I am new to this and this is my first post. I have been married about 2 and half years to a Dominican. I am an American, raised in Texas, and learned to read/write fluent Spanish in Mexico. When my husband and I met, we fell in love and 9 months later were married. Since I was in high school, I have been intrigued with the Latino cultures. Most of my experience up until the time I met my husband was spent with Mexicans.
My question or concern is do dominican families ever truly accept people from other cultures?? I say this because most of my husband's family llives close to us (near the same city in USA) but they don't seem to have much interest in me. No one could tell you my birthdate, they hardly remember his. And he chooses not to socialize with them as much since he has changed his world view from where he came from. I know I am being general here. But case in point, my parents have truly accepted him, call just to talk to him sometimes, worry about what to get him for birthdays and Christmas. While from his side of the family, I am just seen as an educated woman with no children yet. Sometimes when I walk into a room, they usually don't talk to me personally. When they call and leave messages for my husband in Spanish it is all in the singular form (tu). Like we want you to come over instead of we want you all to come over. Or I am referred to as his wife or his woman, instead of my name. Where in my culture/class we use people's names.
I am just wondering if this will be like this for the rest of my life. My husband tells me not to expect much from them since they have lower class values. But sometimes I think it must be me.
I am hoping this makes since to someone out there who could maybe help me understand just a little bit better the dominican culture and family relations.
My question or concern is do dominican families ever truly accept people from other cultures?? I say this because most of my husband's family llives close to us (near the same city in USA) but they don't seem to have much interest in me. No one could tell you my birthdate, they hardly remember his. And he chooses not to socialize with them as much since he has changed his world view from where he came from. I know I am being general here. But case in point, my parents have truly accepted him, call just to talk to him sometimes, worry about what to get him for birthdays and Christmas. While from his side of the family, I am just seen as an educated woman with no children yet. Sometimes when I walk into a room, they usually don't talk to me personally. When they call and leave messages for my husband in Spanish it is all in the singular form (tu). Like we want you to come over instead of we want you all to come over. Or I am referred to as his wife or his woman, instead of my name. Where in my culture/class we use people's names.
I am just wondering if this will be like this for the rest of my life. My husband tells me not to expect much from them since they have lower class values. But sometimes I think it must be me.
I am hoping this makes since to someone out there who could maybe help me understand just a little bit better the dominican culture and family relations.
