Okay, I know that this is going to sound bad and I am ready to be fussed at. I have read alot of the boards before coming to the conclusion that I need some direction. Hopefully, I won't be met with predjudice, racism ,etc. because I am a very sensitive person. I just wanted some insight into my situation. I am a 32 year old light skinned, freckled, Black American woman. I am also very proud of this fact so no zingers thrown at me please. I am well educated and so are my family members. I live in a Chicago Western suburb for anyone who is familiar with the area. The name of the city is Naperville. My husband and I are separating after almost ten years together due to irrecconciable differences. We have 4 children.
I have a Myspace account and one day, I received a blue, sparkly rose sent from a very beautiful (in my opinion) Dominican man of 23 years of age. It simply said," Hello". After a few weeks of not responding, I decided to accept his invite for friendship and sent him a comment of thanks for the flower it is beautiful. Later, I receive a post on one of my pictures that reads
:HOLA CORAZON, ESTA SUPER LINDA WAOOOO Y PARA DARTE ASI COMO ESTA UN BUEN BESOS BIEN ROMANTICO DE FRENTE CARI?O QUE LINDA ESTA PRINCESA WAOOOOOOO SUPER HERMOSA..... .
I translated it through Babel Fish and even had my Puerto Rican and Mexican friend help me out with some of the meaning. Can someone Dominican please tell me exactly what that means?Now, I know he has had to have seen my profile about my age, race, background, marital status, etc. So I wondered, why is he pursuing me? I sort of felt that Dominican men really didn't go for Black women. I mean, why when we look like some of the Dominican women? He could just stick with one of them where there isn't a language barrier. We have been chatting each other up on Yahoo! messenger for hours on end for so far a week so we are new. We use a translating program to understand each other. We go to sleep and start all over again the next day.
We have talked about the fact that I am separated but not divorced yet, that I have children I am not willing to leave because they need me, if my race is okay, I've told him that I am cosmetologist/esthetician and that I am finishing up with beauty school. At first he was not okay with my living arrangements but after my explaining to him and reassuring him how serious I am about getting to know him, he's okay with being with me. I am constantly reassuring him that I intend to do him no harm and that I do care about him. He likes for me to reassure him like every day. He is very expressive and sweet and seems very infatuated with me. I am confused about how far this should go. I have even thought about later taking a little vacation and seeing what he is talking about but I am afraid of your culture after reading so many threads.
I've never left the US, like I said I am a Black woman, who looks a little mixed I think I'm kinda cute at times but I don't know what he sees in me. I called his cellphone so he could hear my voice and he liked it. He dosen't seem eager to try to get here to the US so I feel a little relieved cause it dosen't seem like a visa thing. I just can't help but wonder, what does he want from me or see in me? I am heavily attracted to him as he is very complimentary and appears to be a hard worker (working men are always a plus in my book; it usually means they are responsible). He makes me feel special. I don't know how far this should or will go. Help! I am excited and afraid...I've never done anything like this before.
I have a Myspace account and one day, I received a blue, sparkly rose sent from a very beautiful (in my opinion) Dominican man of 23 years of age. It simply said," Hello". After a few weeks of not responding, I decided to accept his invite for friendship and sent him a comment of thanks for the flower it is beautiful. Later, I receive a post on one of my pictures that reads
:HOLA CORAZON, ESTA SUPER LINDA WAOOOO Y PARA DARTE ASI COMO ESTA UN BUEN BESOS BIEN ROMANTICO DE FRENTE CARI?O QUE LINDA ESTA PRINCESA WAOOOOOOO SUPER HERMOSA..... .
I translated it through Babel Fish and even had my Puerto Rican and Mexican friend help me out with some of the meaning. Can someone Dominican please tell me exactly what that means?Now, I know he has had to have seen my profile about my age, race, background, marital status, etc. So I wondered, why is he pursuing me? I sort of felt that Dominican men really didn't go for Black women. I mean, why when we look like some of the Dominican women? He could just stick with one of them where there isn't a language barrier. We have been chatting each other up on Yahoo! messenger for hours on end for so far a week so we are new. We use a translating program to understand each other. We go to sleep and start all over again the next day.
We have talked about the fact that I am separated but not divorced yet, that I have children I am not willing to leave because they need me, if my race is okay, I've told him that I am cosmetologist/esthetician and that I am finishing up with beauty school. At first he was not okay with my living arrangements but after my explaining to him and reassuring him how serious I am about getting to know him, he's okay with being with me. I am constantly reassuring him that I intend to do him no harm and that I do care about him. He likes for me to reassure him like every day. He is very expressive and sweet and seems very infatuated with me. I am confused about how far this should go. I have even thought about later taking a little vacation and seeing what he is talking about but I am afraid of your culture after reading so many threads.
I've never left the US, like I said I am a Black woman, who looks a little mixed I think I'm kinda cute at times but I don't know what he sees in me. I called his cellphone so he could hear my voice and he liked it. He dosen't seem eager to try to get here to the US so I feel a little relieved cause it dosen't seem like a visa thing. I just can't help but wonder, what does he want from me or see in me? I am heavily attracted to him as he is very complimentary and appears to be a hard worker (working men are always a plus in my book; it usually means they are responsible). He makes me feel special. I don't know how far this should or will go. Help! I am excited and afraid...I've never done anything like this before.
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