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Single Dominican Men And Matrimony
Why would it be different for dominicans or any other man? People all over the world are looking for similar things in a mate. I doubt that my dominican friends would agree to anything-they are not homogeneous in their thought patterns just because they are from the same place.
Why can't we just answer her question?
How do I put this? Obviously it's different for every man. Even for me (now 40) it's different than it was when I was 20 (then I would be satisfied simply with a great looking woman).
Perhaps a 5 star based system would help my explanation
5 stars = would marry this very minute
1 star = Yeah I'll marry you... but I didn't say when (drag it out for 5 years then next)
5 star
Beautiful face/bod, smart, well educated, clean, some junk in the trunk and up front (and her mother's not fat and ugly), great personality, smart, energenic, head over heals in love with me and dedicated to me, $ loaded, physically fit and loves sports, gives me space, can cook a mean Dominican meal (yes I'm helpful), can dance fabulously, no relationship baggage and has "not been around the block too often" and hard working.
Those are the building blocks that would cause me to drop everything and take the plunge.
1 star
Good looking with some junk in the trunk and smart
You can extrapolate from these what a 2, 3, and 4 star candidate would be.
Hope this helps.
yvette said:
How do I put this? Obviously it's different for every man. Even for me (now 40) it's different than it was when I was 20 (then I would be satisfied simply with a great looking woman).
Perhaps a 5 star based system would help my explanation
5 stars = would marry this very minute
1 star = Yeah I'll marry you... but I didn't say when (drag it out for 5 years then next)
5 star
Beautiful face/bod, smart, well educated, clean, some junk in the trunk and up front (and her mother's not fat and ugly), great personality, smart, energenic, head over heals in love with me and dedicated to me, $ loaded, physically fit and loves sports, gives me space, can cook a mean Dominican meal (yes I'm helpful), can dance fabulously, no relationship baggage and has "not been around the block too often" and hard working.
Those are the building blocks that would cause me to drop everything and take the plunge.
1 star
Good looking with some junk in the trunk and smart
You can extrapolate from these what a 2, 3, and 4 star candidate would be.
Hope this helps.
Does someone ever find a 5 star like that? Keep in mind that what is 5 star for you may not be 5 star for someone else.DRPAWA said:
DRPAWA said:
Your answers are helpful because they were honest, and when you do marry I hope she's all you desire and you're all she desires, I do believe though that what keeps you together for life will grow from something deeper than what got you together.
Thanks, Yvette
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My contribution to this topic...
We're talking about marriage worthy women here so I'm gonna stick to that standard in this my description of my ideal partner.
Take into account that I'm 21 years old, but that I'd like to get married before I'm 25 and that I believe in marriage and that whom to marry is one of the 3 most important decisions one has to take in his life course.
I'm replying to this thread although not believing that one can make generalizations about what we Dominican men want in a woman. Each person is unique and the partners characters must be suitable with each other. Nonetheless, it's true that it's common that we see a virtuous person -be it a woman or a man- and we say that person would be a great husband/wife, but -and I have to acknowledge the OP for refreshing us this notion- one has to try to be the person that the other half yearns for.
Of course all men would like to have a woman that has the good looks -that doesn't hurt anyone-, is there for one when one needs it, a woman who listens, who doesn't lie to you... things like that, I think we all agree on that to a lesser or greater extent.
Now to me. I want to marry a woman with strong values, who loves God more than me, who really likes children -supposing that will be an indicator of her taking good care of our children-, a person that understands you and that is humble and can recognise when she's failed. She must have a good sense of humor, but I wouldn't like her to be prosaic. She must be feminine -I dislike it when women try to play the "pana" too much-. I'm a very insecure person, so I'd like to marry someone who can help me in that area. I believe my partner has to complement me in my weaknesses -that doesn't mean necessarily that we have to be completely different, like if all her weaknesses were my strengths and vice versa-. I believe that it's more important that we share the same values that that our personalities are very similar.
There are more things to my future wife than this, but I hope you understand what I was trying to convey. Just because I'm Dominican that doesn't mean I want a woman who has money, gives me sex 24/7, knows how to cook, etc. (like if she was an object) Not all Dominican men are the typical Dominican man. Marriage is a serious thing and it requires sacrifices from both parties but I'm confident that its rewards are more than worth the sacrifice.
We're talking about marriage worthy women here so I'm gonna stick to that standard in this my description of my ideal partner.
Take into account that I'm 21 years old, but that I'd like to get married before I'm 25 and that I believe in marriage and that whom to marry is one of the 3 most important decisions one has to take in his life course.
I'm replying to this thread although not believing that one can make generalizations about what we Dominican men want in a woman. Each person is unique and the partners characters must be suitable with each other. Nonetheless, it's true that it's common that we see a virtuous person -be it a woman or a man- and we say that person would be a great husband/wife, but -and I have to acknowledge the OP for refreshing us this notion- one has to try to be the person that the other half yearns for.
Of course all men would like to have a woman that has the good looks -that doesn't hurt anyone-, is there for one when one needs it, a woman who listens, who doesn't lie to you... things like that, I think we all agree on that to a lesser or greater extent.
Now to me. I want to marry a woman with strong values, who loves God more than me, who really likes children -supposing that will be an indicator of her taking good care of our children-, a person that understands you and that is humble and can recognise when she's failed. She must have a good sense of humor, but I wouldn't like her to be prosaic. She must be feminine -I dislike it when women try to play the "pana" too much-. I'm a very insecure person, so I'd like to marry someone who can help me in that area. I believe my partner has to complement me in my weaknesses -that doesn't mean necessarily that we have to be completely different, like if all her weaknesses were my strengths and vice versa-. I believe that it's more important that we share the same values that that our personalities are very similar.
