What do Dominican men expect from their girlfriends in terms of views and behavior? Do they like traditional approach - woman at home, no opinion or initiative? Would they like a woman who has her own life and career? Would they get together with a girlfriend after a break up if she wanted to and changed her behavior to adjust to him even if the break up was difficult and painful for both where both dated other people although hated each other for doing it?
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What dominican men expect from thier girlfriends
First of all, as already said, every relationship is different, and no one on here can tell you what every Dominican man expects.. most are pretty traditional with strong family values and have a very different way of looking at things than men in N.America... it's a very different culture than what I am sure you are used to. Sorry, but I am making an assumption that you are from N.America? (I apologize if you are not). :bunny:
From my own experience, and my countless discussions on the topic with Dominican men... I would have to say, MOST Dominican men, it seems, do NOT like to have anything to do with ex girlfriends. They are very "territorial", if I may use that word--they wouldn't want to see their FRIENDS or any other man for that matter with that girl.. but they don't care to be friends with her. Now, if he is a sanky (hate to bring that up) then even more so... he would just let it go and move on to the next one. I can't tell you how many guys I know that have said, "oh no, over here, when we break up, that is it... we cannot be friends!" .. who knows... this is just what I have learned over the years.
Btw, if he is angry now and you are worried, perhaps you are better off leaving him alone and cutting your loses... if you are afraid and can't even talk to him, then that is no kind of relationship that you want any part of... you wouldn't want that escalating into some form of abuse...
From my own experience, and my countless discussions on the topic with Dominican men... I would have to say, MOST Dominican men, it seems, do NOT like to have anything to do with ex girlfriends. They are very "territorial", if I may use that word--they wouldn't want to see their FRIENDS or any other man for that matter with that girl.. but they don't care to be friends with her. Now, if he is a sanky (hate to bring that up) then even more so... he would just let it go and move on to the next one. I can't tell you how many guys I know that have said, "oh no, over here, when we break up, that is it... we cannot be friends!" .. who knows... this is just what I have learned over the years.
Btw, if he is angry now and you are worried, perhaps you are better off leaving him alone and cutting your loses... if you are afraid and can't even talk to him, then that is no kind of relationship that you want any part of... you wouldn't want that escalating into some form of abuse...
Everyone is different but at the same time we all have something in common
i am not dominican but I have spoken with them regarding this, and not only dominican, and what I found out was that they expect from their girlfriends the same what I do.
if there was a brake up and after that we dated different people i do not think i would get back what sense??? Also it depends on what you mean by dating whether you had sex or not
i am not dominican but I have spoken with them regarding this, and not only dominican, and what I found out was that they expect from their girlfriends the same what I do.
if there was a brake up and after that we dated different people i do not think i would get back what sense??? Also it depends on what you mean by dating whether you had sex or not
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If you cannot express you opinion now, what make you think if you get back together you will? People do not change. worst if they do not recognize that they have a problem. I up to you if you want to be controlled by him. For how many years? Is this being happy?
It is not only Dominican men. I am a caseworker in the Bronx and we also deal with some cases of domestic violence. My latest case is a Nigerian family.
It is not only Dominican men. I am a caseworker in the Bronx and we also deal with some cases of domestic violence. My latest case is a Nigerian family.
Very sad!
First of all, let me talk to you not as a Dominican but as a man.
The moment SOME guys see that a woman is changing her life to accomodate ours and if the guy is an axx-hole, he WILL take you for granted, he WILL think less of you and he will put in his heads that he can mop the floor with you.
Look at it this way: you accomodate him, he WILL control you. Trust me.
It seems that you are a little afraid of this guy and his anger(temper) so why waste your time since it will probably get worse.
I have said the following a whole bunch of times here and now I will tell it to you, just keep in mind that I formed this opinion from episodes that I have seen with my own eyes:
MOST Dominican males that I know (NOTE: I), DO feel that even after they split with someone, that they still have some type of "rights" with that person.
