Let me start this thread by explaining myself as I am new to the forum. I have been in a five year relationship with my Dominican boyfriend, and we have lived together for about 2 years. I'm content with the relationship, although, I get a bit concerned when his typical Dominican male "traits" show through. I read these post, and it makes me even more so. He was born and raised in DR until he was 17, and he came to the US and has not been back to his country since then. He is a citizen, and doing well for himself-- so he needs me by no means. He also pretty good care of me (No bills!!!) As for me, I am a 19-year old (yes, a baby... and, yes, he found me very young!) Italian-American female. I am 5'8", about 120 lbs, olive skin, long caramel hair and big brown eyes. I attend college for Marketing. Work 40 hours a week. I speak very good Spanish, dance merengue and bachata (learning salsa!). I am often compared to looking very similar to (a younger version) Viviana of Guerra de los Sexos gameshow. Not to mention that I have moved 4 times in the past 2 years to follow him after recieving job offers.
Women ask me WHAT I see in him, and men often ask me HOW he got me, as he is not that spectacular looking. But, I don't see this and still treat him like a king. He is also NOT complaining in the bedroom department, and I don't hold sex for ransom (as I saw someone claim in a different post American girls do)... But... I am writing this post because I have doubts, and sometimes wonder "What more could he ask for???"
He has 3 kids (none with me!), lacks respect for me on occasion, distances himself from me, and goes to a nearby bar sometimes 3 nights a week. I give him plenty of freedom, and allow him to go out. But when he comes home at 2:00am and I am not there until 1-2 hours later, he goes on a power rampage that I even went out to start with! I come from a culture that the WOMEN is superior and runs the house, and I know that many Domincans are raised the exact opposite. So I try to meet him somewhere in the middle, as equals... but he is not meeting me halfway... And it is starting to wear on me. Part of me is telling me to turn and run the other way! But I am afraid that I am making preconcieved notions based on stereotypes and advice from unreputable sources... So since it seems like this board has good feedback, I am choosing to see what you guys can gather from this situation!
Is it possible for a Dominican man to be satsfied with a girl like me and to be with ONLY one woman??? Do I have good basis to be concerned????
Women ask me WHAT I see in him, and men often ask me HOW he got me, as he is not that spectacular looking. But, I don't see this and still treat him like a king. He is also NOT complaining in the bedroom department, and I don't hold sex for ransom (as I saw someone claim in a different post American girls do)... But... I am writing this post because I have doubts, and sometimes wonder "What more could he ask for???"
He has 3 kids (none with me!), lacks respect for me on occasion, distances himself from me, and goes to a nearby bar sometimes 3 nights a week. I give him plenty of freedom, and allow him to go out. But when he comes home at 2:00am and I am not there until 1-2 hours later, he goes on a power rampage that I even went out to start with! I come from a culture that the WOMEN is superior and runs the house, and I know that many Domincans are raised the exact opposite. So I try to meet him somewhere in the middle, as equals... but he is not meeting me halfway... And it is starting to wear on me. Part of me is telling me to turn and run the other way! But I am afraid that I am making preconcieved notions based on stereotypes and advice from unreputable sources... So since it seems like this board has good feedback, I am choosing to see what you guys can gather from this situation!
Is it possible for a Dominican man to be satsfied with a girl like me and to be with ONLY one woman??? Do I have good basis to be concerned????