There are more things to my future wife than this, but I hope you understand what I was trying to convey. Just because I'm Dominican that doesn't mean I want a woman who has money, gives me sex 24/7, knows how to cook, etc. (like if she was an object) Not all Dominican men are the typical Dominican man. Marriage is a serious thing and it requires sacrifices from both parties but I'm confident that its rewards are more than worth the sacrifice.
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Sankies, oops, :nervous: I mean Dominican Men want their future wives to be very reserved and family oriented.yvette said:
Keep the question in mind...
Which was:
"what characteristics in a woman would push you over the top to put away your bachelorhood and take the plunge into matrimony?"
Note that my message implied that I would marry a woman who fell under the made up 5 star to 2 star category. How willing would I be to do so depends on where she was on this category system.
Glad to hear this helped Yvette and I do agree with you totally when you say that "...what keeps you together for life will grow from something deeper than what got you together." However, your question did not ask nor imply that we would have to be together for life! To me that would be great, but frankly a 10 or 20 year marriage would be better than to be married and miserable.
Mr. Mike, I'm glad that you know what qualities you'd like in a wife. However, ugliness just does not work for me - maybe it's because there's something ugly about it. She has to be at least somewhat good looking - no not in dim light!
Which was:
"what characteristics in a woman would push you over the top to put away your bachelorhood and take the plunge into matrimony?"
Note that my message implied that I would marry a woman who fell under the made up 5 star to 2 star category. How willing would I be to do so depends on where she was on this category system.
Glad to hear this helped Yvette and I do agree with you totally when you say that "...what keeps you together for life will grow from something deeper than what got you together." However, your question did not ask nor imply that we would have to be together for life! To me that would be great, but frankly a 10 or 20 year marriage would be better than to be married and miserable.
Mr. Mike, I'm glad that you know what qualities you'd like in a wife. However, ugliness just does not work for me - maybe it's because there's something ugly about it. She has to be at least somewhat good looking - no not in dim light!
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Ugliness doesn't work for me either. However, I'm not an Adonis so I'm not in the position to demand the supermamazota (well yeah, I know: as a general rule women don't fix their eyes solely on the appearance, at least most women say so).
Physical attration to the woman one's going to spend his whole life with is a most, but beauty will fade away gradually.
Physical attration to the woman one's going to spend his whole life with is a most, but beauty will fade away gradually.
Oops, sorry I called you Mr.Mike in my last post.
"beauty will fade away gradually"
Mr. Mark, not necessarily true. If she looks like mom, then the mom's looks may be a good predictor of what she'll look like later in life. Also, if smart, well educated, and likes sports she'll know how to eat well and healthy - which all contribute to how you look.
Also, have you seen a pictures of 65 year old Raquel Welch lately?
http://www.imdb.com/gallery/granitz..._400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Welch, Raquel
"beauty will fade away gradually"
Mr. Mark, not necessarily true. If she looks like mom, then the mom's looks may be a good predictor of what she'll look like later in life. Also, if smart, well educated, and likes sports she'll know how to eat well and healthy - which all contribute to how you look.
Also, have you seen a pictures of 65 year old Raquel Welch lately?
http://www.imdb.com/gallery/granitz..._400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Welch, Raquel
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Mr.Mark
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Woa, that Raquel Welch!
That woman is the personification of wine. Have you also seen Sofia Loren? That's what I call a hot woman.
However, they're not marriage material. At least, that's what one has to think based on their divorces. Maybe they didn't make good decisions with their husbands.
I maintain my statement that beauty will fade away over time. Some people are more resistant to the effects of aging but we all get to an age in which beauty is in a downward trend!
That woman is the personification of wine. Have you also seen Sofia Loren? That's what I call a hot woman.
However, they're not marriage material. At least, that's what one has to think based on their divorces. Maybe they didn't make good decisions with their husbands.
I maintain my statement that beauty will fade away over time. Some people are more resistant to the effects of aging but we all get to an age in which beauty is in a downward trend!
Well.... it also depends....
on what kind of dominican men you are talking about.
All men, dominican or not, want some basics on the future mother of our children.
- Good looking
- Great body
- Lady on the street, "tigre" on the sack.
- Family oriented
- great cook, etc, etc ,etc.
But being realistic, it depends on what type of women, we as men, can get right now. We can all aim for the stars, but only a few of us can reach the moon. Some of us will settle for less just because we cannot do any better.
But most important of all, regardless of whatever lists we have on our heads, or whatever the phsycologists say about getting our mothers characteristics proyected onto our future wives, I believe that once we fall in love, it will hit us like a ton of bricks and the hunt will be over..... at least for a while
Wag
on what kind of dominican men you are talking about.
All men, dominican or not, want some basics on the future mother of our children.
- Good looking
- Great body
- Lady on the street, "tigre" on the sack.
- Family oriented
- great cook, etc, etc ,etc.
But being realistic, it depends on what type of women, we as men, can get right now. We can all aim for the stars, but only a few of us can reach the moon. Some of us will settle for less just because we cannot do any better.
But most important of all, regardless of whatever lists we have on our heads, or whatever the phsycologists say about getting our mothers characteristics proyected onto our future wives, I believe that once we fall in love, it will hit us like a ton of bricks and the hunt will be over..... at least for a while
Wag
Mr.Mark said:
Mr. Mark, though you may be young, I'm impressed that your description of your ideal mate is not all superficial. You have thought about the more lasting qualities that a lifttime marriage partner should have. Keep commenting, I'm still listening!
Yvette