I have seen ex-husbands, after being divorced for a number of years, still go to the ex-wife's home and still try to order her around. SOME even threaten them telling them "if you marry or I see you with someone, I will kill you, you will always be mine".
I have seen ex-boyfriends make sure to show up at an ex-girlfriend's house just to see if she is dating someone else. If she is, he would start problems with her and the new guy.
And what's worse is that even if you are not together, not only do they think that they still own you, but they also expect you to be available for them when they want sex. NOT ALL.
Let me ask you something:
Since he has some anger and you can't talk to him(and that tells me tht you are a little afraid of him), what will happen when he slaps you around?. Are you going to accomodate that too?.
If the answer is "NO", then there goes the answer to all your questions. Therefore, cut your loses and don't look back.
Good luck. You will need it if you decide to give him another try.
Btw, there are a whole bunch of guys, out there, that will accept you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, without you having to change one ounce. You just need to look for them in the right places.
WALK AWAY. BETTER YET, RUNNNNNNN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!.Avrora said:
First of all, let me talk to you not as a Dominican but as a man.
The moment SOME guys see that a woman is changing her life to accomodate ours and if the guy is an axx-hole, he WILL take you for granted, he WILL think less of you and he will put in his heads that he can mop the floor with you.
Look at it this way: you accomodate him, he WILL control you. Trust me.
It seems that you are a little afraid of this guy and his anger(temper) so why waste your time since it will probably get worse.
I have said the following a whole bunch of times here and now I will tell it to you, just keep in mind that I formed this opinion from episodes that I have seen with my own eyes:
MOST Dominican males that I know (NOTE: I), DO feel that even after they split with someone, that they still have some type of "rights" with that person.
I have seen ex-husbands, after being divorced for a number of years, still go to the ex-wife's home and still try to order her around. SOME even threaten them telling them "if you marry or I see you with someone, I will kill you, you will always be mine".
I have seen ex-boyfriends make sure to show up at an ex-girlfriend's house just to see if she is dating someone else. If she is, he would start problems with her and the new guy.
And what's worse is that even if you are not together, not only do they think that they still own you, but they also expect you to be available for them when they want sex. NOT ALL.
Let me ask you something:
Since he has some anger and you can't talk to him(and that tells me tht you are a little afraid of him), what will happen when he slaps you around?. Are you going to accomodate that too?.
If the answer is "NO", then there goes the answer to all your questions. Therefore, cut your loses and don't look back.
Good luck. You will need it if you decide to give him another try.
Btw, there are a whole bunch of guys, out there, that will accept you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, without you having to change one ounce. You just need to look for them in the right places.
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Miguel,
The reason for all this is just jelousy. Some men just cannot stand that the woman he had as a girlfriend now have sex with another guy. Most of these men have very low self estimate you will never tell if you see them they may seem very confident and completly satisfied with themselves but this is not tru. Deep in side they feel unsatisfied with that who they are this is the reason.
The other thing for women to know: if your your man hit you once and you will forgive he will hit you again. the men who beet their women do not love them even more they do not respect them so I am agreed with Miguel that you should RUN ASAP from them.
The reason for all this is just jelousy. Some men just cannot stand that the woman he had as a girlfriend now have sex with another guy. Most of these men have very low self estimate you will never tell if you see them they may seem very confident and completly satisfied with themselves but this is not tru. Deep in side they feel unsatisfied with that who they are this is the reason.
The other thing for women to know: if your your man hit you once and you will forgive he will hit you again. the men who beet their women do not love them even more they do not respect them so I am agreed with Miguel that you should RUN ASAP from them.
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How much do you know about real 'machismo'?
Well, if not sufficient yet, go to a chicken run and take a second rooster (cock :cheeky: ) there.
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Avrora said:
How much do you know about real 'machismo'?
Well, if not sufficient yet, go to a chicken run and take a second rooster (cock :cheeky: ) there.
m'frog