Just something you girls who are dating guys working at resorts should think about doing while on vacation in paradise.
Almost a year has gone by since I met Norberto in Punta Cana. Although I had caught him lying to me before about his affairs with tourists, I told myself well these things had gone on before we were really serious about each other and I did not eject him from my life cause he kept on calling and calling and calling when I had tried to.
Well, thanks to the advice of people here, I have never sent a dime. He had only asked once in the beginning and I didn't blame him for trying, after all they are poor, RIGHT. I told myself what the heck, he is the one calling (he lost his cellphone so I cannot call???? I know RED FLAG). I tell myself, I have a friend in DR and when I go down there I can always have FUN. So for months we are in contact about two times a week.
Last month I tell him I have a girlfriend whom I see here everyday who is going down there to the club he works at in september. All of a sudden, last Friday sept. 9th, he has two weeks vacation and gives me a two day notice begging me to come down and wants us to be married so we can be together as soon as possible.
I got all wishywashy and got to wonder again... Am I being too hard on this guy? Could he really after all this time have feelings for me since he is not asking money and he has been spending money all this time to call me and all?
Well, here is where I really appreciate having met Patricia a barmaid working at the hotel. I had given her gifts, clothing and toys for her children. And had taken her phone number of course. I decide to give her a call to see how things are doing and to investigate a bit. I ask her about Norberto and if she see's him sometimes. She says yes, he gives me news about you and I even asked him for your phone number about a month ago and he took out his cellphone to look it up and give it to her. (the cell phone he lost). She tells me "el te quiere mucho" until.... I tell her about his proposal for marriage. She says you know you are like a sister to me and I don't want you to get hurt. when you left in January he immediately had a girl from Argentina and promises to investigate a bit more for me.
The next day.... I get her on the phone and she announces me, he has a girlfriend from France who is working at the hotel for six months and she will be leaving in two weeks. I am so angry now, not that he has a girlfriend, just that he is so much of a LOW LIFE that he asked me to marry him. He was probably soooo afraid that my girlfriend going down there would find this out that he skipped town before she got there.
Well I called him (on his friends cell phone) and confronted him with this, he says he knows this girl from France that she is in love with him but he is not. He loves me and ONLY ME. Yeah right! I didn't tell him I got the info from Patricia, she could be in trouble for this with her fellow co-workers. Just told him my girlfriend had investigated a bit. Thing is my girlfriend is still here leaving only on the 25th, but he did not know the exact dates.
I asked him do you mind if I call this French girl to verify this story. He kept answering me please come down, I need to see you face to face. I kept telling him if she is not your girlfriend you should not mind. If you want to be with her, I will respect you and I will not call. He finally told me to call. I did. What a coincidence??? She is on vacation.
Anyway, I could go on and on about all the excuses he had or all the phone calls he is making here this week but that was not my point starting this thread. Just wanted to say that the friendship I have developped with Patricia has been of great help here. She is a wonderful girl and if I ever go down there again, I will always have a friend in DR.
FRIENDSHIP IS FOREVER
Almost a year has gone by since I met Norberto in Punta Cana. Although I had caught him lying to me before about his affairs with tourists, I told myself well these things had gone on before we were really serious about each other and I did not eject him from my life cause he kept on calling and calling and calling when I had tried to.
Well, thanks to the advice of people here, I have never sent a dime. He had only asked once in the beginning and I didn't blame him for trying, after all they are poor, RIGHT. I told myself what the heck, he is the one calling (he lost his cellphone so I cannot call???? I know RED FLAG). I tell myself, I have a friend in DR and when I go down there I can always have FUN. So for months we are in contact about two times a week.
Last month I tell him I have a girlfriend whom I see here everyday who is going down there to the club he works at in september. All of a sudden, last Friday sept. 9th, he has two weeks vacation and gives me a two day notice begging me to come down and wants us to be married so we can be together as soon as possible.
I got all wishywashy and got to wonder again... Am I being too hard on this guy? Could he really after all this time have feelings for me since he is not asking money and he has been spending money all this time to call me and all?
Well, here is where I really appreciate having met Patricia a barmaid working at the hotel. I had given her gifts, clothing and toys for her children. And had taken her phone number of course. I decide to give her a call to see how things are doing and to investigate a bit. I ask her about Norberto and if she see's him sometimes. She says yes, he gives me news about you and I even asked him for your phone number about a month ago and he took out his cellphone to look it up and give it to her. (the cell phone he lost). She tells me "el te quiere mucho" until.... I tell her about his proposal for marriage. She says you know you are like a sister to me and I don't want you to get hurt. when you left in January he immediately had a girl from Argentina and promises to investigate a bit more for me.
The next day.... I get her on the phone and she announces me, he has a girlfriend from France who is working at the hotel for six months and she will be leaving in two weeks. I am so angry now, not that he has a girlfriend, just that he is so much of a LOW LIFE that he asked me to marry him. He was probably soooo afraid that my girlfriend going down there would find this out that he skipped town before she got there.
Well I called him (on his friends cell phone) and confronted him with this, he says he knows this girl from France that she is in love with him but he is not. He loves me and ONLY ME. Yeah right! I didn't tell him I got the info from Patricia, she could be in trouble for this with her fellow co-workers. Just told him my girlfriend had investigated a bit. Thing is my girlfriend is still here leaving only on the 25th, but he did not know the exact dates.
I asked him do you mind if I call this French girl to verify this story. He kept answering me please come down, I need to see you face to face. I kept telling him if she is not your girlfriend you should not mind. If you want to be with her, I will respect you and I will not call. He finally told me to call. I did. What a coincidence??? She is on vacation.
Anyway, I could go on and on about all the excuses he had or all the phone calls he is making here this week but that was not my point starting this thread. Just wanted to say that the friendship I have developped with Patricia has been of great help here. She is a wonderful girl and if I ever go down there again, I will always have a friend in DR.
FRIENDSHIP IS FOREVER