Dominican men

[Wendy Friesen]

Are all Dominican men players? I was recently in the Dominican Republic and I found that they were hitting on the tourists all of the time. I am planning on moving there for a little while and I am looking for advice and precautions to take while down there.

 

[Barb]

I have been to the D.R. four times and have found that most of the men are players. They say the same lines and make the same moves on any goodlooking woman who might be their chance at getting off the island or their meal ticket. Be very careful. I fell for it and learned the hard way......

 

[Wendy Friesen]

If you don't mind me asking "What Happened". I did meet on guy down there but I think that he realized that he wasn't getting anywhere. I really enjoyed it there and I am wondering what some of the lines are down there. I believed that everything that he said was just a line. He worked on the Catamaran and I believe that this is what all of the workers on there do this kind of thing. Another girl that I met down there also met someone off of the Catamaran. I believe that tour guides seem to be the worse.

 

[DR Defender]

Some of you appear to be experts when it comes to Dominican men just because you went to the Island a couple of times, Please!! Give me a break!! Look, I'm Dominican and I will tell you the truth. Yes, most Dominican men are players and I won't deny this. Now, it has nothing to do with them try to get a stinking meal as you called or trying to get off the island(which could be the fact in some cases). However, what I'm trying to say is that most Dominican men fool around even after their married and it doesn't MATTER IF THE'RE IN AFRICA, DOM. REP., OR THE U.S. I have always critized this even in my own family cause I just don't see how it could be ok to them. But there are some good Dominican men who work hard and are faithful to their women. You just need to find them. I'm sorry if I appeared a little angry but I don't like it when people talk without really knowing exactly what they are talking about. Its like me visiting Italy or some place a couple times and decide to make a judgement on all the women there according to how some behaved in that short period of time. I believe that you really need time to really get to know people. A two or four week vacation is not enough for you to really get to know someone. I DON'T THINK SO!!

 

[verona]

I thinks most of they are players. so be carefull.but otherwise i know fem beautifull lovestories from dom.rep....

 

[Ocean]

Yup, we Dominican cats are players, just like if you went anywhere else in the globe. We as men are out there to spread our "demon seeds." I agree, many hit on foreign women to get their ticket off the island but that's not entirely true. Some of us just do it for good ol'...pride - it plays a big role, oh, and our love for women. I apologize if I offended anyone but that's just the way it is.

 

[Brenda Carlson]

The fact that Dominican men love women is no different then men around the world. The difference is they are more agressive and open about thier desires. Just like anywhere else I think we all know how to tell the difference between a players pickup line and the desire to get to know a person. I found the Domincan men charming but did use my own common sense when dealing with those charms. I will add: I miss them now that I do not live there. XXOO to all of the beautiful Dominican men.

 

[Phyllis]

I agree with what "DR Defender" said - not all are players! Some (and probably most) are players, but hey so are the woman who go down there and want it! Afterall there must be a demand if there are so many DR men offering... One question though - if the DR men are players and know it, then why can't the tourist women be players while they are on vacation? It seems if you hook up with one DR guy for the week, then you can NOT spend anytime with another DR guy....

 

[Dominican Guy]

Unfortunatly, around resort areas there are many poor, imeducated, people, many (not all) are out there to get something out of the dollar bearing turists, there are many prostitutes, money beggers, pickpockers, and street vendors out to get the best out of turist, why shouldn't they, they know you have cash and they want a part of it.

Unfortunatly also, turists think these are your regular Dominicans, they think all dominicans are poor, miserable, bad dressed, undeveleoped and uneducaded.

Most of the local guys who roam the beaches are guys out to pick a "Gringa" someone who will get him out for a drink or better still out of the country and out of poverty.

Regards

 

[Wendy Friesen]

I understand that the dominican men are just like the rest of the men around the world except more forward. I was wondering if all of them use the same lines. I found that I heard the exact same thing from many different guys. When I was there I was just looking to have a good time and I found they provided it but now with my considerations of living there, I want to know what to watch out for. Where to stay away from and even what are the exciting things to do. So if anyone has any insight on this information, it would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Sarah]

I know you said "not all", but I can't resist the temtation to respond...poor, miserable, bad dressed, undeveloped, and uneducated is a pretty harsh description. The Dominicans I know and call "family" are real, down to earth, happy to be alive, hard working, loving, giving people. I suppose there are "bad eggs" no matter where you go. I just hate to see any group of people described in this manner.

 

[Barb]

WHATEVER! And, yes, that was all caps because I am shouting. I knew this guy for more than a week. And I spent countless hours talking on the telephone with him before I went to visit him at his request. I do not trust easily, but I have pretty good intuition. He seemed to be very honest and sincere. I had no way of knowing that everything he told me was a lie (except for a few things that were verifiable like his company name and his phone numbers and address).

