in need of right now is a reality check:
would he really waste this much time courting somebody if he had a hidden agenda??? It seems like a waste...
Could he not obtain his objectives a lot easier with somebody else???
So why all the effort? Especially with my family???
Maybe he really is a stand up guy?
Or is this another game???
Here comes the sticky situation:
I've known one man in specific for quite awhile; I met him on a resort 4-5 years ago on my first trip. There were no sexual innuendos which was really refreshing since I was being swarmed the whole time, my family and I make regular trips back and last year on our trip I let my inhibitions go and ended up sleeping with him. Needless to say I screwed my head back on quickly and was on my way home not giving it another thought....
My fam went back but I could not due to work related purposes and they spent quite a bit of time with him... He sweet talked my mother into believing that he has feelings for me and she's fallen for it. She absolutely adores him, I provided her with evidence that he has a longtime GF in the DR and she called him out on it, needless to say he ended the relationship and has continued pursuing me. This guy has never asked for money from myself or my family, and the time spent with him was always on his dime. We haven't slept together since & Ive met friends of his who have successful marriages and are happy (men & women, locals & tourists & they reside all over the world) certain people have accounted for the fact that he is not like other DR men and does not have a hidden agenda, the family has money, he's educated and works f/t for numerous years...
I am not the type of person to make things easy for men as I believe in chivalry and courtship so my guard has been up and I have not given him an easy time, for heavens sake he doesn't even know how strong the feelings I have for him are. We're going on another family vacation soon and he wants to pick me up at the airport when I arrive.
What I'm in need of right now is a reality check:
would he really waste this much time courting somebody if he had a hidden agenda??? It seems like a waste...
Could he not obtain his objectives a lot easier with somebody else???
So why all the effort? Especially with my family???
Maybe he really is a stand up guy?
Or is this another game???