Short Guy coming to DR

[jsm]

How important are Guy's look?

Hi everyone,
I found this forum a couple of months ago but this is my first post. I am a single guy in my thirties. I have been thinking about moving permanently or semi-permanently to DR. On this site, I read many stories about how dating is different in DR compare to US. I havent read much about how Dominican women view shorter guys. I am 5foot 7inches (170cm). I am a nice guy and I have alway treated women well. I am also athletic and health-consious.
The main reason, I want to move to DR is for less hectic lifestyle. Other things (ie women) would be bonus. By the way, I am of mixed ethnic background and I don't look white ( I look brown).
Financial-wise, I am not rich but I have done well all my life (I have never had any debt except student loans). I have a couple of ideas about a career in DR, but I will open a separate thread for that.
Thanks everyone in advance

 

[jalencastro]

this sounds a lot like my clone! LOL

 

[jrhartley]

most Dominicans are pretty short

 

[okgo]

I don't see your height being an issue in finding women. While I lived there, I knew women who were at least 5'8'' with boyfriends who were barely 5'3''. Also, as long as you're foreign, they'll date you.

Besides, 5'7'' isn't that short! Enjoy.

 

[Collingwood]

Short arms might be a problem

You have been on this forum for a few months so you should have the gist of what the women here like. If your arms are too short to reach into your pocket to get your cash out - well then they will not "like you" booo hooo. If you can however pull out the euros greenbacks or shekels then WOW you are Brad Pitt. They will love you long time. Short or tall fat or skinny - just have money and to them you are pretty.

 

[jsm]

I know that the thread that I started is silly (maybe Pathetic).
I grew up in Midwest. Grewing up, almost every guy was taller than me. Honestly, it did affect me with relationships and self-esteem in my teens and early 20s.
Now in my thirties, it does not bother me or affect me as much (The feelings are not totally gone yet, but getting better). Even though I didn't inherit good genes in terms of height, I did inherit good genes in terms of aging and health. Now, I have much better outlook on life compare to when I was (chronologically) younger.
At my age now, it seems that women are much more attracted to me compare to when I was youger. But most of them, have not taken good care of themselves (overweight, bad aging etcs.). So that's why, I want a better deal. I want women in their 30s/20s but ones who have taken good care of themselves like I have.
I am hoping, that in DR women will like me for who I am, not for my money.

 

[pedrochemical]

I know that the thread that I started is silly (maybe Pathetic).
I grew up in Midwest. Grewing up, almost every guy was taller than me. Honestly, it did affect me with relationships and self-esteem in my teens and early 20s.
Now in my thirties, it does not bother me or affect me as much (The feelings are not totally gone yet, but getting better). Even though I didn't inherit good genes in terms of height, I did inherit good genes in terms of aging and health. Now, I have much better outlook on life compare to when I was (chronologically) younger.
At my age now, it seems that women are much more attracted to me compare to when I was youger. But most of them, have not taken good care of themselves (overweight, bad aging etcs.). So that's why, I want a better deal. I want women in their 30s/20s but ones who have taken good care of themselves like I have.
I am hoping, that in DR women will like me for who I am, not for my money.

The best thing to do is bottle all those emotions up.
Do not share them with anybody.

Women here will like you for who you are - a foreigner with some cash.

Maybe whilst you were taking good care of your body you forgot to take good care of your mind.
Dr Phil is a wanker - listen to Dr Pedro - all his patients are in remission.

Read the sticky wicket thread immediately and do not be the next fool.

"Being a nice guy" and "not getting run over by the Dominican girls" are not mutually exclusive.

Good luck.

 

[El Rey de Mangu]

Hi everyone,
I found this forum a couple of months ago but this is my first post. I am a single guy in my thirties. I have been thinking about moving permanently or semi-permanently to DR. On this site, I read many stories about how dating is different in DR compare to US. I havent read much about how Dominican women view shorter guys. I am 5foot 7inches (170cm). I am a nice guy and I have alway treated women well. I am also athletic and health-consious.
The main reason, I want to move to DR is for less hectic lifestyle. Other things (ie women) would be bonus. By the way, I am of mixed ethnic background and I don't look white ( I look brown).
Financial-wise, I am not rich but I have done well all my life (I have never had any debt except student loans). I have a couple of ideas about a career in DR, but I will open a separate thread for that.
Thanks everyone in advance

I don't know if this ever crossed anyone's list, but here is the reality.

1. Assuming one is not seeking a Leon, Ortega, Brugal, etc., for which of this one basically has NO shot.

Than it holds true that:

2. You are left with a type of woman whom, more or less, will establish feelings for you based on the following criteria:

1) Ability to dance (salsa, merengue and bachata)
2) High standards of "intimate" performance
3) Your wallet
4) Papers

It follows, that 3 and 4, above, have the ability to override #s 1 and 2 respectively, but one can expect a complete lack of true love or emotion, fidelity, etc. This can be argued, however, since "passion" for money is a prevailing emotion.

That said, most middle to lower class Dominican women seem to be crazy for even the most ugly men if they can be compensated by #s 1 and 2 above.

Considering that 75% of Dominican men cheat (today's news, lol), that doesn't seem to be deterring the women.

In conclusion, one who can apply himself to #s 1 and 2 above at an advanced level, can Trump #s 3 and 4 - no questions asked!

 

[Collingwood]

Here Comes Another One!

