Dating in DR?!?...

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Alexandra06

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Hey!

I just moved to Santo Domingo a few months ago and I haven't dated anyone since I moved here :( Valentines Day is right around the corner and would be nice to hang out with someone who is in my same position.

Are there speed datings in DR?.. Or singles meetups?... just curious.
 
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Don't start now...wait until AFTER valentine's day. Do you get out much? Anyone not dating in The DR (specially a girl) is not trying very hard or is extremely picky.
 
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I don't have much friends here at all...

I have gone out on my own on few occasions, but most people get the wrong impression when they see a lonely girl (especially being a latina) And it sucks for single gals like me... I am so used to going out on my own in Puerto Rico & USA like going to dinners, shows, lounges, Movies etc,. But here in DR when they see a single young girl.. it's not a good sign. Last weekend I went to have dinner at Pate palo in Zona Colonial and some guy approached me asking if I was available?!? How insulting is that. I wasn't dressed provocative or anything!

Pathetic..
 
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Alexandra06 said:
I don't have much friends here at all...

I have gone out on my own on few occasions, but most people get the wrong impression when they see a lonely girl (especially being a latina) And it sucks for single gals like me... I am so used to going out on my own in Puerto Rico & USA like going to dinners, shows, lounges, Movies etc,. But here in DR when they see a single young girl.. it's not a good sign. Last weekend I went to have dinner at Pate palo in Zona Colonial and some guy approached me asking if I was available?!? How insulting is that. I wasn't dressed provocative or anything!

Pathetic..
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That's the reason why you're not dating...you are unapproachable...I'm pretty sure the guy did not ask you if you were a Pro, but if you were open to a drink, maybe sitting being his guest at his table...You took it in your own Americanized way and got offended...

Chill out and maybe you'll start dating girl..
 
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I don't think it is pathetic to ask a girl if she is available before commencing to invite her for a drink, on the contrary, it is good manners not to presume a single girl is available. I think most men would agree they would respect a guy who asked first rather than presume while he was at the bathroom or bar, and just sat down and started talking with his girl.
Maybe you got this out of context.
 
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how can you be a latina lonely in a latin country with no friends ?
as already stated, you are unapproachable and you possibly think you're better than dominicans.
take the "chip" off your shoulder and make some friends. PR and the USA is not the DR.
 
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I don't think that most men over there would even care to ask . Thy would just try there luck . I can' bleave how meny men ( boy' ) stair at my girl and i am holding her hand .
 
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I guess you the type that puts on a 'OMGosh' face every time a guy tries out a move. Followed by updated status on all social media apps.

Loosen up girl. Half the men on this MB will most definitely want to hang out.. But not with that attitude
 
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JMB773

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Alexandra06 said:
Hey!

I just moved to Santo Domingo a few months ago and I haven't dated anyone since I moved here :( Valentines Day is right around the corner and would be nice to hang out with someone who is in my same position.

Are there speed datings in DR?.. Or singles meetups?... just curious.
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The Colonial Zone is no place for a single woman, because EVERYMAN will assume you are a PUTA!!!

Who told you dating goes on in Santo Domingo? This is what you are going to find guys looking for "quick sex" and guys looking for a wife they can marry in the next 2 to 3 months 99% of the time. The 1% of good guys in DR they already have arrangements set up by their families, not as extreme as a place like India but similar. That is why it is so difficult for you to find a date on the streets.

You have a better chance hitting LOTO REAL!!!!
 
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Lonely

Alexandra06 said:
I don't have much friends here at all...

I have gone out on my own on few occasions, but most people get the wrong impression when they see a lonely girl (especially being a latina) And it sucks for single gals like me... I am so used to going out on my own in Puerto Rico & USA like going to dinners, shows, lounges, Movies etc,. But here in DR when they see a single young girl.. it's not a good sign. Last weekend I went to have dinner at Pate palo in Zona Colonial and some guy approached me asking if I was available?!? How insulting is that. I wasn't dressed provocative or anything!

Pathetic..[/QUOTE)

And that's the problem of the western world.
People don't talk to each other and are unapproachable.
In the DR it's easy to talk and have friends, that's why I love the DR.
It's not about sex just connecting with people.
The problem may be your attitude. :)
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actually, instead of the first words being "are you available", which could be taken as offensive anywhere in the world; any reasonable guy would/should just strike up a simple, innocent conversation. How about a little intelligence and charm??? After a couple of minutes it's obvious if a woman is available and/or interested. WTF has happened to the fine art of flirting??? I think it might have died with the internet?
 
