One of the main differences I find between the US and the DR is the whole attitude towards what's considered cheating in either country. It seems like in the US just thinking about another woman/man if you're married or are in a committed relationship is considered cheating and you should feel guilty about it. In The DR, on the other hand it seems that having a woman or two on the side is almost expected and not frowned upon very much. Now this only applies to guys, as women are expected to be faithful...I know...male dominated society. Anyhow, my questions to you guys is in you view what constitute cheating? Do you act differently in you are in the US/Canada/wherever Vs. The DR? How far would you go before you start feeling guilt? Or do you ever feel guilt?
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guilt??????????????????????????????????????
"What Guilt?"
In a country where men make the rules we don't need to "CHEAT"!CC
"What Guilt?"
In a country where men make the rules we don't need to "CHEAT"!CC
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You only feel guilty the first time then it becomes a routine. Sort of a way of life, you simply don't think about it. If she doesn't know, she doesn't get hurt.
The only time I would feel guilty is if I were to give her a serious STD (sexual disease) then again, I can always belame it on her. Chances are she is also cheating on me.
The only time I would feel guilty is if I were to give her a serious STD (sexual disease) then again, I can always belame it on her. Chances are she is also cheating on me.
What a stupid thread. Suarzen, "What constitutes cheating?" . You know how each individual poster on here would answer that question anyway. How bored are you?
Larry
By the way it seems to me that in the Dominican dictionary the word "cheating" should be followed in parenthesis by the word "living". Not just regarding sex but in general. The riding way of thinking seems to be " if he is dumb enough to let me get over on him then its his fault for being a victum and not mine for being the culprit"
Larry
Larry
By the way it seems to me that in the Dominican dictionary the word "cheating" should be followed in parenthesis by the word "living". Not just regarding sex but in general. The riding way of thinking seems to be " if he is dumb enough to let me get over on him then its his fault for being a victum and not mine for being the culprit"
Larry
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Ok Larry...So are you saying that NOTHING is ever considered cheating in the DR? I don't think that's true. I think I know how a lot of Dominicans would answer that, but I certainly have no idea how non-dominicans would. How about Non-dominicans who have lived in the DR? Have they changed their views once they lived there? How about Dominicans who now don't live in the DR? Has living in a differenct country changed their view on this issue?
Larry has THE POINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
They "CHEAT" in everything they do! Sammy Sosa's bat,the 14 year old "12 Year Old" little leaguer,Balaguers "Elections",why be any different in your sex life.Half the women I have sex with are married!CC
They "CHEAT" in everything they do! Sammy Sosa's bat,the 14 year old "12 Year Old" little leaguer,Balaguers "Elections",why be any different in your sex life.Half the women I have sex with are married!CC
It would be interesting to know if Dominican men change if they are living elsewhere.
So criss, I take it by what you say that Dominican women cheat as well as long as it's kept quiet?
Wanted to add I want hear from the men if they changed after leaving the DR not from women saying " my husband never cheats" lol
Thanks
So criss, I take it by what you say that Dominican women cheat as well as long as it's kept quiet?
Wanted to add I want hear from the men if they changed after leaving the DR not from women saying " my husband never cheats" lol
Thanks
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You bet they do!!!!!!
They actually come up to me and ask me to take them out here where I work.Not a lot,but some.I never do!To much outside to look for problems where I work! Dominican men cheat because their wives let them get away with it.They would do the same everywhere.I know I cheated on girlfriends,wives,no matter what country I lived in.If you are a dirtbag,it doesn't matter where you live!CC
They actually come up to me and ask me to take them out here where I work.Not a lot,but some.I never do!To much outside to look for problems where I work! Dominican men cheat because their wives let them get away with it.They would do the same everywhere.I know I cheated on girlfriends,wives,no matter what country I lived in.If you are a dirtbag,it doesn't matter where you live!CC
Forbeca you're a Dominican women maybe you can tell us your views on it.
Where's Indie? I'd like to hear from her as well and Pib if she's around. Or any other Dominican women on the board. Amber step up here. I'm tired of hearing the same thing from the same people.
Sorry guys you know I love you all but.
Where's Indie? I'd like to hear from her as well and Pib if she's around. Or any other Dominican women on the board. Amber step up here. I'm tired of hearing the same thing from the same people.
Sorry guys you know I love you all but.
People Cheat if they can get away with it!
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I do not care if you are Black, Puerto Rican, Hatian, Purple, Green, Male, Female, Hermaphrodite, Transexual... whatever the hell you are.... if you can cheat and get away with it you will.
You may try... get some divorced papers slapped in your face... and if you really loved her... you may never cheat again.
However.... you may try and never get caught... then typically you keep going until you get caught.
Also... you may try... get caught.... consequences are not shit.... and you do it again.
How do you constitute cheating??? If your partner is gonna be pissed - it is cheating!!! End of Discussion!
PERIOD - POINT BLANK - END OF DISCUSSION
I do not care if you are Black, Puerto Rican, Hatian, Purple, Green, Male, Female, Hermaphrodite, Transexual... whatever the hell you are.... if you can cheat and get away with it you will.
You may try... get some divorced papers slapped in your face... and if you really loved her... you may never cheat again.
However.... you may try and never get caught... then typically you keep going until you get caught.
Also... you may try... get caught.... consequences are not shit.... and you do it again.
