Hello, I have become involved with a Dominican man who admittedly "used to be" a sankie. I have been cautious from the beginning of the relationship in light of his past, but he convinced me over time he was sincerely in love and wanted a future and family with me. I can't get rid of my suspicions however. I have been taken advantage of in the past, so I may be overly paranoid, but things just aren't adding up. Here are some facts - I am younger than him, have less money than him (although I'm very educated and professionally successful), he is already a citizen here in the US, and when we met he was paying all his bills and seemingly leading a respectable adult life. His son lives with him here full-time while the mother is in DR. Both him and his son have moved in with me recently, and although we discussed finances in-depth and agreed to split bills, now that he has moved in, he seems hesitant to pay his share. He has hinted that he is broke, he's a single father, blah blah blah. He also has become less affectionate since the move and thinks it is ok to go out every weekend while I take care of his son and clean. Is this more a cultural difference or are these signs of a con game? Is it possible for a sanky panky to change his ways or once a sanky, always a sanky?