16 months in

so 16 months into the relationship I get a virus (nothing sexual get your minds out of the gutter :tired, need emergency heart surgery and end up with a hole in my chest that looks like I have been hit with a hatchet. Life can be hard but HEY ! ! ! its still life so I will take it.

So what does my younger, stronger, healthier Dominican significant other say?
"I should have taken out the extended warranty"
I would have laughed but at the time laughing hurt too much.

Our relationship is not the easiest and who knows what will happen but I will always be appreciative of his support and care during some of life's more difficult transistions including the death of a parent. These things are not always guaranteed.

Anyway I am posting this because Lord knows we get plenty of the other stuff

Yes and I sincerely hope for your sake that you don't know about that from personal experience

plan a is mega doses of ibuprofin
plan b is to tap the fluid with a needle
but I had to go with plan c surgery
oh well it wasn't the worst type of heart surgery - they didn't have to crack the ribs

Its a geat motivator to get and stay healthy!

oh Bob I am so sorry you went through that and glad you are here to tell about it
4 months huh? that is helpful for me to know because some days I am surprised/frightened by how tired I am but it has only been 3 weeks.
but the biggest shocker was the surgical site, I had NO IDEA they could send you home with a hole in your chest

this will probably get shut down or told to take it to PM's

viruses are viruses, you try to maintain your best defense, a healthy immune system, but sometimes sh*t happens

this happened to me in NYC