1st Time To D.R. - Would Like Advice

Wear a condom !

Allan, it seems your plan is fixed by now. But if I were you I'd reverse the order. I'd first go to the hotel in PC while I get to know her, and then go stay with her at her place or wherever you are staying in Higuey. PC is a very short distance from Higuey, so it's doable. If things go as planned then I'd go all out with her to Higuey or wherever she wants me to. I know you trust her and everything, but it is always better to meet someone in your own territory (well, as close to that as possible in this situation).

El_Marinero said:

So I am going to the Dominican Republic for the very first time. I have been talking with someone I met on Dominican website. Any advice would be appreciated.

Allan

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In a website?

You cant do better than that?

Once in DR, she will be like sand on the beach. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Stay smart,not everything that glitters is gold know the person through the net is not the same as know her live, I would do what castle said, the first few days know her at the hotel ,later meet her family and friends, if possible of course. And yes do not forget the condoms:classic:. Have a safe trip.
JT

El_Marinero said:

but also wondering if there are certain red flags I should look for?

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She will have a headache until the green flashes.

Might be keeper but you have to be there first. Good luck. You will need it.

El_Marinero said:

Hi Bronxboy, what do you mean about the headaches?

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If it starts getting romantic, you will need to flash the money!!!!!! If not:

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El_Marinero said:

Thank you, I appreciate it. We have been talking, emailing, facebooking & skyping for the past three years. At this point, I really can only afford to stay at a hotel for 3 nights (poor planning on my part). My Spanish is good, I understand more than I can speak. However, I will be meeting her entire family so I am curious as to if there is any custom that I have to know as far as first meeting parents. In response to Pauleast's post, this will not be a sexual encounter. I am not looking to hook up. I look at this as a penpal meeting right now, learning about the culture and then if there is interest, go from there. She has never asked for any money, she does have a son, but also wondering if there are certain red flags I should look for?

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If anything, I would just say you have to be careful, but try not to be too careful. I mean, I believe you when you say you're looking at a penpal relationship for now. However, you say you're looking forward to developing the relationship from there, so it seems to me you are looking forward to a romantic relationship. Having said that, I think you have one thing working on your favor: you're travelling on a limited budget. That's good, as everybody will know you're no sugar daddy or western union boyfriend. When I say not to be too careful, I mean you should go for the sexual encounter. It's awkward for DR standards, to say the least, that you've known this lady for years, you're both looking into an eventual romantic relationship, and then you don't have sex when you get the chance (chances being few and far between). Even if she's a decent girl, that would be a turn off for her, as that is not the expected behavior from a man in DR. I'm not saying you should put pressure on her, just saying you must bring up the subject and see what happens.
Red flags to look for? there are plenty. Money is always the primary target for some girls, but only because it is the easiest to get. Given the opportunity, many will go for the visa, the real ultimate target. I'm not saying your girl if of that kind, but always keep in mind that they can put on an act for very long if they think they will get the reward. Yes, it's tough to you and to the girl to always be with the guard up, but failing to do that is even worse.

Castle, triple like!!!!!

Great post!!!

He means that the expectation of you is that you are a wealthy gringo who is traveling to the DR to have sex with her. That's the conclusion she likely drew as a result of your meeting on a "meetup and hookup" website.

Here's the good news: she was on the site too, which means she's expecting you to want to sleep with her. Repeatedly. If she has no interest, she'll let you know quickly. But she will, and she and her family will think something's wrong with you if you don't try anything.

You see, "good" Dominican girls don't hook up with foreigners on the internet for a weekend of fun. Ever. In all likelihood, you have a nice, probably pretty girl who is looking to develop some sort of financially beneficial relationship with you (up to and including getting a visa to live somewhere else).

Which is why she doesn't want you going anywhere without her. It's not for your protection, it's for hers. See, the DR is packed with extremely attractive women, and the last thing she wants to do is expose a future sugar daddy to her competition.

My advice? Go, have fun, look around on your own, use protection, and understand that the "girlfriend experience" you're about to have is no different that going fishing, ziplining, or ATV riding. You're being provided a service, that others are also provided, and she/they will be expecting to be compensated for their time. Enjoy, just don't get caught up in the experience.

El_Marinero said:

Hi Jon, please elaborate on the "not everything that glitters is gold".

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People are not always what they appear to be, try to know her better before you have an attitude that you might regret in the future, and again, she might be the one, but only the future will decide.
JT

El_Marinero said:

To be honest, it didn't bug me that much, but now that I got on here, I am starting to wonder if it's true or if she is going to see someone else.

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Yep, she had someone visiting during that time OR it will be that time of month. (before you asked, her period) Women planned everything around that!!!! My bet it will be another sankie victim or her real man!!!!!!

Dont like bugs El Marinero? hahahahahaha