You probably don't really want to hear this, but please consider listening to the voice of experience, namely, me. I had married a Dominican and his family called "con cargas" meaning "collect" and, he almost bankrupted me. These people have no regard for what it costs us here in the US. They think that we're rich and, frankly, they don't care even when they know that we're not. My husband and his "el collecto call" family gave me phone bills of $200 to $400 a month more and I was forced to pay it because he wouldn't. He also decided not to work anymore. So there I was, if I didn't pay the bill I couldn't call home from work and make sure that my kids from my 1st marriage were home from school, etc. He got my phone turned off the day before my daughter's surgery and I was in Manhattan in the hospital with her and could not communicate with my son at home. The truth of it is that a letter is better or so is e-mail. Your phone bills should be waking you up to the fact that if this guy really is nuts about you he'd give a damn about the expense he's causing. Otherwise, just get ready to be bled dry by his family because it won't end with the phone. If they can take advantage of you with that expense they'll think that you've got alot of money and that man will take it from you and send it to them. He will save face with his family first and have them think that he's swimming in money, but you'll be drowning in misery. I got dumb-ass calls like "his friend cut his hand at work" and "send me sneakers" and "Dad needs teeth" and guess what? When I went down there I never met this zillion dollar phone call friend, everyone already had sneakers, they asked me if I really wanted to bring my clothes back home with me, and Dad still didn't have new teeth. I found my TV, though. It was in his parents' kitchen. My husband told me that it was breaking. It worked very well for a "broken" TV. They also had a VCR and never even took the time to get Mom a can opener. She was still opening cans on the floor with a large rock and a heavy knife. It doesn't stop with the phone. Have an honest phone discussion with this guy. If he can't cough up pesos for his own phone calls then run the other way and consider yourself lucky.--Very sincerely, Gio
