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MJSantoDomingo

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I apologize in advance for not having all the info for this "story", but I will share what I heard.
First, the basic question is: Even though corruption may be rampant, isn't blackmail illegal in the DR?

Ok - the story: My wife is being told by friend that someone has "pictures and video" of her and insinuating that they might be naked or sexual. She is being blackmailed, actually by another woman, that she needs to pay her a lot of money or she will post everything on facebook for her family to see. (Sorry that I am only hearing part of the story. I was probably not supposed to hear any - but I am posting this question in order to know better and understand better how some things work here.)
I am only guessing that she did some work as a prostitute, but that may not be a fair assumption.

She was saying that she did not have the money (i got the impression it was a lot, not just 20,000 or 40,000 pesos, but probably more), but she did not want whatever the other woman has to be posted on facebook and whatever other bad comments the woman might post with any pictures or video she has.
And supposedly this other woman has a lawyer helping her with this blackmail.

I clearly see this as blackmail. Can't she find a good police officer or laywer that might help? Because isn't blackmail illegal here? (Yes, I know much corruption happens - and illegal things happen) Can this other woman really have a lawyer advising her to blackmail this girl for money? Wouldn't that make the lawyer a conspirator in the crime?
Or is this common practice here?
I acknowledge that there are women who do turn to prostitution to make money to feed and clothe their kids. And I do know that prostitution is legal here, though pimping is not legal.
But is blackmail in such situations common? And can she do anything?

I do not know if we will see her again - or if the topic will come up again - but it has me curious about what she could do, because no matter what she did, I do not think someone else should be able to blackmail her. It just doesn't sound right - she should be able to do something.

Plus, in my opinion, if she pays this woman once, what is to stop this woman from blackmailing her again in the future. Seems really screwed up.
 
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are you saying that you wife has been a ho and now someone is blackmailing her because of that? or is "wife" being used loosely here, since you mention you may not see her again? or is it wife's (or "wife's") friend who is a subject of blackmail?

i say the best thing to do about blackmail is not the police and court. best thing is to let go. a woman was a hooker, fine. having pictures of a **** up her *** is no more shameful than prostitution itself. just more graphic.

i am pretty sure you could prosecute for blackmail. but does that woman have money for that? does she know lawyers, policemen? short of paying up or sucking someone off to make the case go away she can do nothing. apart from manning up, admitting her past and getting on with her future.
 
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This is an empty threat as FB forbids such pictures, will remove them and sanction the poster.

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Depends who she is. Something a woman doesn't consider when she does decide to do a spot of whoring, whether it be commendable and has no other way to feed the kids or just because she is a lazy a$$ bint, it is no difference and can stay with you for life, well it will stay with them for life which is unfortunate. I am presuming she is the unfortunate sort who has done this at some time as there is no other option to survive, but she has been stupid to allow anyone to photo her, or make a movie with her. Making movies with your life partner is very different to making movies with strangers or people you barely know, and this is what happens. I say she is more likely to be the sort who did it out of no other option and is probably a decent respectful person as if she was a barrio rat then the woman in question who is trying to bribe her would have had a face full of hot oil by now, or the actress would simply not have been bothered, infact probably looked at it as free promotion in some cases.
I wouldn't involve the law in any situation in DR, I don't think there is any situation where the police can help anyone ever.
Just tell her to deal with it, if she shows no care about it then the other woman has no weight, and at the end of the day who is going to be bothered, or surprised. Let her do it, no big deal.
She can either deal with this once and that's it, or deal with it every time this woman is a little low on cash.

It is not true that once a whore always a whore, but porn stars live forever!
 
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Contact Facebook security and give them all the names involved....as you know them.......
Let them do their job...........

B in Santiago
 
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Could it be a plot to get money out of the "Gringo"?

Yeah an evil thought for my 666th post
 
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MJSantoDomingo

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dv8 said:
are you saying that you wife has been a ho and now someone is blackmailing her because of that? or is "wife" being used loosely here, since you mention you may not see her again? or is it wife's (or "wife's") friend who is a subject of blackmail?
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Just to be very clear - I am NOT talking about my wife! It is NOT about my wife! And my wife is not a ho! That is jumping to wrong conclusions based on what I wrote.
I am talking about a girl who was trying to consult with my wife about this potential problem. This girl was seeking advice about what to do. Since even locals are unclear about such laws, I wrote this forum to see what people knew about blackmail in the DR, especially in the type of situation the girl presented.
And - I can understand her concerns about trying to keep her other life separate from her family as she seems to be only trying to do what she needs to do for now. I may not agree with her choices, but that is what she did. Her family may not be as accepting of her past decisions to get money for her kids.
 
