NYC women and the DR...

I remember when I was trying to get something going with a certain girl here in NYC. She told me that my trips to the DR would have to stop if we hooked up. I looked at her like she was nuts.

I told her she was welcome to come along as long as she paid her way. She looked at me like I was nuts.

She wanted to know what I loved so much about the place because her impression of it was that it was one gigantic whorehouse.

Apparently in my little circle of friends I made the mistake of showing pics of some chicas that I met while on vacation. They seemed obsessed and carried on like 6th graders. These guys started talking amongst themselves and made comments about me screwing everything in sight. It got back to the girlfriends and it was outrageous. I was accused of being a whoremonger and a pimp. All of this behind my back, of course. The gossip got back to me eventually and when I heard what was going on I was a little upset.

And as I passed on the opportunity to get together with this young lady it occured to me why my travels caused such a sensation.

These women for the most part are very controlling and demanding. Are they liberated, or just bitchy and mean? The guys always make comments on how lucky I am to be single and the women just shake their heads. Even though I travel to many other places they seem to obsess over this one particular place.

I recall my last trip when I was running in La Vega and was stunned at the scenery. It made a bad run very memorable. Nothing but mountains and clear sky. Then there was the Malecon in Santo Domingo, where I spent many lazy afternoons just hanging out with nobody to bother me for the most part. I spent another afternoon playing basketball in some barrio in the capital and hanging out with my friends eating fritura and platanos and just enjoying the conversations we had and feeling no stress whatsoever.

Trying to explain this, I was met with empty stares and "Why can't you do that here?"

Well, the answer is I can't. My married friends can't hang out unless they ask permission and even then it's a problem. I was having dinner with a friend and his girlfriend called 5 times. She even wanted to speak to me just to make sure he was where he said he was.

I realized I was in the wrong place with the wrong people when we were at a get-together that this girl and I were both invited to. We had hung out once and talked on the phone a few times. I wanted to take it slow because as an adult I want to get to know someone before taking things further. We were sitting at the same table and a gorgeous latina strolled by. Everyone looked and so did I.

This was offensive to the young lady, who felt that I had disrespected her. I told her we were'nt on a date, we just happened to be at the same place at the same time. I looked at her and said, "If this is how you are now, I would hate to see you if we were dating". She said that I need alot of training and that it was obvious my trips to the DR were getting to my head. "You can't act like that here. Women here will not put up with that type of BS. So it's YOU that needs to get your act together".

I have met strangers who were the nicest people in the DR. When doing whatever, whether it's athletics, photography, siteseeing or hooking up with a girl, the DR is just another planet. And regardless of the intent, at least DR chicas are nicer(depending on who the chica is, of course).

I made my point clear that even though I'm easy-going, I do not consider happiness having my every thought and deed hovered over by my girlfriend. So she was out. Then I found out that one of our buddies got divorced because he was seeing a dominican chica, and this was the reason for the attitude among the girls in our clique to the DR. He is alot happier now and he said it was the best move he's ever made. Go figure.

Ricardo900 said:

Hey Berzin, you are so right about american women rejecting and not allowing their men to go the DR. They think its a whore infested country, but they probably don't know anything about the culture and the people. What if you tell a girlfriend that you are going to Toronto or Montreal?? If you are going to cheat you are going to cheat. They are just controlling. Non of my married friends can go to the DR or the ones who are involved. My married cousin snuck over to the DR for the weekend without telling his wife and got caught because his sister ratted him out. Jeesh!!

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I have been in Sosua and have walked around and hung out without having one girl approach me. I have also sat in Disco Classico on many occasions just drinking and watching people dance without one girl saying a thing to me. In terms of having these chicas hanging all over you as soon as you get off the plane that is quite exaggerated. If you want to be left alone you will.

I go to the DR for the most part for peace of mind and to be alone. Most of the time I just hang out either by myself or with friends from the island who have been kind enough to take me everywhere.

And since I am single, I can choose to hook up or not at my discretion. But this girl from NYC was already telling me from the get-go that my leisure time would be seriously curtailed because she does not trust my intentions when I travel alone.

The guys I showed the pics of the chicas to were extremely immature about the whole thing. They were salivating and wanted to hear stories but then told their wives and girlfriends what an empty, shallow life I lead because I don't want a girlfriend and would rather be with whores...and most of the girls were not whores, just friends.

The pics were the type that anyone would take on vacation to show friends back home, meaning everyone was dressed and the girls posed for the photos like you and I would if someone was taking photos at the park.

I have rethought my relationship with these people and I feel I do not want my lifestyle altered. I feel the real reason she was upset was because I asked her to pay her own way if she wanted to come with me to the DR.

MerengueDutchie said:

If this is really true then it's a serious thing... has anyone ever considered asking them the question how the women would feel if the shoe was on the other foot?

I mean asking to speak to your table-partner to make sure you are where you say you are? This is something I wouldn't even consider for a child, let alone your supossed equal partner..

Now to be honest, you did show the people in NY your chica pictures, so that might have something to do with their attitude towards your DR-trips

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This is true, and they have been like that for years. He accepts it. The few times we get to hang out anymore his wife calls him AT LEAST 4 or 5 times throughout the evening. Why he puts up with it I don't know, but being up someones' arse 24/7 is not my idea of a healthy relationship. Then again, what do I know? I'm just a shallow whore-monger.:cheeky:

As for the pics, they were not racy, risque or pornographic as I wrote somewhere else in this thread. The girls just happened to be much younger and prettier than any of the women my friends are with, and that is what caused the commotion.