Novela One
Well, I once listened to a friend whine for hours on the phone to me. And he had two small children. I asked him how he got along with his ex, their mother. He said, "it was great in the beginning, but now that I speak her language I am beginning to hate her, the very mother of my children." He said that he enjoyed the early days of love and lust and simple communication. And he paid later. HOW could he know that the smiling lady was a gringa buddhist who would raise his kids to pray to the "Goddess"? How could she have known he was Catholic? He didn't go to church.
Novela Two
I know a happy couple who started with the same sparking love lust combo, later both speak both languages well, and guess how THEY explain their longevity as a couple...???... Wanna know...not sex, you dumbie.
They told me that each is a quick-silver chattybox schmozer in his/her own language, and that without words to hide behind, and it was so hard to get evena few words across, that they focused on the essentials. No time for second-guesing, game playing/manipulation, testing, none of that crappola. Hmn.........
Novela Three
As for me, I have no similar experience. Though there was that deaf hottie that I did not realize was deaf. I kept wondering why he didn't say "Excuse me" when he bumped into me. On. The. Dance. FLoor.
I must stop myself before I say too much -- Sam