Ok, Well I was just wondering how people look at a white, red-haired, american girl in love with an amazing Dominican minor league baseball player?? I mean I hear all of the negitivity towards minor league ball players BUT Jorge and I have known each other for four years or more and I trust him with everything we have just been reunited after 3 years and I feel soo strongly for him. I don't know what to do about it.... Help!
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You know the advice...its been given to you in several different threads now. It doesn't do any good to start another thread. your problem is that you are not going to listen to any advice except for that which you want to hear. So I will give it to you...He's wonderful, he's loyal, he'll never go out on you, he loves you and none of the others,he doesn't want money, he doesn't want a visa, he is a wonderful and intelligent conversationalist and is up on all the latest current events, has a great job when the baseball thing is over. Rush our and marry him right now. Don't worry about what he's been doing the last three years or who... just leave us alone now that I've given you the advice you want to hear.
Ignore HB's advice (he's only dealt with the same situations for forty years, ignore the others...they know not of what they speak.
Just go to your baseball sanki and leave us alone to mourn as "another one hits the dust".
Ignore HB's advice (he's only dealt with the same situations for forty years, ignore the others...they know not of what they speak.
Just go to your baseball sanki and leave us alone to mourn as "another one hits the dust".
What in the heeeezzzy!!
Well, Number One!! Do you even KNOW.... JORGE MERAN?!?! I don't think so.. and he is great guy so I think that I will take my chances with him. Number Two.... I have a job and $$$$Money$$$$ and also I am going to college to get my masters and in 3 years I will be a successful Public Relations Specialist... You just don't get it.. when i look at Jorge I DON'T SEE... $$$$$ I see a great caring individual and hopefully I will see that forever! I am not like the girls mentioned in the other threads and I really care about him too! So I guess we will see what happens... Don't diss on me when you don't even know Jorge.. K?!?El Jefe said:
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Christina15152:
If you're IN LOVE like you had said "in love with an amazing Dominican minor league baseball player" than I believe you shall go for it. But let him know at the same time that you are feeling in this way for him !!.
People will always be talking shyt!!. Everyone knows that. Some can't just mind their own business!.
Like I said.....tell him how you feel if you really like/ LOVE him!!
I wish you the best !!
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Christina15152:
If you're IN LOVE like you had said "in love with an amazing Dominican minor league baseball player" than I believe you shall go for it. But let him know at the same time that you are feeling in this way for him !!.
People will always be talking shyt!!. Everyone knows that. Some can't just mind their own business!.
Like I said.....tell him how you feel if you really like/ LOVE him!!
I wish you the best !!
Like I said...you've made up your mind so stop asking for advice...ask about living in the DR, ask about DR politics, etc. There's a lot more for DR1 folks to tell you about or for you to tell us about than continuing threads about should you or should you not be involved with Jorge. Hey, I hope it works out. I'm all for love...just ready to hear something else from you....
HB,
it works, BTW Do you know Ramon Caceres who used to be with Alcoa...another of the Hughson gang...he was sort of my mentor in Cabo Rojo.
HB,
it works, BTW Do you know Ramon Caceres who used to be with Alcoa...another of the Hughson gang...he was sort of my mentor in Cabo Rojo.
Christina, You know my take on this subject. Keep going to school and get your education -- you have the rest of your life to be or fall in love.
I have a few questions for you. When Jorge Meran returns to Dominican Republic for winter after season ends here do you communicate with him? How do you communicate with him via telephone via mail via e-mail? Who pays for the calls? Has he asked you to go to DR to meet his family and pay for your ticket to DR? What do your own parents say? Have your parents seen and got to know Jorge?
The people here are trying to give you there opinions and how they feel about what you are asking. If you go thru the archives you will find many posts and you can see they have more experience than you can imagine.
Good Luck hope you find answers that you are looking for.
R&J
Hey I wish I would of finished college instead of getting marrried and traveling thru the minor league system. You are a young persons take advantage -- STAY IN SCHOOL!
I have a few questions for you. When Jorge Meran returns to Dominican Republic for winter after season ends here do you communicate with him? How do you communicate with him via telephone via mail via e-mail? Who pays for the calls? Has he asked you to go to DR to meet his family and pay for your ticket to DR? What do your own parents say? Have your parents seen and got to know Jorge?
The people here are trying to give you there opinions and how they feel about what you are asking. If you go thru the archives you will find many posts and you can see they have more experience than you can imagine.
Good Luck hope you find answers that you are looking for.
R&J
Hey I wish I would of finished college instead of getting marrried and traveling thru the minor league system. You are a young persons take advantage -- STAY IN SCHOOL!
Hey Christina,
Your'e right, the people on here don't know this guy and they have no right to critisize 24/7. Be careful and go 4 it!
Your'e right, the people on here don't know this guy and they have no right to critisize 24/7. Be careful and go 4 it!