I dont mean to be cynical........... pass the Tissues this has the makings of a Dr Phil and Oprah Special.

Mr Midwestern the girls here in the DR are wonderful. They will take care of you and make you forget all about being short and unloved. You have cash and they will make you feel erect and taller and loved. Thats all that counts.

 

[jalencastro]

forget Phil and Oprah!
it's DOCTOR PEDRO!

 

[Hillbilly]

Probably one of the more important issues is your shoe size...

If you want women, women will want you. However do not think ANY ofthem will love you for WHO you are. They will love your WHAT you are....

A few years down the line, with you own thing going,when you meet some poeple in society, meet and greet, then you might find a wonderful young lady.

FYI, I have young ladies in my classes at the university that are barely 5', and would knock you socks off, but they won't do the mambo until they really get to know you...

And 30+ and 18/19 here is more than doable...

HB

 

[frank recktenwald]

HB, don't get the boy too excited, he might hurt himself.

Probably one of the more important issues is your shoe size...

If you want women, women will want you. However do not think ANY ofthem will love you for WHO you are. They will love your WHAT you are....

A few years down the line, with you own thing going,when you meet some poeple in society, meet and greet, then you might find a wonderful young lady.

FYI, I have young ladies in my classes at the university that are barely 5', and would knock you socks off, but they won't do the mambo until they really get to know you...

And 30+ and 18/19 here is more than doable...

HB

 

[suarezn]

JSM you sound suspiciously like a cousin of my wife...even he initials match (very interesting)...anyhow I would doubt the guy I know has any interest in moving to The DR so is probably not Jason...Anyhow if you consider yourself short at 5' 7"" then you have some confidence issues, because to me that's not THAT short (remember most women are only about 5' 4"" or so. Either way I don't see this being an issue at all in The DR as long as you project yourself in a confident manner (which means never talking about this to a woman and acting like you're 7 feet tall).

A bigger problem could be getting taken advantage of...so read a lot of the Mars / Venus section here to get a good understanding of how things work and what to avoid. Once you get a hot looking woman don't think for a minute that's as good as it's going to get for you, because there are a lot more where she came from...

Mangu(lina) you hit the nail on the head BTW.

I'm going back to college with professor HB as soon as I retire...

 

[pedrochemical]

forget Phil and Oprah!
it's DOCTOR PEDRO!

Doctor Pedro - I like this.

Although Isn't the first part of the Hypocratic oath about not making things worse?

 

[jsm]

Some of you guys are harsh. Despite that I love this forum. Anyway, I got my question answered. Don't worry guys, I am not a fool. I re-read my post, and if I could post everything over, I would use different words and sentences. I wasn't able to express myself well in my posts. Thanks guys for your feedback even if it was harsh. Most likely, I will not be posting again. I liked it when I was just a lurker.

 

[jalencastro]

jsm, dont take it too hard, the people here do not mean you any harm. We just have to give it to you as real as it gets, and in the Dominican Republic you will see and or live some pretty crazy things. A lot of people here speak from years of experience and every day life on the island. like a lot of people said here, stop worrying about things, dont internalize anything, just enjoy what you are planning to do and keep your eyes open. This forum is a great tool for all newcomers and seasoned veterans!
lots of it does make for good reading, just dont take it the wrong way. Remember you are living your life, make the most of it and see if any advice from here can do you good, dont worry about if the posts are harsh...

 

[Black Dog]

The best thing to do is bottle all those emotions up.
Do not share them with anybody.

Women here will like you for who you are - a foreigner with some cash.

Maybe whilst you were taking good care of your body you forgot to take good care of your mind.
Dr Phil is a wanker - listen to Dr Pedro - all his patients are in remission.

Read the sticky wicket thread immediately and do not be the next fool.

"Being a nice guy" and "not getting run over by the Dominican girls" are not mutually exclusive.

Good luck.

Outstanding Pedro, made me laugh out loud on a friday afternoon and that's just how I like to finish my week! Thankyou so much!

 

[cobraboy]

The more money you bring, the taller the wimminzes will think you are...

 

[Lambada]

Some of you guys are harsh. Despite that I love this forum. Anyway, I got my question answered. Don't worry guys, I am not a fool. I re-read my post, and if I could post everything over, I would use different words and sentences. I wasn't able to express myself well in my posts. Thanks guys for your feedback even if it was harsh. Most likely, I will not be posting again. I liked it when I was just a lurker.

If you found the posts harsh, then with respect you are not yet quite ready for the DR. Bear in mind I have only just read this tonight & some posts mights have been deleted due to unsuitability/offensive language etc. But if what is left appears harsh to you, then work on yourself & your confidence level a bit more, before moving here. The reason is that if a few harsh posts can send you back to lurking, your nature is probably too placatory and if this is in evidence, you could become a target to be taken advantage of in real life in the DR. Your altitude is immaterial but if it is important to you, then you might let it become an issue. It won't be to anyone else.

 

[TOOBER_SDQ]

Shorty

Lambada, your advice is spot on !!!

To the OP, nicknames are very often given to people here based on physical attributes, like Fatty, Darkie, Shorty etc ? and by culture, are not meant to be offensive, nor taken as offensive.

If you think a nickname like Shorty will deplete your confidence and send you into an emotional tizzy, take Lambada?s advice and wait a bit.

My nicknames here usually include a combination of Fatty and Shorty, and I?m not phased by it one bit. I find it funny.