How do you constitute cheating??? If your partner is gonna be pissed - it is cheating!!! End of Discussion!
I agree, with people will cheat if they can get away with it! Why not?!?! Then you can have the best of both worlds.
I work on a ship, with individuals from more than 50 countries from around the world. Many of the men (sometimes women), are married have girlfriends at home, but are in serious relationships are just messing around on the ship because there "significant others" have no idea because it's 2 worlds. They can get away with it, and enjoy it! Distance is also of course a factor and loneliness.
But cheating happens in every culture, whether Dominican, Phillipino, Jamaican, Canadian, Costa Rican, American, Romanian, it doesn't matter.
If you can get away with it, it will happen.
I work on a ship, with individuals from more than 50 countries from around the world. Many of the men (sometimes women), are married have girlfriends at home, but are in serious relationships are just messing around on the ship because there "significant others" have no idea because it's 2 worlds. They can get away with it, and enjoy it! Distance is also of course a factor and loneliness.
But cheating happens in every culture, whether Dominican, Phillipino, Jamaican, Canadian, Costa Rican, American, Romanian, it doesn't matter.
If you can get away with it, it will happen.
OK People...My question was not about whether Dominicans or any other nationality cheats. Of course they do. We all know that...The question is how far do you go before it is considered cheating. If you had a one night stand in the DR...Is that cheating? If you kissed a girl/guy just once...Nothing else happens...is that cheating? What is cheating in your country Vs. The DR? To the women I ask...Would you feel different if your husband had a fling with someone in another country Vs. someone in your own country?
Anna: I can say my attitude has changed since moving from the DR to the US. Not just in regards to this, but in other aspects too. For instance before I came to the US I had no qualms about throwing my trash anywhere as long as it wasn't inside my house. Now I would feel really bad to do something like that. In regards to cheating I would probably feel bad if I did it to my wife here in the US, but not as bad if I had a fling in the DR, as long as it wasn't serious. BTW, my wife is American. I would never even put myself in the position to be tempted here in the US, but again whenever I'm in the DR I seem to feel different. It's hard to explain....It's like it's OK as long as you're far enough. The other thing is that if I go out with a girl in the DR I don't feel the guilt that I'm supposed to feel afterwards. Not sure if I make sense...
Anna: I can say my attitude has changed since moving from the DR to the US. Not just in regards to this, but in other aspects too. For instance before I came to the US I had no qualms about throwing my trash anywhere as long as it wasn't inside my house. Now I would feel really bad to do something like that. In regards to cheating I would probably feel bad if I did it to my wife here in the US, but not as bad if I had a fling in the DR, as long as it wasn't serious. BTW, my wife is American. I would never even put myself in the position to be tempted here in the US, but again whenever I'm in the DR I seem to feel different. It's hard to explain....It's like it's OK as long as you're far enough. The other thing is that if I go out with a girl in the DR I don't feel the guilt that I'm supposed to feel afterwards. Not sure if I make sense...
I guess my attitude has changed as I got older. If we stay away from the moral or religious issue I would say that if I was still married and my husband went on a trip, let's say to the DR and had sex with someone and at the back of my head I know it's only sex and he isn't going to get attached or fall in love with that person, then I could look away especially if you're in a loving relationship and don't want to destroy a marriage because of a fling every now and then. Sex is sex. Love is another thing
BUT if my imaginary husband would be having an on going affair with someone at home and spent time, money and attention to that one person I think this would be where I would have a problem with it.
I guess it depends how you grew up and what you grew up around (maybe).
My parents went everywhere together even to get lotto tickets.
My Dad die first and my Mom died 14 months later on his birthday. But hey that's another story.
Me? I'm true blue when I fall in love even if I'm not married to the guy. I was married 20 years and it didn't even cross my mind to cheat. How boring is that? Damn!!
BUT if my imaginary husband would be having an on going affair with someone at home and spent time, money and attention to that one person I think this would be where I would have a problem with it.
I guess it depends how you grew up and what you grew up around (maybe).
My parents went everywhere together even to get lotto tickets.
My Dad die first and my Mom died 14 months later on his birthday. But hey that's another story.
Me? I'm true blue when I fall in love even if I'm not married to the guy. I was married 20 years and it didn't even cross my mind to cheat. How boring is that? Damn!!
My opinion
if anyone is interested- any type of sexual act constitutues cheating. Doesn't matter if it's on vacation, with a co-worker or hooker. Just thinking about screwing some great looking girl at the bar/beach/hotel/work? That ain't s##t. But to each his own, I really don't care what anyone else does- it's THEIR life not mine. Hey!! Instead of a next DR1 reunion, how 'bout a DR1 "open sex night?' ALL MEMBERS ENCOURAGED TO ATTEND! Wouldn't participate (but maybe I'd watch). LOL Crisssss- this of course would be your baby.....
if anyone is interested- any type of sexual act constitutues cheating. Doesn't matter if it's on vacation, with a co-worker or hooker. Just thinking about screwing some great looking girl at the bar/beach/hotel/work? That ain't s##t. But to each his own, I really don't care what anyone else does- it's THEIR life not mine. Hey!! Instead of a next DR1 reunion, how 'bout a DR1 "open sex night?' ALL MEMBERS ENCOURAGED TO ATTEND! Wouldn't participate (but maybe I'd watch). LOL Crisssss- this of course would be your baby.....
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