The odds are stacked against you
Your chances of having a successful relationship with this individual are comparable to winning the powerball lottery or God manifesting himself on television.
The overwhelming majority of such links end up as yourself being played as a SUCKER.
They see you for what you represent (visa,way outta poverty,travel,etc) and not for who you are.
I am Dominican and this mindset is ingrained ,institutionalized in the Dominican psyche. It's not that my people are bad, its just that the poor can't SEPARATE love and gain. The poor are struggling to survive. Even if the person has good intentions, the need to survive is paramount.Also those around him will reinforce these beliefs to the tune of- "ya tu ta hecho, mi pana" or " "cuando te vas pa' lo paises"
Its almost a dead giveaway that those poor Dominicans that link up with a foreigner are leaving the island. It's something demanded and expected by all those surrounding them.
If it doesn't occur within reasonable time he is ridiculed by all. They'll teel him that he couldn't gotten a local girl instead.oh and if you think that he is alone while you two are separated that's complete MADNESS.
All Dominican men DEMAND sex twice daily. Myself included.
It's not about being negative. It's about REALITY.
Oh and please listen to Hillbilly a.k.a. Gandalf. The guy is as old and wise as Gandalf, and has way of putting these things simple.
Your chances of having a successful relationship with this individual are comparable to winning the powerball lottery or God manifesting himself on television.
The overwhelming majority of such links end up as yourself being played as a SUCKER.
They see you for what you represent (visa,way outta poverty,travel,etc) and not for who you are.
I am Dominican and this mindset is ingrained ,institutionalized in the Dominican psyche. It's not that my people are bad, its just that the poor can't SEPARATE love and gain. The poor are struggling to survive. Even if the person has good intentions, the need to survive is paramount.Also those around him will reinforce these beliefs to the tune of- "ya tu ta hecho, mi pana" or " "cuando te vas pa' lo paises"
Its almost a dead giveaway that those poor Dominicans that link up with a foreigner are leaving the island. It's something demanded and expected by all those surrounding them.
If it doesn't occur within reasonable time he is ridiculed by all. They'll teel him that he couldn't gotten a local girl instead.oh and if you think that he is alone while you two are separated that's complete MADNESS.
All Dominican men DEMAND sex twice daily. Myself included.
It's not about being negative. It's about REALITY.
Oh and please listen to Hillbilly a.k.a. Gandalf. The guy is as old and wise as Gandalf, and has way of putting these things simple.
D
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Right on with those questions R&J.....and even if those are positively answered.....My question is what was he doing during the three years that you were apart? and who was he doing? cuidate!
Right on with those questions R&J.....and even if those are positively answered.....My question is what was he doing during the three years that you were apart? and who was he doing? cuidate!
Karen I am not trying to critisize anyone. I am speaking from my own life and the things that I have gone thru being married to a former minor league Dominican baseball player.
You always think you know the person because you are hearing all the things you want to hear. I am asking her to think long and hard before going crazy over this guy.
From what I can see he is in class "A" baseball and that is a long way to big league. It also looks like he is about 25 years of age -- is that his real age? My husbands papers say he is 40 right now is he 40? NOOOOO He is 47 and now he is blessed to work longer for social security if there is any left when his day comes. I am just talking because I have been there and I think the people who are posting on this board have a good idea of what is going on.
R&J
And it is not just about being old its about having experience -- I am all for love and living happly ever after.
You always think you know the person because you are hearing all the things you want to hear. I am asking her to think long and hard before going crazy over this guy.
From what I can see he is in class "A" baseball and that is a long way to big league. It also looks like he is about 25 years of age -- is that his real age? My husbands papers say he is 40 right now is he 40? NOOOOO He is 47 and now he is blessed to work longer for social security if there is any left when his day comes. I am just talking because I have been there and I think the people who are posting on this board have a good idea of what is going on.
R&J
And it is not just about being old its about having experience -- I am all for love and living happly ever after.
Let it be known...
I'm starting to get a little bored of the Dominican boyfriend/girlfriend posts.
Do you know Juan from Playa Dorarda?
I'm a wannabe Sanky!
etc, etc, etc...
I'm well aware of some people's need to be reassured or have an ego boost, but sorry,
I'm going to start culling some of these posts. Unless they have some cultural or educational value they will be vaporized or be redirected to the archives.
Maybe another forum is in order, "Dominican Love"?
I'm starting to get a little bored of the Dominican boyfriend/girlfriend posts.
Do you know Juan from Playa Dorarda?
I'm a wannabe Sanky!
etc, etc, etc...
I'm well aware of some people's need to be reassured or have an ego boost, but sorry,
I'm going to start culling some of these posts. Unless they have some cultural or educational value they will be vaporized or be redirected to the archives.
Maybe another forum is in order, "Dominican Love"?
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