I am more than aware that men cheat no matter what country they are from. However, I have never seen as many players in my entire life than I have in the four times I have been to the D.R. I never said ALL Dominican men are bad people. I just warned this woman to watch herself. In fact, once I recover from my traumatic trip, I don't doubt I will return to the beautiful country. I will just be very cautious and never leave the resort.

For the record, I was not talking about just getting played or cheated on. I am talking about rape and robbery. And, yes, I suppose I deserved it in some way as far as you are concerned.... But,maybe you should get all your facts straight before you go mouthing off to some poor woman who is guilty of nothing other than being dazzled by the lies of a beautiful man.

 

[Missy]

Hey Wendy, good to see that you are trying out my advice and getting all kinds of info from the nice people who check out these messages to. As you can see, the votes are in and we were correct, at least in part, of our view of Dominican casanovas. However, like others say, there are some that do take things a little more seriously, and it's up to us to weed out the true money grabbers. I think we'll be okay. Talk to you soon. And that's to all you guys that wrote in to give your advice. Our purpose was not to crusify the Dominican men, but to protect ourselves. Missy

 

[Dominican Guy]

Please acept my apoligies, I did not intent to be harsh. But in reality, that's how many turist think about poor Dominicans who roam turist areas, I know it's better to be politicly correct and say pretty things to make other feel happy, well sometimes we have to be a little crude and say things like they are to make a point.

 

[Sarah]

I'm not "saying pretty things..."

My personal experiences have been vastly different from anything I'm reading here. I hope that others can someday know the Dominican Republic the way I do. I would rather turists not think this way.

 

[Abe]

Hi, I am sorry that you have had such bad experiences with Dominican men, I think it most be the situtations in witch you have met this guys: around resort areas,(enter the known hanky panky) local guys who have their hair braided, dark, who like to show off, talk to "Americanas" to see if they get lucky.

Being an obvious turist gringa fresh off the boat. I am sure that if you meet other men in different situations, schooll, university, or other kinds of social situations you would have a different view of the Dominican men.

Best wishes.

 

[alfonzo]

the resorts area can not be consider the real dominican republic and those guys to be the real dominican men.

 

[Natasha]

Re: Dominican men (ah, the perennial thread)

Hi,

I usually don't participate on these kinds of threads. While your concern and question are extremely valid, I find that many people loose perspective at times when answering these questions. Even the very title "Dominican men" makes me cringe, but here is my take on it.

I would never, ever try to characterize a country and its people based on a holiday visit (or two or three for that matter) to a resort. I have been in this country (US) several years now and could possibly speak about America and its people based on my time here. I have also married an American which gives me a deeper understanding of this culture that was alien to me just a few years ago.

My point with all this, is that even with all this, living here for several years, marrying an American, ect., I cannot even begin to characterize this country and its people.

This past Thanksgiving, my husband and I, along with his parents, vacationed at a place called The Greenbrier, a resort in West Virginia. If I didn't know better, I would have characterized all Americans as "rich snobs". You step outside those white washed buildings, and you find many West Virginians in extreme poverty. Again, the point is that what goes on resorts is often NOT indicative of the rest of the country.

There is no denying that there are smooth talking men at these resorts. If this is any relief, at least the situation hasn't gotten as bad as in Peru, for example. A couple of months ago, I was watching a report on TV (it may have been Dateline or something like that) about some Peruvian men and tourist women in Machu Pichu. The Tv program stated that the target of tourist women is like an industry down there, with many men forming "groups" of sorts. They have even been given a name for this type of "target group", which in all honesty escapes me right now.

The DR is developing nation, which is relatively new to tourism. The tourism "boom" has been both positive and negative. With these resorts, you have a population of workers that is for the most part not very educated, and relatively poor. These are, for the most part, the have nots of the DR. And there are PLENTY of have nots in the DR. Many resort guys will hit on tourist women for many reasons, with many thinking that an American woman or any foreign woman for that matter, would be their ticket out of the country. Others just want plain money, and others just want to have a good time. I've been told that many men down there think foreign women are "easy". If someone posted that question: "Are all foreign women easy?", would that be a fair thing to do? I don't think so.

As a woman, the things you have to "watch out" for are the same in the DR as they are anywhere else. The only thing that you have to be careful about is the fact that yes, a man may target you in hopes to leave the country. This happens in many countries. Not all Dominican men share this mentality by the way. In a nutshell, there are bad, good, honest, dishonest, ugly, handsome, fat, slim, macho, and (fortunately) progressive men in the DR.

Regards, Natasha

 

[Joyce Jimenez]

Re: Dominican men (ah, the perennial thread)

thank you Natasha,

Your message was like a breath of fresh air.

have a nice day

Joyce Jimenez

 

[Yve]

Most men are players anywhere you go. Don't single out the Dominican's because you had a bad experience. How about American men who pray on elderly women for their money. It's all about having game and that's how they play you. Men here are all worried about how a woman looks. Dominican men will take you as you are.