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There is nothing wrong with coming from a different social and/or cultural background. I disagree it is easy to make friends in the DR. I would agree it is extremely easy to make aquaintences, but 'friends'?, real friends (someone you can rely on, trust and confide in 100%) are not so easy to come by.
You can get an overly friendly welcome 100% of the time from anyone, anywhere, but friendship is often cheap in my experience.
I think it would be a huge mistake to consider anyone a real friend until a good time has passed and certain boundaries and bonds have been put to the test. I find it best to trust no one who does not live in my house. I do however have many aquaintences I enjoy spending time with.

I think you possibly misread these advances, but this is better than to open yourself up to something else, find a balance, use your head and be yourself.
Good luck.
 
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CaptnGlenn said:
actually, instead of the first words being "are you available", which could be taken as offensive anywhere in the world; any reasonable guy would/should just strike up a simple, innocent conversation. How about a little intelligence and charm??? After a couple of minutes it's obvious if a woman is available and/or interested. WTF has happened to the fine art of flirting??? I think it might have died with the internet?
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Right eveyone know what " are you available" means in cities like Las Vegas, Santo Domingo and Tijuana. Now if she was in Vermont "are you available" can mean a number of things , do you have a boyfriend? do you have a husband? etc, but in Colonial Zone Santo Domingo are you available is a nice way of saying" HOW MUCH"
 
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JMB773 said:
The Colonial Zone is no place for a single woman, because EVERYMAN will assume you are a PUTA!!!

Who told you dating goes on in Santo Domingo? This is what you are going to find guys looking for "quick sex" and guys looking for a wife they can marry in the next 2 to 3 months 99% of the time. The 1% of good guys in DR they already have arrangements set up by their families, not as extreme as a place like India but similar. That is why it is so difficult for you to find a date on the streets.

You have a better chance hitting LOTO REAL!!!!
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Is this guy crazy or what? Dude, from where are you getting all this misinformation?? SD is the best place to date in the DR bar none...Maybe your uber-city Chicago tops that too I imagine??
 
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JMB773 said:
Right eveyone know what " are you available" means in cities like Las Vegas, Santo Domingo and Tijuana. Now if she was in Vermont "are you available" can mean a number of things , do you have a boyfriend? do you have a husband? etc, but in Colonial Zone Santo Domingo are you available is a nice way of saying" HOW MUCH"
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At Patepalo? Really? Do you even know what Patepalo is? Co?o, hay que leer bainas en este mundo..
 
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Hi again,

Just read some interesting responses.... mostly from men. lol Would love female's point of view. But I think JMB773 hit it right on the spot.

First, I will start by saying I am the nicest person in the world. Some of you guys make it sound as if I am the problem. lol Well, I wish you guys were in my shoes to understand my predicament.

Is just that since I moved to DR I've been getting weird requests from men and that has distanced me from other people and keeps my guard up. For instance, the man I saw in the restaurant last weekend was a very hadsome man, I was sitting by myself having dinner, I was looking at him, gave him a little smile... I was nonverbally fliring with him...But apparently he misinterpreted my good intentions and thought I was a hooker!! He approached my table and said, "Are you available tonight?! I'll pay anything for you" I was so disappointed, again! It's not the first time this has happened and I'm sure it won't be the last neither. I wish some men would understand that NOT every woman that flirts with them is a PRO. I was told that the majority of women in the DR are Pro's?!... not sure if this is a true statement.. I'm thinking it is.

Believe me when I say, I AM an approachable woman, but some of you men make it difficult and have quite an imagination.lol (Sorry) Just because they see a young, attractive lady who is alone (independant) in their minds they automatically think, "She is high-end escort" Once again, pathetic.
 
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ExtremeR said:
Is this guy crazy or what? Dude, from where are you getting all this misinformation?? SD is the best place to date in the DR bar none...Maybe your uber-city Chicago tops that too I imagine??
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Read all of the those HORROR stories from Canadian women. I have a wife in DR, and I did not meet her on the streets. I never dated in DR, but I have met thousands of people in airports and on the streets that will tell you the biggest mistake they made was coming to DR for a partner.

One of my best friend in the world is Dominican, and I became popular in the streets of SD not because I was from the US or they thought I had money, but because I am a outstanding basketball player. I never had any problem with women because of my skills on the court from Chicago to San Juan PR to Santo Domingo, something you know nothing about because you are known for being MR 500 pesos.
 
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Where does one apply for the position of dr1 staff writer to create these threads?
 
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