Believe it or not, when I traveled to the DR to meet the woman I had been emailing and video chatting with for a month, I did not know how common it was for American dudes to become involved with Dominican women. Or, more specifically, I did not know the multitude of pitfalls for such a relationship had been so thoroughly documented on a website such as this.
Of course AFTER my dreamy and romantic trip, I discover DR1.com and I have read some really frightening (to me) posts that have made me nervous. I am not sure if the generally skeptical perspectives expressed on this website are a reflection of the reality of Dominican relationships, or what.
I believe in the wisdom of the crowd, or crowd sourcing, or whatever you want to call it. So? I have some questions for the crowd. Many on this forum seem jaded and cruel, so at the risk of over-exposing myself, I ask in the hopes that there is some wisdom to be gained from this exercise. My questions:
1. What is the reputation of the Ensanche Isabelita area of Santo Domingo? Where I am from, each city and town has a reputation based on its community characteristics?middle class Jewish community, upper class African American enclave, blue collar Portuguese, etc. Can anyone tell me about Ensanche Isabelita?s reputation or character?
2. It seems like the accepted convention is that (younger) Dominican men dating (older) American women will sleep around. Is the inverse an accepted convention? If a (younger) Dominican woman tells you (an older American) she will be true to you, can you (I) believe her?
3. In my culture, chastity is a virtue. And I have been fairly chaste, limiting the number of women I have been intimate with, so that I can count them with the fingers on two hands. Although she is younger than me, she has been intimate with a far larger number than myself. Is this promiscuity common in the DR? In my culture, such behavior attracts an un-unappealing label. She led me to believe that attitudes towards intimacy are different where she is from. She has told me that intimacy is viewed more casually. Is this true?
I have more questions but would like to hear your responses to these before I prattle on any more.
Of course AFTER my dreamy and romantic trip, I discover DR1.com and I have read some really frightening (to me) posts that have made me nervous. I am not sure if the generally skeptical perspectives expressed on this website are a reflection of the reality of Dominican relationships, or what.
I believe in the wisdom of the crowd, or crowd sourcing, or whatever you want to call it. So? I have some questions for the crowd. Many on this forum seem jaded and cruel, so at the risk of over-exposing myself, I ask in the hopes that there is some wisdom to be gained from this exercise. My questions:
1. What is the reputation of the Ensanche Isabelita area of Santo Domingo? Where I am from, each city and town has a reputation based on its community characteristics?middle class Jewish community, upper class African American enclave, blue collar Portuguese, etc. Can anyone tell me about Ensanche Isabelita?s reputation or character?
2. It seems like the accepted convention is that (younger) Dominican men dating (older) American women will sleep around. Is the inverse an accepted convention? If a (younger) Dominican woman tells you (an older American) she will be true to you, can you (I) believe her?
3. In my culture, chastity is a virtue. And I have been fairly chaste, limiting the number of women I have been intimate with, so that I can count them with the fingers on two hands. Although she is younger than me, she has been intimate with a far larger number than myself. Is this promiscuity common in the DR? In my culture, such behavior attracts an un-unappealing label. She led me to believe that attitudes towards intimacy are different where she is from. She has told me that intimacy is viewed more casually. Is this true?
I have more questions but would like to hear your responses to these before I prattle on any more.