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Givadogahome said:
Depends who she is. Something a woman doesn't consider when she does decide to do a spot of whoring, whether it be commendable and has no other way to feed the kids or just because she is a lazy a$$ bint, it is no difference and can stay with you for life, well it will stay with them for life which is unfortunate. I am presuming she is the unfortunate sort who has done this at some time as there is no other option to survive, but she has been stupid to allow anyone to photo her, or make a movie with her. Making movies with your life partner is very different to making movies with strangers or people you barely know, and this is what happens. I say she is more likely to be the sort who did it out of no other option and is probably a decent respectful person as if she was a barrio rat then the woman in question who is trying to bribe her would have had a face full of hot oil by now, or the actress would simply not have been bothered, infact probably looked at it as free promotion in some cases.
I wouldn't involve the law in any situation in DR, I don't think there is any situation where the police can help anyone ever.
Just tell her to deal with it, if she shows no care about it then the other woman has no weight, and at the end of the day who is going to be bothered, or surprised. Let her do it, no big deal.
She can either deal with this once and that's it, or deal with it every time this woman is a little low on cash.

It is not true that once a whore always a whore, but porn stars live forever!
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Good info. I think the girl will need to hear that. I was thinking the same.
 
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My .02$:

Do not give a single peso to this "problem" and recommend that she also refrain from doing so. Reassure her that should such photos/videos exist, they will not change the opinion held of her by anyone worth calling friend or family.

Do not involve the police.

Ignore.

Ignore.

Ignore.
 
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MJSantoDomingo

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waytogo said:
Contact Facebook security and give them all the names involved....as you know them.......
Let them do their job...........

B in Santiago
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I will try to pass this info along the girl, if possible, I think she does have facebook. I do not have or use facebook (and neither does my wife), so I am not familiar with their rules or security.
 
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MJSantoDomingo

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caribmike said:
Could it be a plot to get money out of the "Gringo"?

Yeah an evil thought for my 666th post
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:) Yeah - I was waiting for my wife to tell me that the girl was asking for our "help". But my wife took care of it quickly by saying we do not have any money to help - and could only help by talking with her. I am not a rich gringo by any means, all my money goes to my immediate family and at times we are still tight.
 
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Not only is blackmailing illegal, so is posting nude pictures of anyone without her/his consent. But as others said, taking this to court will be a real pain. There's very little chance this "threat" will be carried out. An through a lawyer??? funny stuff...
 
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MJSantoDomingo said:
My wife is being told by friend that someone has "pictures and video" of her and insinuating that they might be naked or sexual.
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please, do not think i wanted to insult you in any way. i had to read your post few times before i came to the conclusion you may be talking about an acquaintance, not about your wife herself because of your unfortunate wording (see above). i sincerely apologize if i did offend, it was not my intention.

in any case, the best that can be done in this case is what i wrote: things cannot get any worse. if the pictures are made public and get seen by friends and family this woman will be shamed. once. people who love her and care for her should not be judging her by that. if she ever gives in and pays up she will have to pay and keep on paying, living her life in fear.
i know it is easy to say but hard to do. but this is the only way.
 
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Givadogahome said:

I wouldn't involve the law in any situation in DR, I don't think there is any situation where the police can help anyone ever.
Just tell her to deal with it, if she shows no care about it then the other woman has no weight, and at the end of the day who is going to be bothered, or surprised. Let her do it, no big deal.
It is not true that once a whore always a whore, but porn stars live forever!
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I don't really agree with the premise that the Dominican law can never help (in general) or in this particular case...There are lots of examples where police have helped...quite a few abduction for example...people have been rescued by the police, without their family paying anything for their release.

As for blackmail it is beyond doubt that it is illegal, and that the police can and should help...As an example, recently there was a so called "private investigator" who was using his training to spy motel guests and subsequently attempt to blackmail victims...off the top of my head, one victim was a female TV personality...the police was told about it, and...last I checked the guy is in jail...may have been already found guilty in a trial...

That is not to say that the police is perfect...it is not...on the other hand, it can and does help...routinely...

Personally I would never live in a place where I cannot trust the authorities for anything...it would be like living in the jungle... or worse.
 
waytogo

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I located the phone number for Facebook Corporate offices.............
Maybe this will help a little.............650-308-7300......
Don't know if they will address your situation, but worth a try.........

B in Santiago
 
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dv8 said:
please, do not think i wanted to insult you in any way. i had to read your post few times before i came to the conclusion you may be talking about an acquaintance, not about your wife herself because of your unfortunate wording (see above). i sincerely apologize if i did offend, it was not my intention.
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Absolutely terrible wording by the OP..."my wife is being told by a friend that someone has pictures and videos of her.... she...etc. "

Obviously "her" and "she" could in principle apply to the friend or the wife...

To prevent such misunderstandings, avoid "her" or "she" or such pronouns if you have just mentioned two or more people to whom the pronoun may apply...for example, replace "her" or "she" by "the friend", and no one would be confused.
 
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Laugh at the blackmailers:

:cheeky:"Go ahead.":cheeky:

Defuse the threat. If it happens, just admit to the mistake to family. THEN take it to the police.
 
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bronzeallspice said:
From reading the post it seems like this woman knows that other family members are on fb
and therefore it doesn't matter whether the one who's being blackmailed is on fb or not.
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Well, if SHE isn't on FB then the person who uploads the photos can't tag her, so no one will ever know they're there/they're her, unless they're friends with the person uploading. And if she's not friends with the person who has the photos, she can't tag her. That doesn't stop her from listing her name, but someone would have to click on it to see that. AND anyone can report it to FB very easily, there's a button next to each photo to report offensive photos.
 
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